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Do you scream when you stub your toe? Could you play a grand final with a shattered jaw, or work all day as your belly fills with blood? When it comes to suffering, perspective is everything

By Celina Ribeiro

Some say it was John Sattler’s own fault. The lead-up to the 1970 rugby league grand final had been tense; the team he led, the South Sydney Rabbitohs, had lost the 1969 final. Here was an opportunity for redemption. The Rabbitohs were not about to let glory slip through their fingers again.

Soon after the starting whistle, Sattler went in for a tackle. As he untangled – in a move not uncommon in the sport at the time – he gave the Manly Sea Eagles’ John Bucknall a clip on the ear.

Seconds later – just three minutes into the game – the towering second rower returned favour with force: Bucknall’s mighty right arm bore down on Sattler, breaking his jaw in three places and tearing his skin; he would later need eight stitches. When his teammate Bob McCarthy turned to check on him, he saw his captain spurting blood, his jaw hanging low. Forty years later Sattler would recall that moment. One thought raged in his shattered head: “I have never felt pain like this in my life.”

But he played on. Tackling heaving muscular players as they advanced. Being tackled in turn, around the head, as he pushed forward. All the while he could feel his jaw in pieces.

At half-time the Rabbitohs were leading. In the locker room, Sattler warned his teammates, “Don’t play me out of this grand final.”

McCarthy told him, “Mate, you’ve got to go off.”

He refused. “I’m staying.”

‘Wandering through a vivid jungle setting, I bend down to pick up prickly pineapples…’ Emma Cook at the Oxford University pain lab.

Sattler played the whole game. The remaining 77 minutes. At the end, he gave a speech and ran a lap of honour. The Rabbitohs had won. The back page of the next day’s Sunday Mirror screamed “BROKEN JAW HERO”.

A photograph of Sattler, his heavy green and red jersey rolled up to the elbows, the neck grubby with blood, his mangled swollen jaw, carried on the shoulders of teammates, has become one of Australian sport’s most well-known images. His grand final performance has been hailed as “the most famous show of playing through pain in Australian sporting history”. Sattler, inextricably linked to the jaw he ultimately had to have wired back together, for decades hence was lauded for his courage, celebrated as one of the toughest men to have played the game.

Because John Sattler could withstand the pain.

How can a person bitten by a shark calmly paddle their surfboard to safety, then later liken the sensation of the predator clamping down on their limb to the feeling of someone giving their arm “a shake”? How is it that a woman can have a cyst on her ovary burst, her abdomen steadily fill with blood, but continue working at her desk for six hours? Or that a soldier can have his legs blown off then direct his own emergency treatment?

Each one of us feels pain. We all stub our toes, burn our fingers, knock our knees. And worse. The problem with living in just one mind and body is that we can never know whether our six out of 10 on the pain scale is the same as the patient in the chair next to us.

About one in five adults experience chronic pain; it can be debilitating and patients have been historically dismissed, disrespected and under-treated. Acute pain is different; it’s short periods of pain usually associated with an injury, illness or tissue damage. Because all humans experience acute injury or illness, we each have a sense of our pain response. Many of us wonder, “Do I have a high pain threshold?” And we have each at some point been asked – by a doctor, by a nurse, by a teammate – “What’s your pain on a scale of one to 10?”

The ability of some people to experience serious injury without appearing to feel serious pain has been fodder for legend and research for centuries. Withstanding pain has been heralded as heroism or a freakish anomaly.

But what is happening in the body and mind of a person who does not seem to feel the pain they “should” be feeling. Do we all have the capacity to be one of these heroic freaks?

And how did John Sattler play those 77 minutes?

Questions like these rattled around the mind of Lorimer Moseley when he showed up at Sydney’s Royal North Shore hospital years ago as an undergraduate physiotherapy student. He wanted to interrogate a quip made by a neurology professor as he left the lecture theatre one day, that the worst injuries are often the least painful. So Moseley sat in the emergency room and watched people come in, recording their injuries and asking them how much they hurt.

“And this guy came in with a hammer stuck in his neck – the curly bit had got in the back and was coming out the front and blood was pouring all down,” Moseley recalls. “But he was relaxed. He just walked in holding the hammer, relaxed. Totally fine.”

Then the man turned around, hit his knee on a low table and began jumping up and down at the pain of the small knock.

“And I think, ‘Whoa, what is happening there?’”

The curious student ruled out drugs, alcohol, shock. He realised that the reason the man did not feel pain from his hammer injury was due to the very point of pain itself.

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“Pain is a feeling that motivates us to protect ourselves,” says Moseley, now the chair in physiotherapy and a professor of clinical neurosciences at the University of South Australia.

“One of the beautiful things about pain is that it will motivate us to protect the body part that’s in danger, really anatomically specific – it can narrow it right down to a tiny little spot.”

