Why Ruhaan and why not Veer? - Page 3

Originally posted by: TandraB

Not a question of being perfect. But this is a question of unethical behaviour. Cheating a friend is unethical and disgusting what Ruhaan did. Never once tried to control his feelings, never bothered about his best friend.

This kind of guy is not just flawed, he's downright distasteful and a disgrace.

@ bold.. How does that even matter even if he really is all that as per societal norms.. If Mishti felt connected to him and fallen in love for him and has choosen to stay with him and grow old with him then that's all it should matter. Mishti and Ruhaan are not being justified for everything they done not even they themselves are justifying.

Originally posted by: TandraB

Not a question of being perfect. But this is a question of unethical behaviour. Cheating a friend is unethical and disgusting what Ruhaan did. Never once tried to control his feelings, never bothered about his best friend.

This kind of guy is not just flawed, he's downright distasteful and a disgrace.

Well everyone is entitled to their own opinions, for u Ruhaan developing feelings for Mishti and not leaving her place matters and for others him not trying to approach Mishti and doing anything to sour MishVeer relationship matters.

Developing feelings is not a sin but the aftermath describes the person, whether he acts on those feelings or not. Yeah he didn't leave her place which he should have done but that doesn't mean he was cheating Veer. He was not ashamed of his feelings and that's it!

Bold. What has he done to be called disgraceful or distasteful?

For me the answer is i would rather have a how guy who altough i am being very unreasonable still stands by me and want to know the reason, i would rather choose a guy who will provide me new insight into things still respecting mine, i would rather choose a guy who trusted me that i am capable enough to take a right desicion even though his whole life will be affected by it, i would rather choose a guy who wants to become strenght. If i want to choose this guy than so does mishti has right to choose and she does that only.

Originally posted by: TandraB

Not a question of being perfect. But this is a question of unethical behaviour. Cheating a friend is unethical and disgusting what Ruhaan did. Never once tried to control his feelings, never bothered about his best friend.

This kind of guy is not just flawed, he's downright distasteful and a disgrace.

It’s ok if you think so. I don’t. I don’t give that high value to friendship. My family is most important to me. My husband is more important to me than my best friend for eg.

Originally posted by: .SSSS.

Well said, she feels very free around Ruhaan. There are some situations which are with both Ruhan and Veer..After birthday fiasco when Veer was angry with her and left she was like running behind him and when he comes back to it was like again agreeing for whatever he said and herself suppressing the fact that she was upset too when he wasn't lifting her phone for entire night and all. And when she felt that Ruhaan was not lifting her phone she was like how dare he that he couldn't lift her phone.. and when he returned she could demand him how can he do that to her and when he was saying that he would be leaving she was like she knows that he couldn't leave her...she behaved with Ruhaan how Choti Mishti used to behave with Ishaaan. Mishti and Veer like each other and respect each other and that's all about it.

I was quite surprised by Veer's lines when Mishti told him that she wants to break up and reason is there wasn't love. He was like then why did you brought this relationship until here...and him never showing anger to her even though he was angry with her and some thing like that... I just felt that's what he has been doing all along ... Like since she being different with him he has been feeling angry like he felt at that birthday party but since then he is controling his anger..and asking nicely to her what is it bothering her.So he has not been being understanding or whatever but only suppressing his anger and being normal. Veer was in love with Mishti for whom he is entire world. He was in love the way she was adjusting herself for him and like how he always says my life became so beautiful after she came into my life and all but he is not in love with the real Mishti.

Real Mihsti is someone who can be bossy at times like she was demanding Ruhaan and someone who can be so vulnerable like when she was requesting Ruhaan to not leave her.. some one who can be selfless like how she was saving the kid and Mom in riots putting her own life at stake.. some one who can be selfish to prioritize her love when she realized her true love and many more... And I know whenever Veer sees one of her side he will be like I don't know this Mishti.. and won't be that interested know this Mishti rather he will want his Mishti who is confident decision making and committed and whose world is Veer all the time. I mean one can't be confident all the time and it has to be the partner who should be able to handle vulnerable side of a confident person.

SSSS, my friend! You said it all. I love this ! Exactly, she didn't hesitate to tear Ruhaan to pieces when he didn't answer the phone call, in his absence as well as in his presence. She was confident that he can never leave her. That thought didn't even cross her mind.

With Veer, on the contrary, she was afraid when he got angry, didn't pick up the phone, didn't answer her messages. But, not a peep from her, once they met, she never dared to ask. It is almost as if, thank goodness, he is back and let me not rock the boat again by disagreeing to what he is saying. She was walking on eggshells with Veer around her.

If I were her family member, I wouldn't want her to be in this constant state of fright👍🏼But, you put all the points with such clarity. Nothing more to add!

Originally posted by: .SSSS.

Well said, she feels very free around Ruhaan. There are some situations which are with both Ruhan and Veer..After birthday fiasco when Veer was angry with her and left she was like running behind him and when he comes back to it was like again agreeing for whatever he said and herself suppressing the fact that she was upset too when he wasn't lifting her phone for entire night and all. And when she felt that Ruhaan was not lifting her phone she was like how dare he that he couldn't lift her phone.. and when he returned she could demand him how can he do that to her and when he was saying that he would be leaving she was like she knows that he couldn't leave her...she behaved with Ruhaan how Choti Mishti used to behave with Ishaaan. Mishti and Veer like each other and respect each other and that's all about it.

I was quite surprised by Veer's lines when Mishti told him that she wants to break up and reason is there wasn't love. He was like then why did you brought this relationship until here...and him never showing anger to her even though he was angry with her and some thing like that... I just felt that's what he has been doing all along ... Like since she being different with him he has been feeling angry like he felt at that birthday party but since then he is controling his anger..and asking nicely to her what is it bothering her.So he has not been being understanding or whatever but only suppressing his anger and being normal. Veer was in love with Mishti for whom he is entire world. He was in love the way she was adjusting herself for him and like how he always says my life became so beautiful after she came into my life and all but he is not in love with the real Mishti.

Real Mihsti is someone who can be bossy at times like she was demanding Ruhaan and someone who can be so vulnerable like when she was requesting Ruhaan to not leave her.. some one who can be selfless like how she was saving the kid and Mom in riots putting her own life at stake.. some one who can be selfish to prioritize her love when she realized her true love and many more... And I know whenever Veer sees one of her side he will be like I don't know this Mishti.. and won't be that interested know this Mishti rather he will want his Mishti who is confident decision making and committed and whose world is Veer all the time. I mean one can't be confident all the time and it has to be the partner who should be able to handle vulnerable side of a confident person.

.SSSS very logical and true words . I agree with all your words. Fab post and it's true mishveer we're definitely had compatibility issues which was never good to survive in long lasting marriage.

Originally posted by: chicksoup

She showed her worst side to Ruhaan and he still loved her. If she had shown the same behaviour to Veer, there is no way he would have loved her. He would have just gone and found some other girl and not cared thought about her at all. He doesn't love her the way Ruhaan loves her. She feels very free around Ruhaan, but has to be careful around Veer. Obviously she would choose the guy she is comfortable with all the time, whatever her mood be.

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