Personal question to all of you

Originally posted by: Mumoos

If you had a Ex, whom you loved and for some reason there was a break up..

How long did it take to stop feeling for the other person..

For starters... Am happily married ... but some times when i am in deep sleep i still wake up with images from past. And i am startled cos i am not hung up on past and not even met or know what's appening on his end for past 12 yrs..

Why is it subconscious mind manages to remember something we seem to have forgotten otherwise..

Originally posted by: Mumoos

If you had a Ex, whom you loved and for some reason there was a break up..

How long did it take to stop feeling for the other person..

For starters... Am happily married ... but some times when i am in deep sleep i still wake up with images from past. And i am startled cos i am not hung up on past and not even met or know what's appening on his end for past 12 yrs..

Why is it subconscious mind manages to remember something we seem to have forgotten otherwise..

Originally posted by: kiransgirl

Mumoos, this is a good question. I will tell you I too had an ex. We were each other's first loves. We had many, many happy memories and some pretty bad ones too. But we genuinely cared and yes, loved each other. But as I have stated here, I now realize that the love I thought I felt was infatuation and friendship. I understand this now because my current partner is without doubt the love of my life; I can say that I am IN love, passionately. To answer your question, when my ex and I broke up, I thought it was the end of the world. I didnt' think I could survive. I remember my brother in law saying to me, don't worry, you will get over him when you meet the right person. And he was right. That's how long it took me to get over my ex--about a good year. I cried a lot and accepted the relationship was over. I only understood the depths of my feelings when I met my partner now; he is I believe made for me. Yet, I still think of my ex all of the time. the memories crop up and even sometimes I feel a little sad. I tell my partner this and he says, it's understandable because you shared many experiences. So, it's perfectly okay to remember an ex. I remember him all the time and I wish him well. Nothing will make me happier to know he is happy because well, I am and I want that for him too.

So, I hope this helps.

Now, I will honestly say Mumoos, I do not think I will get over my present partner so if something happens, I have resigned myself to a life of good memories..