Gratitude , Power of Mass media , Anokhi Aur Shaurya . .

I am perhaps writing after 5 years on forums , after Dahleez and Tamanna. This Girl Anokhi and Man Shaurya powerfully and magnificently sketched by DJ team and performed by Debattama Saha and Karanvir Sharma brought me beyond admiration for Swadheenta and Dharaa( Tamanna) . I will write the gratirude part first for you lovely girls from all over the world bound by good content and issues plaguing lifes of us women across the globe .

Today I had a Master's entrance Interview in prestigious Tata Institute of social Sciences ( TISS ,Mumbai ) and I have mentioned in my DAF about my film and TV serial review writings ,often from sociological perspective for a decade now not professionally though . And the Interview went mostly on this aspect rather than my choice of subject , Rural development and governance and my 6 years of UPSC CSE preparation .I can't tell you how joyful it was to take one's interview in direction of something you love . I mainly write on gender,caste ,class etc perspectives .

You all have immensely enriched me over last 4 months of silent (addicted to reading the posts here ,thank God it's going off air , sadly though ) . I was asked to compare male protagonists ,Shaurya ,Raghav and Virat ( looooved this part ; Comparison of Imlie and Gahna' treatment ( class dimension ), Fire 2003 and LGBTQ issues , TV serial representation of woman characters . You girls are from different nook and corners of the world but such brilliant writers be it fanfictions ( need to deaddict myself ) , deep episodic analysis . Even today itself the discussion on changing name , I was reading just before interview !!! I bow down to you all though you all got me addicted too . Ye patriarchy se ladne wali pagal ladki has got my soul wishes come true in mass media ,again like Dharaa and Swadheenta . And you guys deep deep analysis from so many perspectives ,what a bunch of people are you all who are the future and current proud women of our society .Please never ever stop fighting for your rights and dignity like Anokhi . Today's interview of mine taught me ,whatever the result be , media ,films and shows are part of EDUCATION today . You need to revolutionize it to bring slow changes in society.

Modern day misogyny was reflective in Shauryas some of the dialogues and actions deeply ( despite him being in madly love which went behind covers of deep conditioning and patriarchal normalisation the very next morning of wedding night ) .

1. Why and how come a 20 years old not asked to prepare for her final exams by director husband and leaving cooking for househelp ( I know aise log exists iny acquaintance who relieves maids after official maid urf bahu comes in family ) . Joint Families have issues I understand where husband's don't take stand but Shaurya failed me in not talking once himself . I expected him to speak on this , marriage then seems selfish as it's woman whose lives get 360 degrees upside , in Shauryas words - "Zimmedariyan alag alag hain " " Tumhe yeh sab karna hai" during confession (the loveliest and soul rejoicing I have ever witnessed,though ) .Remember , jhanda nikal legi abhi ,I rewinded it n was not amused ! Rasoi is the certification of womanhood isiliye ????

But he was the same guy ( complexly beautiful ) who saved Babli twice and dhulaofied Vineet .

2. I realised I loved Raghav and Shaurya and Ahaan equally for some their traits but Shaurya ka character was grown so beautifully that I forgot in reality love can't change you ,even I won't change my independent views exactly like Anokhi except I don't know cooking . Plus I accept I love being imperfect but passionate for my dreams :)

3. What a terrific and sensitive writing ,please if possible convey this to the team ,I m not on Social Media otherwise would have written personal gratitude to Karanvir ,Debattama and amazing writers and bravest DJ producers ,they were always revolutionaries since banegi apni baat days (1993) and Mere Dad ki Dulhan (2020). Kranti vichaaron se aati hai .

4. Anokhis arguments with firm yet politeness ,I need to learn and her craziness to study yet agree to become a good daughter in law ( illusionary quest in the den of patriarchy 's weapons of conditioned women -Devi Sabarwal reminds me of hierarchy of patriarchy - the daughter in law vs mom in law and in NH10's Deepti Nawal's character of female sarpanch doing honour killing ! And her dream of opening a college in Parents names for similar girls . Wow .