It is an evolutionary self-protection response that meant the man with the hammer in his neck did not appear to feel pain. To feel pain would not have aided his survival in that moment, Moseley says. Instead, fear is probably what impelled him to race to the emergency ward.

“So these people on the battlefield, their arm gets ripped off, they look for their arm, they pick it up, they walk to safety, no arm pain. Perfect. That is an extraordinarily bold and sophisticated protective system.”

Of course pain is in your head. It’s in your brain. You know, it’s the brain that is where you get that experience

Lorimer Moseley

Prof Michael Nicholas is used to stories like these. “You can see it in probably every hospital ward. If you stay around long enough you’ll hear comments like ‘this person has more pain than they should have’ or ‘you might be surprised that they’re not in pain’,” he says. “What that highlights to me is the general tendency for all of us to think there should be a close relationship between a stimulus like an injury or a noxious event and the degree of pain the person feels.

“In fact, that’s generally wrong. But it doesn’t stop us believing it.”

The reason we get it wrong, Nicholas says, “is that we have a sort of mind-body problem”.

Eastern medicine and philosophy has long recognised the interconnectedness of body and mind, and so too did the west in early civilisations. In ancient Greece the Algea, the gods of physical pain, were also gods associated with psychic pain – with grief and distress. But in the 1600s the French philosopher René Descartes set western thinking on a different course, asserting that the mind and body were separate entities.

“In a lot of countries we tend to want to downplay any possible psychological influences and we want to say it’s all physical,” says Nicholas, a director at the University of Sydney’s Pain Management Research Institute. Being told that pain has a psychological component can be distressing, particularly for those who experience chronic pain. It can feel dismissive, a suggestion that the pain is not real.

“When people come to see me, they’re often worried they’re being told it’s all in their head,” Nicholas says.

“Of course pain is in your head. It’s in your brain. You know, it’s the brain that is where you get that experience … It’s never all physical.”

This is true of people who tolerate acute pain. It’s never all physical. And it has little to do with heroism or freakishness.

Sometime between 11am and 11.30am on 22 May 2024, as I sat at a big white conference table, before a screen of colleagues zooming into a meeting, a cyst on my right ovary exploded. I felt pain right away. With my right hand, I pressed hard into my lower stomach and breathed in and out slowly to ride through the feeling. Jesus, I thought. I shouldn’t have eaten so many Jols.

I returned to my desk but still felt sore so went for a walk around the block to shake it off. I felt a little better, returned to my computer, popped in and out of smaller meetings, answered emails, edited articles, finished work at 5.30pm, then walked half an hour to my sister’s apartment and lay on her couch. While the pain was fairly strong I was still convinced an overconsumption of sugar-free sweets was responsible. Only when my sister called a helpline two hours later and a nurse told me to go to hospital did I relent. We arrived at emergency about 9pm, 10 hours after that first sharp twinge.

Later in the night, as I climbed on to an examination bed, I froze. Pain sloshing around my abdomen violently halted my movement. As I stopped there silent, halfway to lying down, I saw the serious look on the doctor’s face.

I realised that perhaps my report of my pain was an unreliable guide. She was looking for other clues. (I would later learn that medical staff use self-reported pain as only one of a few measures to assess a patient, others include observations of movement, the ability to talk, facial expressions and guarding.)

It was the middle of the night before an MRI returned the findings that I had spent the day with what the doctor called “a belly full of blood”. The next day I had surgery.

At my bedside an obstetric surgeon shook his head as he explained what was going on in my body. A burst cyst has a reputation for being very painful, he said. Why had I rated my pain as a six or seven? Didn’t it make more sense to give it a 10? I shrugged. I’d wanted to give myself some wriggle room.

So why was my experience and report of pain so out of whack with the tissue damage my body experienced?

“It actually starts with our judgments,” says Associate Prof Melissa Day, from the University of Queensland. “So it’s not what happens to us. It’s how we judge what happens to us.”

In other words, if we give ourselves a convincing explanation for what we feel, an explanation that does not include danger or damage to our body – if we think it’s the Jols and it will pass – we are less likely to feel pain severely.

We have a tendency to valorise those who do not complain of pain when they confront an acute injury. To say this is a tough person, a stoic person. But individual toughness or weakness is not what’s at play in pain responses, and the same person can have two entirely different reactions to pain-inducing events in different contexts.

When Lorimer Moseley tried a heat pad pain test on himself, increasing the temperature on the pad on his hand and noting his rising pain levels, it took removing the pad from his skin to realise he had given himself a two-and-a-half-degree burn. “This happens to people who do a lot of pain research because you just get exposed and your brain doesn’t think it’s worth protecting you as much as it should,” he says.

“But I put my hand in hot water to do the dishes – I’m hopeless.”

