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I loved the dialogues yesterday by Sita. The difference of bandhan and maryada. Often we hear the words " apni maryada mein raho". But this maryada that is spoken are we talking about the principles based on nature's law or the limits sets by the tradition.
In most cases to impose the limitations of traditions the word maryada is used. But what tradition imposes is not maryada it is bandhan. It put the shackles in you.
And have you seen though Prakriti treats everyone equal, sanskriti has hypocrisy with respect to this so called maryada. Maryada is always spoken to the person who follows the right path or atleast who tries to follow the right path, not to the one who breaks it.
Human right activists cry for mercy for the perpetuator of the crime, they don't shed a tear for the innocent victim. When bomb blasts happen innocents lose life and terrorists do it willfully and they have to be punished. But then there are people who think they are some saints who needs to be pardoned.
I am talking about the extreme case here. But even if you see irrespective of man or woman the bandhan which is manufactured as maryada is kept on right people only with society always loving the one breaking rules. Pampering " woh bacha hai, boys are like that, she is mother, he is father you name it, everything is used to justify adharma.
We women feel bandhan more because it is physical in nature for us. We are asked not to step out after sunset. Because we are woman we are supposed to behave like this, dress like that etc..But we need to understand that men also have bandhan which are more emotional in nature.
A man cannot cry, he cannot show emotion, he has to carry forward his family's legacy whether he has talent in it or not, his wife has to be secondary and his family has to be the first. Any emotion, any feeling expressed openly towards wife tag him as " Joru Ka Ghulam". Good men carry a lot of emotional burden in the name of maryada.
If we want to break the cycle of adharma winning, and dharma taking back seat the only way is to understand the real maryada that is laws of nature. Break the bandhan or the limits laws set by traditions that show hypocrisy but observe the limits of the nature.
Adharma survives because you are in the illusion that bandhan is maryada. It is not. You can use below the belt for sef defense if attack is below the belt. It is approved by Lord as he himself did it for Dharma's protection both in Ramayana and in MB.
And it is proven mathematically. Negative* Negative is only positive. Negative * Positive is Negative only.
If you use straight defense for a below the belt attack adharma only will win. This is the knowledge we should have.
Many people in their need to break bandhan, break maryada also. You go on a destruction mode in such a way that self destruction happens. People using drugs, alchohol, ending in relationships with multiple partners all this are ways to break bandhan, but then these ways break maryada also.
So understand the difference between bandhan and maryada. Understand why the bandhan exists. For e.g marriage. It is a bandhan. But it is for the safe and secure upbringing of kids in a loving environment, it is to ensure a person is not alone but will always have someone to love and support them.
Once you understand the bandhans the sanskriti has set with its meanings you will know when the meaning is lost and only bandhan exists. And when you break such bandhans observe the maryada.
You have to understand both Prakriti and Sanskriti to effective break bandhan without breaking maryada.
And that's what Krishna helps Arjuna in doing in the war. He breaks Arjun's bandhan's, but keeps him within the maryada. That walking towards the pyre on day 14 is the check Krishna keeps on Arjun so that he doesn't break the maryada in his anger. if he wins his ego will rule. That failure teaches him that he alone cannot do anything. Once when his ego is killed Krishna removes the illusion and grants Arjun the victory and his ever loving grace.
Anupamaa
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