Is after marriage same as before marriage? - Page 2

Marriage is more important than commitment if we go by the religion n society...there is no argument in that

But the main problem is here the situation is much more than just a mere commitment coz MishVeer r not only committed they r engaged too

Commitment is more like a dating phase if we go by the differentiation which society actually made... so it means 2 people r dating n they r committed to each other but here MishVeer r engaged so they have already taken the next step in their commitment...now this is not about MishVeer only they included their families too...Mishti did a mistake by getting engage to Veer ok no issue but what is Veer n his family's fault...when Mishti will say i fell for ur son's best friend then what...how would they feel , they will definitely feel cheated n humiliated

I consider cheating between boy friend n girl friend too as cheating n here toh MishVeer r engaged...u r thinking about another guy while u r already engaged to someone so for me it is cheating coz the guy is not thinking about any other girl so for me that partner is wrong who is thinking about other guy/girl...N definitely caressing shirts , kissing in forest , instead of thinking of break up u r calling a guy nth no of time is cheating for me...n now there is no line between physical or emotional dono ho chuka h n u too agreed with it yesterday (well i respect u for that at least u called it wrong👏)

I think we all r (Mishti n we forum members also) taking this commitment word literally...we r ignoring the actual meaning of commitment...we r going by the dictionary meaning but the actual meaning of commitment in a relationship is very very deep...it means a person is making a promise to his partner that he/she will be faithful to him/her n he/she will never ever get close to any other person which Mishti is clearly lacking coz for her commitment is like zabaan dena that's it

So my problem with this situation is ki Abhi commitment ka Rona rokar koyi faayda hi nhi h Mishti kyunki pehli cheez toh aapko commitment ka meaning pta hi nhi h aur doosra abhi sirf commitment phase toh bohot peeche chodkar a chuki ho tum now u r in a relationship coz for most of the people engagement is also a kind of relationship...So Mishti Ji ab yeh sirf commitment nhi h aapka relationship h just like loving n liking u r also getting confused between commitment n relationship

Now u r in a committed relationship so stop calling it a commitment only😊

Commitment is important. Marriage is more important as per society and religion.

Breaking a commitment impacts 2 individuals. Breaking a marriage impacts 2 families and kids also if they are there.

Commitment is a promise made by 2 individuals to each other. Marriage is a promise made by 2 individuals to each other and to God. I strongly believe in God, so yes marriage is much more sacred for me.

If commitment/engagement breaks with time one can overcome n can marry someone in future...

If a marriage breaks it is difficult to overcome n sometimes it is difficult to trust someone n 2nd marriage is not easy for them...

instead of having a loveless marriage with commitment it is better to decide before marriage

Originally posted by: SONAL30

Marriage is more important than commitment if we go by the religion n society...there is no argument in that

But the main problem is here the situation is much more than just a mere commitment coz MishVeer r not only committed they r engaged too

Commitment is more like a dating phase if we go by the differentiation which society actually made... so it means 2 people r dating n they r committed to each other but here MishVeer r engaged so they have already taken the next step in their commitment...now this is not about MishVeer only they included their families too...Mishti did a mistake by getting engage to Veer ok no issue but what is Veer n his family's fault...when Mishti will say i fell for ur son's best friend then what...how would they feel , they will definitely feel cheated n humiliated

I consider cheating between boy friend n girl friend too as cheating n here toh MishVeer r engaged...u r thinking about another guy while u r already engaged to someone so for me it is cheating coz the guy is not thinking about any other girl so for me that partner is wrong who is thinking about other guy/girl...N definitely caressing shirts , kissing in forest , instead of thinking of break up u r calling a guy nth no of time is cheating for me...n now there is no line between physical or emotional dono ho chuka h n u too agreed with it yesterday (well i respect u for that at least u called it wrong👏)

I think we all r (Mishti n we forum members also) taking this commitment word literally...we r ignoring the actual meaning of commitment...we r going by the dictionary meaning but the actual meaning of commitment in a relationship is very very deep...it means a person is making a promise to his partner that he/she will be faithful to him/her n he/she will never ever get close to any other person which Mishti is clearly lacking coz for her commitment is like zabaan dena that's it

So my problem with this situation is ki Abhi commitment ka Rona rokar koyi faayda hi nhi h Mishti kyunki pehli cheez toh aapko commitment ka meaning pta hi nhi h aur doosra abhi sirf commitment phase toh bohot peeche chodkar a chuki ho tum now u r in a relationship coz for most of the people engagement is also a kind of relationship...So Mishti Ji ab yeh sirf commitment nhi h aapka relationship h just like loving n liking u r also getting confused between commitment n relationship

Now u r in a committed relationship so stop calling it a commitment only😊

@Bold I agree completely

@Bold-Red Thanks for pointing to the root of this mess

Sree, i am unable to understand what are you trying to ask.😕

I am still confused whether what mishti is doing is cheating or not.. Because in my view cheating is you having an affair behind your partners back without any intention of breaking up..If a person falls for someone else while being in a relationship, then she confess it to her current partner and break up with him and then move on with the new love interest, then thats not cheating for me.. So whether mishti is cheating or not that will be decided by the upcoming episodes only..