Just five years ago the International Association for the Study of Pain revised its definition of pain. The new definition follows what is called a bio-psychosocial model, which recognises not just the biological causes of pain but the role of psychology and social context in creating, amplifying – or dulling – it. While this is the contemporary thinking about pain, says Nicholas: “Most people don’t use it. Most clinicians, unfortunately, even.”

The biological causes are clearest. Pain tolerance, researchers speaking to Guardian Australia say, has some genetic component. Red-haired people, for example, Moseley says, have on average a different threshold at which their nerves are triggered by a change in temperature in a heat-based pain threshold test.

Complex social factors play a substantial role: multiple studies have found that people from a lower socioeconomic status experience both more chronic pain and, in experimental pain tests, demonstrate lower acute pain thresholds.

For all people, injury or tissue damage activates the brain’s warning system that creates pain. The associated stress can trigger a psycho-biological response that helps the hurt person get through it without being immobilised.

The best coping techniques will be different for different individuals

Melissa Day

“Short-term stress actually motivates us,” Day says. “Gets adrenaline pumping through our bodies, allows us to have natural endorphins to push through. There’s also endogenous opioids that our brain releases to have that short-term relief of pain.”

The psychological elements are becoming more widely understood. “One thing we know is perhaps the strongest predictor of pain tolerance is how people think about pain,” Day says.

“If we think ‘this is terrible, this is awful, it’s going to do me serious damage’ – those types of people will have lower tolerance.” This includes people who tend to be anxious or who catastrophise pain.

The perception of the damage being done can have a substantial role. A violinist is more likely to report higher levels of pain when a pain stimulus is applied to their dominant playing hand than when their other hand is subjected to the same stimulus, Moseley says – because an injury to their dominant hand could end their career. Farmers are known to delay seeking treatment , he adds. “It might be that farmers expect that a part of being a farmer is to have pain. So [their brain] doesn’t urge them to do anything about it. Their expectation is: you have pain.”

Our past experience of pain also plays a substantial role. Should I have another cyst explode, Moseley suggests I might feel more pain – I will have learned that this sensation signals serious damage and should not be ignored.

Research suggests men generally have higher pain thresholds than women. Pain fluctuates for women at periods of hormonal change. Moseley says differences in sensitivity in immune systems and response to hormones plays a part. But so does “the way that they’re related to from birth”.

“Nature versus nurture – you can’t really separate them,” Day says. “There’s a range of factors there in terms of learning histories about pain and how from a young age responses to pain are very much linked to gender as well – how parents respond to a son versus a daughter.”

As psychologists working in pain, Day and Nicholas are interested in what behaviours might help people in pain tolerate or reduce the amount of pain they are experiencing.

“The best coping techniques will be different for different individuals and will be different across different contexts” Day says.

People who think they have a higher pain threshold – we will never know. It’s the same human that makes the pain and that tolerates it

Lorimer Moseley

Nevertheless, for acute pain suppression – “I’m not thinking about this because I’ve got this goal I need to achieve” – can work well in the short term, says Day. (“Longer term, it rebounds.”) Emotional regulation strategies, meditation and learning how to calm the body can be effective. Working on beliefs about the pain and shifting attention away from it, says Nicholas, fall under individual control. “If you can control those factors you will have a better response to pain,” Day says.

An individual’s sensitivity to reward and punishment plays a role in acute pain thresholds too, Day says. People who are more sensitive to punishment tend more often to retract at the appearance of pain, whereas those more oriented towards rewards are more likely to push through it to achieve a goal, she says. Elite athletes are known to have higher pain thresholds as they are habituated to pain in their training regimes.

Which is to say, if you are in a grand final and you think you’ve got a shot at winning, and you know the national team selectors are watching, your fixation on your goal might increase your ability to ignore the pain radiating from your jaw.

Is that what made John Sattler play on? I will never know. He died in 2023. But we know he had all the predispositions for withstanding acute injury: he was habituated to pain as an athlete in a game famed for its big hits, he was reward-oriented in a moment when the stakes were high, he was a male socialised to value withstanding pain as a badge of toughness, and saw toughness valued as a social virtue. The clash would have got his endogenous opioids pumping. His attention was redirected away from his injury. Pain is a protective mechanism but, from all we know about that day, Sattler judged protecting his jaw as less important than claiming the premiership.

“People who think they have a higher pain threshold – we will never know,” Moseley says. “It’s the same human that makes the pain and that tolerates it.”

And so the experience of acute pain is caught in the realm of mystery and mythology; where we can understand much of what is happening in a body and part of what is happening in a brain but never actually know what another person feels.

The legend of John Sattler goes that after that fateful right hook from Bucknall, the bloodied captain turned to his teammate Matthew Cleary. That no one knew, perhaps not even himself, the damage that had been done to him became his mythological power.

“Hold me up,” he said. “So they don’t know I’m hurt.”