5.In personal life , Listening from own bade papa at my birth that beta hota to main bada sa gift lekar aata !! Kehkar aaye hi nahi dekhne . I feel empowered and alive again when I see father's like mine do exist for whom education and daughters are supreme and then Mr Bhalla and Bade papa and Alok , crass of men as father's and so called respectable elderly .

6. I loved and get inspiration from Anokhi and Babli and writers for Domestic Violence issue with so so so much emancipation .( Please convey this as well through social media ) Event organiser ,separated from hell , happy and flourishing with friend ( would be great if ends on just friend ,Babli needs to establish herself as a 🌈 filled butterfly rather than as a wife to a person who loved her sister. I have a Deputy collector ( State Civil Services ( what's the use !) shitty cousin who harassed his first wife and then is doing same to the second ,20 years younger than him . I felt I need to be powerful first ,financially to help such women in true sense .

Sorry it went too long ,for this is first n last time I m writing but please let the stories come even after 24th ,we need to have Anokhis amongst us and Shauryas of our dreams who love their spouses careers as their own , understand multitasking is injurious for mental and physical health of MEN and WOMEN equally . Who understand that hormones se duniya nahi chalti . Barabari ki ladai kabhi chotta issue ya normal issue nahi ho sakti . That in love ,you don't forget what your lover is innately made of . That Your soch can't change, agreed but deep hearted communication is more more romantic and modern day egalitarian partnership principle .

Sometimes I think these very issues are going to come in my life too . No dowry ,no own children ( adopted ) and care taking and financial support to parents ,no name change , expectation of spouse with spine in front of family and RESPECT rather than mere love , aisi wishlist to kaise poori hogi. Itna kyun analyse kar lete hain hum ladkiyaan .

Par haan hum ladkiyan hi to badlengi duniya kyunki duniya badalne ki shuruaat humari zindagiyon se hoti hai . Across the Globe ,Gender and sexual identity issues are biggest factors of marginalisation . Let's not hide under cover of rishta kharab ho jayega ,humein kya karna usse , jhande aur kachahri mat lagao and blah blah .

Caste ,class and gender ,ethinicities , nationalities are mere manufactured boundaries . Humanity is grieving across the world be it when a dalit girl is gangraped due to her caste or a George Floyd gasps for breath !.

And please watch such good webshows ,films , serials (not regressive ones) and keep on educating yourselves ,your daughters and sons to become compassionate egalitarian human beings not as hindu muslim American , Gay ,Women only .

Thank you 😊 ❤️ ❤️❤️.

PS : This essayish post is borne from joy of today's interaction cum interview on these topics but floating in the heart from the Library Episode which shook me from the core ,then began the journey of Shaurya ka gradual growth ,still long way to go .

Woow .That was very powerful and well articulated .Hope your interview results are positive and all the best

Originally posted by: Justice2016

I am perhaps writing after 5 years on forums , after Dahleez and Tamanna. This Girl Anokhi and Man Shaurya powerfully and magnificently sketched by DJ team and performed by Debattama Saha and Karanvir Sharma brought me beyond admiration for Swadheenta and Dharaa( Tamanna) . I will write the gratirude part first for you lovely girls from all over the world bound by good content and issues plaguing lifes of us women across the globe .

Today I had a Master's entrance Interview in prestigious Tata Institute of social Sciences ( TISS ,Mumbai ) and I have mentioned in my DAF about my film and TV serial review writings ,often from sociological perspective for a decade now not professionally though . And the Interview went mostly on this aspect rather than my choice of subject , Rural development and governance and my 6 years of UPSC CSE preparation .I can't tell you how joyful it was to take one's interview in direction of something you love . I mainly write on gender,caste ,class etc perspectives .