And call me old school, but marriage is a big deal for me.. Leave aside season2, if i remove marriage from season1 and imagine mauli-kunal as just engaged then i dont feel even 10% of the disgust i felt for kunan in season1.. And also erase a few more points like Mouli helping nandini putting her own life at stake, and also mouli working tirelessly 24×7 to fullfill kunals dream etc then i dont feel even 1% of the disgust i felt for kunan in season1.

Originally posted by: Ardhanarishwara

Sree, i am unable to understand what are you trying to ask.😕

I am still confused whether what mishti is doing is cheating or not.. Because in my view cheating is you having an affair behind your partners back without any intention of breaking up..If a person falls for someone else while being in a relationship, then she confess it to her current partner and break up with him and then move on with the new love interest, then thats not cheating for me.. So whether mishti is cheating or not that will be decided by the upcoming episodes only..

And call me old school, but marriage is a big deal for me.. Leave aside season2, if i remove marriage from season1 and imagine mauli-kunal as just engaged then i dont feel even 10% of the disgust i felt for kunan in season1.. And also erase a few more points like Mouli helping nandini putting her own life at stake, and also mouli working tirelessly 24×7 to fullfill kunals dream etc then i dont feel even 1% of the disgust i felt for kunan in season1.

I kind of agree to this. Just that my % would be 20-25%😆

Originally posted by: poiu123

I kind of agree to this. Just that my % would be 20-25%😆

It would have been same for me as well in normal cases.. But a good chunk of my disgust came from how kunal disowned his pregnant wife.. So when we erase marriage from their story, this point also get erased automatically.. So the disgust will fall down to 10% of original 😆

Well as per SOCIETY marriage is more important....If a couple goes through a divorce then it generally is a big thing for the society ..Divorce is still considered a taboo in our society hence many people find it more difficult to break a bad marriage than a bad relation coz they often are scared of being judged by the society !

But if I keep aside what society thinks and think about this on a personal level then commitment and marriage both are important !

Also if we are talking about CHEATING /INFEDITLITY then it doesn't matter if one is married or in a relation or dating or committed ! Rules are same for all !

If a husband goes behind his wife's back and falls in love with another woman and if a fiance goes behind his girl's back and falls for someone else both the situations are a case of cheating and husband and fiance both are wrong ! One can't give a free pass to a person for cheating on his or her partner simply coz he or she is not married ! A cheat is a cheat no matter what !

Yes repercussions might be more severe in a marriage if a partner cheats coz of obvious reasons especially when kids are involved but one can't completely discard the repercussions that one faces when cheating happens in a committed relation as well ! One shouldn't have this attitude that if one is only committed then cheating is okay ..chalta hai but if one is married then cheating is a sin

Different people deal with pain , betrayal and heartbreaks differently ! Some have a stronger threshold for pain, they can deal with it while some can't ! There are cases where some people overcome n get stable quickly after a divorce while some take a lot of time overcoming a bad break up ! It really depends on an individual !

One shouldn't as per me put the heartbreak of a married person above the heartbreak of a person who was in a committed relation ! We all are humans and we all feel pain, hurt as well as heartbreak ! Who are we to claim and compare one's heartbreak with the other especially when situations are similar !

Now coming to Mishti's case .....I can't give a free pass to her coz this was not an arranged alliance firstly ! She claimed that she loved Veer and hence after dating him both decided to get married ! Maybe from Mishti's point it was never love but what about Veer ? From his side it is clearly love ! Now their families are also involved....Veer who thinks that Mishti is very much in love with him already sees a future with her, precisely why he put her surname in his passport ! PLus their families are involved as well !

Now Mishti going behind his back and falling for Ruhan, caressing his shirts, hugging him, Ruhan kissing her,both going in for a lip lock, Mishti sleeping in Ruhan's bed, pleading him to stay comes across as emotional cheating and quite insensitive on her part !

Empathy and honesty is what Veer deserves at least if not anything else but Mishti so far hasn't even given these two things as well !

Veer's not at fault here so when Mishti leaves him who knows how he's going to react ! Will he self doubt himself just like Mauli self doubted and keep pondering what went wrong in their relation, will he think something was wrong with him, will he be strong enough to go through a heartbreak, will they shake up his faith on relations ! Repurcussions can be be many and one can't overlook them nor overlook Mishaan's betrayal simply coz MishVeer are engaged and not married.

What if Mishti just after marriage realized that she never loved Veer and did the same things that she is doing now ! Only then she will be blamed but not now ? Does the certificate of marriage hold so much value that it nullifies all other relations be it years long relation or a committed relation and cheating that happens in these relations ?

Without commitment koi rishta last long nahi rahata hai. phir woh koi bhi rishta ho. In mine point of view commitment is base of relationship foundation be it marriage, pre-marriage relationship, dating time, Live-in-relationship or any other relationship. Without commitment love also not stay last long.

Life mein love & affection happen with everything but there is not commitment & loyalty then there is no meaning of that love & affection.

In commitment, you are morally bound. While in marriage you are also legally bound.Breaking of commitment, the consequence are intangible. While breaking of marriage will also lead to legal consequence.