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Why we choose to avoid information that’s right in front of us

by Jeremy L Foust, experimental psychologist

Knowing the reasons people opt not to know – and the consequences of that choice – could help us see when it’s problematic

Finally, the vacation you’ve been waiting for is happening tomorrow. You and your friends are going on a two-week cruise, free of responsibilities and full of fun. You’re starting to pack when you feel a little bit lightheaded. You don’t think much of it because you’ve been stressed lately trying to get ready for the trip. Later, you start coughing. Probably just allergies, you think to yourself as you go about your day. When you wake up in the morning – the day of the trip – you have a sore throat and chills. You briefly think to yourself: This feels like it could be COVID. Maybe I should take a self-test. You start walking to your medicine cabinet, but then you pause. If you test positive, you’ll feel obliged to isolate from others and miss the trip. You’ve spent so much time thinking about the trip and paid a lot for the tickets. Your friends will be disappointed. I’m sure I’m fine. You decide it’s better not to know.

Whether you’ve actually been in this sort of situation or not, many of us have likely chosen not to know in other ways: for example, delaying a trip to the doctor to get checked out, declining to look at your credit score, or shutting down certain topics of conversation because you prefer to not find out what others really think. This process of choosing not to learn a piece of freely available information is called information avoidance.

We have more access to self-relevant information – and more chances to either seek or avoid it – than ever before. Smart devices can track our physical activity and sleep patterns, online banking allows you to review your finances at any time, and we can compare our lives with those of friends and influencers on social media. We also have constant access to information with wide-reaching consequences, such as information about the climate crisis, abortion rights and the economic implications of US tariffs. If the saying ‘knowledge is power’ is true, then most people hold an indefinite amount of power in their pockets. And, in this light, it’s curious that someone would choose to relinquish that power by avoiding information.

When I began studying this phenomenon, I saw it as a form of ‘me-search’, since I, too, had avoided information in the past. As a statistics nerd who loves information, I wondered how I could surround myself with numbers and facts, yet sometimes choose to avoid learning information about myself.

My research confirms that I am not alone. Recently, I conducted a study with my colleague Jennifer M Taber in which we asked college student participants to respond to a nightly survey, indicating whether they had avoided information that day. We found that, on average, participants avoided information in at least one context on more than 30 per cent of days. Most frequently, they avoided information about money, the news or physical activity. During the two-week study, only 14 participants (out of 181) did not report avoiding information, while just as many reported avoidance on 10 or more days. The research suggests that many people are at least moderate information-avoiders, and some of us do it a lot.

Given that information avoidance seems to be a normal behaviour, why do people do it? A review paper by Kate Sweeny and colleagues grouped the potential reasons for information avoidance into three categories: protecting an existing belief; avoiding an undesired action; and reducing negative emotions.

First, information can threaten many different kinds of beliefs. For example, a person might believe that they have a talent for investing money in the stock market. Then, one day, the overall stock market unexpectedly drops. There is a good chance that they have lost money on their own investments. But rather than check to see how they’ve fared, they avoid the information, hoping that the market will bounce back. For as long as they avoid seeing any losses, their belief in their investing prowess remains unaffected. Several studies have, in fact, looked at information avoidance in the context of finances. In one study, people were more likely to avoid information about potential losses on hypothetical stocks, compared with potential gains. Another showed that both American and Scandinavian stockholders logged in to check their portfolio more when the stock market was up.

More generally, when information has the potential to threaten a belief – about yourself, another person, the state of the world, or anything else – it is tempting to avoid that piece of information and look for belief-affirming information instead. Studies have shown that people think about the likely partiality of a news piece before reading it – and are more likely to read sources they expect to agree with. This may help explain why people are more likely to watch news stations that align with their political beliefs.

People will tend to avoid troubling information when they don’t feel they have control over the situation

But information avoidance is about more than just pre-emptively defending your beliefs. As in the COVID-test example, the information you learn (eg, whether you’re sick) might require you to change your behaviour in a way that you would prefer not to. Avoiding information might also allow people to make decisions and then claim they were naive about the situation. For example, about 63 per cent of participants in one study said they didn’t want to know how many calories were in a piece of cake – so that they wouldn’t feel bad about eating it. These calorie-counters and a possibly sick vacationer have similar motivations.

Lastly, there is an emotional component to information avoidance: it can help you avoid unwelcome feelings. In our daily diary study, we found that people were more likely to avoid information on days when they were feeling greater negative emotions. They were also more likely to do so after days when they’d had greater positive emotions. We reasoned that, when people are already feeling emotions like sadness or anger, they will often avoid information that they expect will make them feel worse. Likewise, on days following high positive emotions, people will do what they can to maintain their good feelings, perhaps by avoiding information that might bring them back to their baseline. Overall, consistent with theoretical work, it seems that people use information avoidance as an emotion-regulation strategy – that is, they are attempting to seek or avoid information to maximise their positive feelings and reduce their negative ones.