You all have immensely enriched me over last 4 months of silent (addicted to reading the posts here ,thank God it's going off air , sadly though ) . I was asked to compare male protagonists ,Shaurya ,Raghav and Virat ( looooved this part ; Comparison of Imlie and Gahna' treatment ( class dimension ), Fire 2003 and LGBTQ issues , TV serial representation of woman characters . You girls are from different nook and corners of the world but such brilliant writers be it fanfictions ( need to deaddict myself ) , deep episodic analysis . Even today itself the discussion on changing name , I was reading just before interview !!! I bow down to you all though you all got me addicted too . Ye patriarchy se ladne wali pagal ladki has got my soul wishes come true in mass media ,again like Dharaa and Swadheenta . And you guys deep deep analysis from so many perspectives ,what a bunch of people are you all who are the future and current proud women of our society .Please never ever stop fighting for your rights and dignity like Anokhi . Today's interview of mine taught me ,whatever the result be , media ,films and shows are part of EDUCATION today . You need to revolutionize it to bring slow changes in society.

Modern day misogyny was reflective in Shauryas some of the dialogues and actions deeply ( despite him being in madly love which went behind covers of deep conditioning and patriarchal normalisation the very next morning of wedding night ) .

1. Why and how come a 20 years old not asked to prepare for her final exams by director husband and leaving cooking for househelp ( I know aise log exists iny acquaintance who relieves maids after official maid urf bahu comes in family ) . Joint Families have issues I understand where husband's don't take stand but Shaurya failed me in not talking once himself . I expected him to speak on this , marriage then seems selfish as it's woman whose lives get 360 degrees upside , in Shauryas words - "Zimmedariyan alag alag hain " " Tumhe yeh sab karna hai" during confession (the loveliest and soul rejoicing I have ever witnessed,though ) .Remember , jhanda nikal legi abhi ,I rewinded it n was not amused ! Rasoi is the certification of womanhood isiliye ????

But he was the same guy ( complexly beautiful ) who saved Babli twice and dhulaofied Vineet .

2. I realised I loved Raghav and Shaurya and Ahaan equally for some their traits but Shaurya ka character was grown so beautifully that I forgot in reality love can't change you ,even I won't change my independent views exactly like Anokhi except I don't know cooking . Plus I accept I love being imperfect but passionate for my dreams :)

3. What a terrific and sensitive writing ,please if possible convey this to the team ,I m not on Social Media otherwise would have written personal gratitude to Karanvir ,Debattama and amazing writers and bravest DJ producers ,they were always revolutionaries since banegi apni baat days (1993) and Mere Dad ki Dulhan (2020). Kranti vichaaron se aati hai .

4. Anokhis arguments with firm yet politeness ,I need to learn and her craziness to study yet agree to become a good daughter in law ( illusionary quest in the den of patriarchy 's weapons of conditioned women -Devi Sabarwal reminds me of hierarchy of patriarchy - the daughter in law vs mom in law and in NH10's Deepti Nawal's character of female sarpanch doing honour killing ! And her dream of opening a college in Parents names for similar girls . Wow .

5.In personal life , Listening from own bade papa at my birth that beta hota to main bada sa gift lekar aata !! Kehkar aaye hi nahi dekhne . I feel empowered and alive again when I see father's like mine do exist for whom education and daughters are supreme and then Mr Bhalla and Bade papa and Alok , crass of men as father's and so called respectable elderly .

6. I loved and get inspiration from Anokhi and Babli and writers for Domestic Violence issue with so so so much emancipation .( Please convey this as well through social media ) Event organiser ,separated from hell , happy and flourishing with friend ( would be great if ends on just friend ,Babli needs to establish herself as a 🌈 filled butterfly rather than as a wife to a person who loved her sister. I have a Deputy collector ( State Civil Services ( what's the use !) shitty cousin who harassed his first wife and then is doing same to the second ,20 years younger than him . I felt I need to be powerful first ,financially to help such women in true sense .

Sorry it went too long ,for this is first n last time I m writing but please let the stories come even after 24th ,we need to have Anokhis amongst us and Shauryas of our dreams who love their spouses careers as their own , understand multitasking is injurious for mental and physical health of MEN and WOMEN equally . Who understand that hormones se duniya nahi chalti . Barabari ki ladai kabhi chotta issue ya normal issue nahi ho sakti . That in love ,you don't forget what your lover is innately made of . That Your soch can't change, agreed but deep hearted communication is more more romantic and modern day egalitarian partnership principle .

