I would say this was the most profound line today given in blessing to Ram by Vishwamitra. A marriage that will be based on the dharm and karma ie actions in the right direction. It will also show the path of duty and that of love.
Actually it is a message to every youngster who is going to set in their new life with the partner. Many youngsters believe that if they love, love is enough to sustain marriage. But what they dont understand is the meaning of love. Love doesnt mean spend all your time with each other, talk with each other and be possessive about each other.
Love has a broader meaning. It is the understanding of one's responsibilities and duties towards family, towards society. With the rules of society, you as a couple are going to start a new journey. A journey where the actions has to happen in the right direction. A journey where conflicts of relations happen and you have to understand what choice to make. You have to take care of conflicting duties and complete them. You need to know when conflicts come they need to resolved and you need all the love and patience in the world to move forward.
When a man and woman get married basic unit of a family is formed. And each individual brings to the relation some perspectives. Good has to be taken from both perspectives, bad discarded and in the mix of things a new path has to emerge. That is the duty of a married couple towards the society. Remove bad things, usher in good things.
But sadly in our society when a girl gets married she is stripped of her identity. Good or bad she has to follow whatever is at the boy's side. Whether she believes in it or not doesnt matter. And that's the reason our society is still stuck.
Because marriage is the biggest movement one culture to another. The bride brings with her wealth of knowledge from her maayka. She usher in changes in the family she goes. If she is well mannered with good values the family she goes also gets the benefit of her knowledge. Infact it is by transforming her husband's family positively a woman uphold her parents sanskaar.
But our society expects a woman to be a doormat to uphold parents sanskaar. If she speaks her POV didnt your parents teach you how to behave. Look at her. How can she wear those dresses after marriage. People will be waiting to nit pick a new DILs problems than try to see what is good in her.
It is exactly this attitude that has led to extremity on the other side where girls are not trusting their in laws and would exactly do as their parents say. Good or bad. Independance means not listening to in laws.
If only we knew the message and allow the mix of cultures than do power games, marriage will have its meaning back in the society.
Edited by shruthiravi - 9 years ago