Other research suggests that people sometimes avoid information because they feel overwhelmed with information already. If someone feels overloaded, they might understandably choose to ‘take a break’ from watching the news or scrolling on their phone, even when there is a lot going on. There’s also evidence that people will tend to avoid troubling information – such as the risk of developing a disease – when they don’t feel that they have any control over the situation.

One other potential factor is whether someone thinks others want them to learn the information. Taber and I collected data on seeking COVID-19 information near the beginning of the pandemic, before vaccines were available. We asked participants how willing they would be to take a COVID test across different situations – for example, if they had been exposed to someone with COVID-19, but then had a chance to see a friend they hadn’t seen in a long time. The primary motivation to get tested, in these cases, was whether participants thought their friends or family would want them to. So it seems that if people in our lives want us to learn information, we might be more likely to learn it. But the opposite may hold true as well: when it doesn’t seem as if others care that we find something out, we might be less likely to care, too.

Avoiding information clearly comes with risks – some mild, some serious. Someone might eat more chocolate cake than they intended to. Consumers might neglect a company’s cruel policies and keep buying their products. A patient whose disease could’ve been detected early might wait too long to seek help.

There are also bigger-picture risks to consider. Avoiding information that is inconsistent with one’s beliefs seems to explain, at least partially, political polarisation. People who ignore perspectives that are opposed to theirs are likely to have increasing confidence in their own beliefs, no matter what the evidence suggests. They are exposing themselves to what they want to hear and avoiding what they don’t. In the context of social media, this tendency might reinforce the algorithms that expose users to more and more extreme views.

Information avoidance may not always be a problem; there are times when it could be helpful

Often, it takes a certain amount of privilege to be able to comfortably avoid information. For instance, it is easier to avoid information about your finances when you have sufficient money. Likewise, it is easier to avoid information about political policies – including harmful ones – when you are not directly affected by those policies.

However, as I suggested earlier, information avoidance may not always be a problem; there are times when it could be helpful. The habit of ‘doomscrolling’, or continuously consuming negative news online, is associated with higher anxiety and worse mental health. Thus, avoiding this practice and placing limits on one’s exposure to negative information might have benefits for wellbeing. Although chronically avoiding unpleasant information can lead to problems, in some instances the negative effects might be negligible. Our study with college students found little evidence that avoiding information about grades, money or health on one day affected time spent on schoolwork, spending or exercise the following day. Future research might look at potential longer-term outcomes of avoiding critical information (such as information about how one’s physical inactivity heightens the risk of disease).

If you or someone you know has recently avoided certain kinds of information, it could be for a variety of reasons, and there is no clear rule for when avoidance is ‘good’ or not. But as you contemplate your own choices about seeking or avoiding information, one consideration might be the extent to which you can do anything to affect some outcome related to the information. Across quantitative and qualitative research studies, participants tend to prefer avoiding information when there is nothing they can do about whatever it bears on. If you’re doomscrolling through news about something that you can’t affect in any way, and it is negatively impacting your mental health, maybe it is best to take a break. But when you come across information that is actionable (eg, about your health, your money, or events in which you and others can make some difference), then it might be worth learning more – even if you’re tempted to turn away.

Jeremy L Foust is an assistant professor of psychology at Converse University in Spartanburg, South Carolina in the US. He is an experimental psychologist who specialises in social psychology and health psychology.

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In the hole

A metaphor for depression became a catalyst, and I started to reinvent my approach to suffering

by Tasha Eichenseher

I recently heard a story about someone who calmly called a friend and said she was digging a hole in the backyard. She planned to lie down and die in it. It was a psychotic break. But I can relate.

When I was in my 20s, studying in Germany, I was in a bad place – crying in class for no reason, isolating and low-key becoming bulimic. I didn’t think anyone had noticed, but two teachers pulled me aside. One asked me how I felt.

‘Ich fühle mich, als säße ich allein in einem Loch in der Erde und hätte keinen Ausweg,’ I replied. I feel like I’m sitting alone in a hole in the earth, with no way to get out. He replied: ‘Was ist falsch daran, eine Weile im Loch zu sitzen?’ What’s wrong with sitting in the hole for a while?

This new perspective – looking closely at the mud I sat in, instead of longingly up at the sky – felt like bittersweet surrender. What if I did just sit down there, with my feelings of sadness and exhaustion, and stop scratching the walls, dirt and blood building under my fingernails? It couldn’t feel any worse than life on the surface.

In the nearly three decades between then and now, I’ve moved in and out of the hole dozens of times.

I’ve heard the hole analogy for depression over and over, from friends, psychology experts, and now clients (I eventually became a therapist). It’s an image that conjures up darkness, loneliness, hopelessness, and feelings of being trapped.

Sitting in the hole and accepting your place there can be a controversial concept. Many of us are taught that depression is a damaged state – one we’re supposed to avoid, fight, conquer. That if you’re depressed, there’s something wrong with you.