Sometimes I think these very issues are going to come in my life too . No dowry ,no own children ( adopted ) and care taking and financial support to parents ,no name change , expectation of spouse with spine in front of family and RESPECT rather than mere love , aisi wishlist to kaise poori hogi. Itna kyun analyse kar lete hain hum ladkiyaan .

Par haan hum ladkiyan hi to badlengi duniya kyunki duniya badalne ki shuruaat humari zindagiyon se hoti hai . Across the Globe ,Gender and sexual identity issues are biggest factors of marginalisation . Let's not hide under cover of rishta kharab ho jayega ,humein kya karna usse , jhande aur kachahri mat lagao and blah blah .

Caste ,class and gender ,ethinicities , nationalities are mere manufactured boundaries . Humanity is grieving across the world be it when a dalit girl is gangraped due to her caste or a George Floyd gasps for breath !.

And please watch such good webshows ,films , serials (not regressive ones) and keep on educating yourselves ,your daughters and sons to become compassionate egalitarian human beings not as hindu muslim American , Gay ,Women only .

Thank you 😊 ❤️ ❤️❤️.

PS : This essayish post is borne from joy of today's interaction cum interview on these topics but floating in the heart from the Library Episode which shook me from the core ,then began the journey of Shaurya ka gradual growth ,still long way to go .

Well written post.

Sadly stories that have good content are shown exit doors.Shows with spineless ML run for years.Sadly the channel,content and majority the audience remained regressive.Indoa being country with majority of youngsters are watching the shit played on televisions.

Either it is Ati aagyakaari beta or Joru ka ghulam.When women can balance career and home why cant men balance Mom and wife?

The struggle starts at delivery room of a hospital.When a woman enduring all the pain gives birth to a child,the smiles decide the gender of a baby.Too happy ....Definitely boy ,smile on the face....GIRL.The battles continue because we are conditioned like that from childhood.If a girl gets an amazing childhood then next challenge is with inlaws.No less than Kurukshetra yudh for girl who is married.It is generally not couple who fights it is side characters who induce fights always.Expectation of boy s parents,their insecurities their ego and most of all fear that their boy will turn into So called joru ka ghulam.

Girls'parents their expectations,insecurities ,ego are also added.

Even being married for 10 or 15 plus years still there is ladki waale and ladke waale.

Son in laws should be joru ka ghulam and Daughter in laws should be farmabaddar biwi.These things need to change first.

Husband supporting a wife and vice versa,accepting each other's flaws and living with them,completing and complementing each other in life this is what an ideal couple should be.

Aastha ,Anokhi,Kanchan and Babli four strong women from the show are really inspirational.

Please do not stop writing such wonderful posts.This forum is filled with creative people and everybody enjoys and appreciates such brilliant stuff. Good luck

Thank you for enriching my insights . Oh I forget the dignified mamma Astha . I love her in entirety , understand her completely . No woman should be made to choose her parents and parents in law's and career- if she wants to make one and family . Choice is the key . Support of spouse is the basis . That's it .

Kanchan is the budding Anokhi ! I loved her today's stance on name changing and always ,without disrespect n speaking loud she shoots daggers into such ghatiya soch ppl .

Yes , I didn't like Dev Dikshit for this very reason , No balance between mom and spouse . Love needs crazy support if your partner is right , how come blood relations shit is important than truth of one you claim as your life partner .

Yes ladki ladke wale ,I hate . Someday I wish a world where Girls refuse to have such bargain power due to their education , careers and not bowing to keep a price on their 'married' existence .

Is there any way the message in this post can be forwarded to the creators.

Forget Sitaaraa they are only interested in getting money, by cheating in the name of Nayi Soch..

Please , if there's any email id I can write to and social media forward one can do ,my purpose of writing would be fulfilled . For me Words,ideas and thoughts are powerful than sword !

Gratitude from the bottom of the heart, high time things change in society, high time we come to terms with the humanitarian values of live and let live, rather than judging people on they way they breath, why to strike someone on their weakness have power and guts go and strike their plus points then you will come to know that you have messed with the wrong person, hope there comes a change in society, and we are alive to witness the change, all the best to the entire Fandom and gratitude to all the writers