The problem with Silsila

The problem with Silsila is execution, execution, execution. Kunal and Nandini are severely disliked for this very reason- that their characters aren't developed well and their actions and words make no sense. And the serial has made a mockery of EMAs, which is already a sensitive topic, by presenting it as a divine pure love story with stupid dialogues and symbolisms. Why drag religion in just to justify a wrong? And whitewashing the leads and presenting them as some "Abla naris" romancing each other make it worse. There have been serials on EMAs in the past, but none has received as much criticism because the background of the characters were better developed. Additionally, the characters were presented as grey characters who knew they were wrong and had some guilt about what they were doing. The affair was presented in a raw manner, without purifying and presenting the wrong deed as pure love. So why compare to serials like Hasratein when execution for Silsila is poor?

Another justification given by some to support this serial is that EMAs were also shown in the past by producers like EK too, so why the big fuss. Firstly as I recall (please correct me if I'm wrong), no other serial has presented an EMA as a pure love story with divine symbolisms to support it. And the lead characters don't roam around shamelessly with no guilt. Furthermore, EK stories and leads get mocked all the time for these EMAs, so what makes Silsila beyond reproach?

Finally, another thing that annoys me is victim blaming of Mauli. Apparently Mauli is to blame for Kunal engaging in an EMA with Nandini. I admit Mauli isn't perfect. For one, she is too trusting. But sorry, the fault for the EMA lies in no other than Kunal and Nandini. Both are equally responsible. If Kunal has a problem with Mauli, he should open his mouth and talk with her. When he hasn't made any efforts to repair any faults (if there is) in this marriage and Mauli behaves perfectly well with him, no one is responsible than him for his actions.

Moreover, apparently Kunal is cheating because Mauli is the man in the relationship and dictates his life. As I see it, Mauli is only carrying out his wishes as a dutiful wife. When Kunal can open his mouth to confess to Nandini his 'pure feelings' and has a brain that he uses to cheat Mauli, he also has the same mouth and brain that he can use to tell Mauli if he doesn't like what she's doing. And what's this rubbish about Mauli being the 'man in the relationship'. Some fans should stop using outdated, regressive justifications to support this EMA. It only makes fans look regressive, not Mauli.

In today's time, I agree that there is one partner that is usually more dominant in the relationship. But this comes with the consent of both mostly and it is not a necessity that a man has to make all the decisions in a relationship. In some relationships, women make most of the decisions and both partners are happy. Stop forcing gender stereotypes even onto relationships- we have moved past this regressiveness long time back. If Kunal had a problem with this "dominance", he should have opened his mouth long back.

And this logic about Mauli being responsible is very problematic. Let's apply the same logic to Nandini then. If Mauli is responsible for her husband cheating, then Nandini is also responsible for Rajdeep cheating and abusing her because she isn't a good wife. Is that what those fans blaming Mauli are implying? I don't agree with this, but just pointing out the problematic implications of such logic. Whoever did wrong is solely responsible for their actions. Period.

Finally, some fans should dissociate characters from actors. Only the characters are being bashed. Accept criticism for what it is, instead of saying that people that critique should keep quiet and a serial is just a serial. As I said in another post, the entertainment industry does influence society. Many studies have proven this. There is no other reason why a big actor like Aamir Khan felt guilty and apologised for promoting stalking and sexual harassment through his initial films.

Sorry if I offended anyone. Just wanted to vent regarding the stupid execution of the serial and the justifications given to support this.

Thanks! 😊 Couldn't take it anymore after yesterday's episodes.

Coming to post, i do agree that there are issue in execution of the story and i just don't get the need to rush the story like the writer has done. I could write in detail where i feel writer has faltered and could have done better but it will be repetitive, so i just will say that i do agree to the premise that it is the writing and writing alone(actors are all doing great job) that has faltered.

No, it is not only happening in other serial networking sites, but on this forum as well. That perception ,of people who criticise as haters, is also seen in this forum as well or else I wouldn't be bringing it in. I'm sorry if I gave the impression that it was only happening on other SNS sites. Moreover, I brought in that other matter about Shakti to make it clear any biases I have before I get labelled as a hater.