Did I enjoy feeling hopeless? No. But naming it provided some relief and uncovered an impulse to tend to these feelings, instead of disown them.

Like everything in my life, I probably took the concept too literally and too far. That initial conversation, fittingly in German – a gritty language that lands like tough love – shifted my perspective and planted seeds. It spoke to something feral in me that wanted to explore the messes in my mind and map them to natural instincts and processes.

I came home from Germany and spent a summer in sunny Colorado, simplifying and slowing down my life, sitting with more of my feelings and spending lots of time outside. Things felt a little brighter and lighter. I did a course with the National Outdoor Leadership School and spent 21 days carrying a 70-pound pack through the snow, connecting with trees and feeling profoundly grounded due to this new kind of suffering.

Then my sister died.

Grief had dropped-kicked me and I’d landed face down in sludge

Sarah was 11 and hit by a car while walking her bike across a busy four-lane road. Ironically, she looked fine – there were barely any scratches, and no broken bones. The only noticeable mark was a comet-shaped indentation on her right cheek, a shallow hole with a subtle tail pointing toward her mouth. Despite appearances, the collision had caused severe brain damage – enough to immediately drop her into a coma. I flew to her in Wisconsin and lived like a zombie at the hospital, feeding off meal-train lasagna and a fragile belief that shit happens for a reason. I was holding Sarah’s hand when she took her last breath a month later.

At her funeral, I read a passage from Willa Cather’s novel My Ántonia (1918), about sitting still in the dirt, waiting for the sweet release of death and a return to something bigger. I was sobbing while I spoke:

The earth was warm under me, and warm as I crumbled it through my fingers … I kept as still as I could … I was something that lay under the sun and felt it, like the pumpkins, and I did not want to be anything more … that is happiness; to be dissolved into something complete and great. When it comes to one, it comes as naturally as sleep.

Her death brought me back to the hole. Grief had dropped-kicked me and I’d landed face down in sludge. And while I was down there, I realised it wasn’t just the loss of my sister I was grieving. It was the loss of time. I thought about what childhood is supposed to be like, and how I’d spent mine in the middle of a verbally abusive alcoholic and a victim. From a very young age, I had tried to please everyone, abandoning myself in the process. There was barely room to breathe with all of that chaos swirling around. I felt an urge to do the tedious, painstaking work of untangling what came from where, what belonged to whom.

Cather’s words reminded me of how stillness can help to sort things out. I stayed in a sleepy state for months.

Then I went back to college, this time in Oregon, returning to the grind – trying to balance school, work and self-care. I somewhat desperately tried all the things associated with managing depression: therapy, antidepressants, talking to friends more pointedly about this ‘problem’, working like a maniac with no time left to feel. When time took me by surprise, I felt how flat and colourless the world was, teared up, and drank.

I took solace, sometimes, in getting dusty during rock-climbing adventures, volunteering to take sixth-graders on nature walks, and spreading chicken manure on the school’s urban gardens. It was a connection with dirt and decay that helped me feel most alive.

My time in the hole, pulling apart the threads, led me to the realisation that depression is often a dissociated and disembodied state. I was mostly in my head, wrapped up in some fantasy, wishing I’d done things differently, or scared about what to do next. Sifting soil through my hands brought me back into the physical realm, the present, where depressive thoughts have less room to wander.

We can hold it all – groundlessness and feeling our feet on the floor – at the same time

After graduation, I moved to New York City. Darkness settled in again when I felt left out or misunderstood, or when things got really bad at work, including a rage-filled experience with sexual harassment. I felt trapped and depleted. I walked through Central Park at night by myself, running a sharp rock over my forearm, reminding myself of the line between being here and bleeding out, and hoping something bad would happen.

With the help of a therapist and Al-Anon meetings, I started to see that the deep grief, anger and frustration that had accrued throughout my life lacked an outlet. Instead, it was ricocheting between my skin and bones, telling me that I didn’t have a place in this world. I started to unbury those feelings, and express them in more healthy and regulated ways. It was new, uncomfortable terrain.

My Oregon roommates came to visit, and they left me a copy of the book When Things Fall Apart (1996) by Pema Chödrön, an American-born Tibetan Buddhist teacher. I dog-eared this passage:

If we’re willing to give up hope that insecurity and pain can be exterminated, then we can have the courage to relax with the groundlessness of our situation. This is the first step on the path.

I felt seen by their gift. And Chödrön’s musings reminded me of how we can hold it all – groundlessness and feeling our feet on the floor – at the same time, as long as we apply some curiosity and self-compassion to whatever it is we’re exploring. I quit my journalism job and started teaching gardening to grade-school kids.

Eventually, I left New York to study environmental science at graduate school in Connecticut. But the more I studied, the more panic attacks I had. A therapist suggested lithium. Instead, I turned my focus to experiential learning: collecting wetland soil samples as a research assistant and hatching plans to turn a nearby gunpowder farm (used for ammunition testing and storage during the Second World War) into a public park. This was time spent roaming in and out of earthen bunkers, testing for toxic material and imagining new pathways through the pines. The metaphors were endless.

I was still in the hole, but visiting the surface more often. I could see how my thoughts and feelings formed a complex web. I could experience joy one day and be in deep pain the next. I could be more than one thing. And my anxiety was revealing itself as an elaborate and primal system for keeping me ‘safe’ from vulnerability and the discomfort of change. What would I be if I weren’t depressed? What strands of me would step up to claim the space that sadness filled?

Dust to dust. Sitting with my present-moment experience in the hole has been a way to look more objectively at, defuse and fully digest my intense feelings, so they don’t come out sideways or become tons of water behind a structurally unstable dam.

I moved back to Colorado, dedicating more time to long hikes and practising mindfulness. I graduated with a master’s degree in counselling from a Buddhist university where I learned that thoughts are like clouds, passing in the sky – some are dark and brooding, and some are fluffy and take on fun shapes. And emotions are like comets. They can come on strong, then fade out.

There’s a metaphor used in acceptance and commitment therapy – a modality developed in the 1980s by the psychologist Steven Hayes – called ‘Person in the Hole’. Everything you ‘do’ to try to get out of the hole just digs you in deeper. But simply ‘being’, like a pumpkin composting under the sun, creates a sense of ease.

My depression is a yearning to have roots and branches and then ultimately fall apart

Over decades, I have learned that slowing down and paying attention with kindness is alchemy. It allows for the processing of sadness, loneliness, shame and fear, leaving space for more than just suffering. If I had fought to climb out of that hole, unwilling to accept that I was a depressed person, I would still be carrying the burden of a heavy shovel, hands blistered and raw, out of breath. The life would have been squeezed out of me too soon.

Acceptance, first introduced by my German teacher in that awkward but illuminating intervention years ago, has seeped into my system. It has formed the person I am now – a mindfulness- and nature-based therapist who savours the good.

My happiest moments are the ones in which I’m in the dirt. Just the other day, I was working outside with a depressed client. Our normal walk-and-talk routine felt too fast, like the energy in this person simply needed to settle. So we stopped and looked for a place to sit. We picked our way through a wetland, walking gently over and between muddy patches and wet grasses until we found a bit of higher ground. While I led him through a meditation, I kept one hand on the spongy earth. He continued to track sensations, thoughts and feelings in silence, and a surge of gratitude ran through me.

I could die happy here, disintegrating into dust to the sound of frogs, feeling the sun on my skin. My depression is, in many ways, a yearning to be part of something bigger – to have roots and branches and then ultimately fall apart, or to transform, over time, into something nourishing that becomes the ground.

Tasha Eichenseher is a nature-based and EMDR therapist in Colorado, US. She has had a 20-year career as a science and wellness journalist, with her work appearing in National Geographic, Discover and Vox.

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From soulful serenades to streaming sensations: Tracing Hindi cinema’s soundscape

Charting nine decades of Hindi film music

By Dikshaa Puri, Media India Group, New Delhi, July 19, 2025

From the soulful charm of Jaane Kahan Mera Jigar Gaya Ji in the 1950s to the glittering disco beats of Bappi Lahiri’s Yaad Aa Raha Hai in the 1980s and the return of soft melody of Mohit’s Chauhan’s Jab Tu Sajan in 2025, Hindi music has continuously reinvented itself across the decades. More than just melodies, each era’s music has mirrored the spirit of its time, echoing hopes, heartbreaks, revolutions and cultural shifts.

In the 1950s, songs carried the weight and wonder of a newly independent nation, filled with both idealism and sorrow. By the 2000s, lyrics and rhythms had evolved to challenge long-held norms, questioning gender roles and embracing a rapidly modernising society. In 2025, music continues to blend traditional Indian sounds with contemporary Western genres like hip-hop, EDM, and pop, while also seeing a wave of remakes and the return of soft melodies like Jab Tu Sajan.

Through it all, Hindi film music has not just accompanied cinema, it has been a parallel story of India’s transformation.

1930s–1950s: Melody and meaning in a new nation

Hindi film music began with Alam Ara (1931), India’s first talkie, where songs were performed live on set. By the 1940s, music had become integral to storytelling, with some films featuring over 40 songs, echoing theatrical roots of the Indian cinema.

As India moved toward independence and later grappled with the trauma of Partition, music took on a deeper purpose, it was not just entertainment, but a form of emotional, cultural and national expression. Lyrics often reflected the anxieties and aspirations of a nation in flux: hope, sorrow, longing, and the desire for unity.

Poets like Sahir Ludhianvi and Shailendra infused songs with idealism and social commentary. Awaaz De Kahan Hai from Anmol Ghadi evoked yearning, while Jab Dil Hi Toot Gaya 1946’s Shahjehan, resonated with a population grieving more than personal loss. Themes of patriotism, displacement, gender roles and class struggle emerged, often rooted in the Progressive Writers’ Movement.

Playback singing, introduced in this era, elevated voices like Lata Mangeshkar and Mohammed Rafi to national icons. Their songs became the emotional soundtrack to India’s early years of freedom, bridging divides, comforting wounds and setting the tone for a new, modern identity.

1960s–70s: Romance, rebellion and the rise of the composer

As India’s political and social climate shifted post-independence, so did its music. The studio monopoly faded and independent producers and directors began forging their own creative teams, ushering in the age of the music director as auteur. This was the era when S D Burman, Shankar-Jaikishan, Madan Mohan and later R D Burman became just as famous as the actors they scored for.

This was also a time of dualities. Romantic melodies like Chaudhvin Ka Chand Ho and Abhi Na Jao Chhod Kar coexisted with experimental tunes like Piya Tu Ab To Aaja, capturing the tension between tradition and modernity.

At this time, R D Burman’s genius stood out, merging jazz, Latin percussion, rock and psychedelia with Indian classical structures. He was not just composing songs, he was creating soundscapes that reflected India’s growing urban complexity.

1980s: Disco beats and economic realities

The 1980s marked a sonic and visual shift. As synthesisers and drum machines entered the scene, composers like Bappi Lahiri brought disco to Bollywood with unapologetic flair. Hits like I Am a Disco Dancer and Jimmy Jimmy reflected a growing appetite for spectacle and escapism, cinema as a glittering distraction in a politically and economically turbulent decade.

Beneath the flash, however, the industry was tightening its belt. Inflation, declining film revenues, and over-dependence on stars affected music budgets and creative risks. Big studios began collapsing under financial pressure, and independent producers struggled to fund elaborate scores. Still, emotionally rich tracks like Tujhse Naraz Nahin Zindagi and Aye Zindagi Gale Laga Le proved that introspection had not vanished, only become less marketable.

1990s: Liberalisation and the pop parallel

The economic liberalisation of 1991 opened India to the world and the world’s music to India. While Bollywood churned out memorable soundtracks for hit films like Dilwale Dulhania Le Jayenge and Hum Aapke Hain Koun, it was also the decade that saw the meteoric rise and eventual decline of Indi-pop.

For a while, the biggest hits were not from films at all. Alisha Chinai’s Made in India, Daler Mehndi’s Bolo Ta Ra Ra, and Lucky Ali’s O Sanam became household anthems, amplified by the rise of television music channels, MTV and Channel V. This was a brief moment where non-film music took centre stage and Bollywood noticed.

While with Roja, A.R Rahman introduced ambient layering, fusion instrumentation, and a studio production style that was light years ahead. Songs like Chaiyya Chaiyya were not just hits, they were genre-defying cultural moments.

2000s: Remix culture and the mass masala formula

With the advent of the CD and the decline of cassettes, Bollywood entered its remix era. Older classics were reimagined with techno beats, flashy videos and pulsating dance moves. Albums like DJ Aqeel’s Shake It Daddy and Bally Sagoo’s remixes of Kishore Kumar hits dominated dance floors and weddings alike.

At the same time, Bollywood leaned into the ‘item number’ formula, high-energy dance tracks designed to be mass entertainers. Songs like Munni Badnam Hui and Sheila Ki Jawani became cinematic staples, often overshadowing the films themselves.

Yet, not all was lost to commercial trends. Composers like Shankar-Ehsaan-Loy, Vishal-Shekhar, and Salim-Sulaiman pushed boundaries, delivering lyrical gems like Tum Se Hi and Tere Ore, ensuring emotional storytelling still had a place in a beat-heavy era.

2010s–2020s: Identity, intimacy, and independent voices

In the age of streaming, Hindi film music no longer held a monopoly on listeners’ ears. Platforms like Spotify and YouTube reshaped access and discovery, placing indie musicians on the same shelf as Bollywood superstars. This digital levelling allowed independent voices like Prateek Kuhad, Divine and Ritviz, to speak to niche audiences with intimacy and authenticity.

Meanwhile, the film industry adapted to a more globalised, introspective India. Soundtracks began reflecting more personal and layered themes, urban isolation, mental health, migration, and identity. Songs like Apna Time Aayega from Gully Boy marked a cultural moment, channelling anger, ambition, and class consciousness through rap.

Music today is more decentralised than ever, often mood-driven, algorithmic and cross-cultural, but its power to reflect who we are, and where we are going, remains as potent as ever.

Over nine decades, Hindi film music has played the dual role of echo and oracle. It has mirrored the mood of a nation, whether through patriotic anthems, love ballads or dance floor bangers, while also shaping tastes, trends and identities.

As listeners scroll through playlists and press ‘skip’, it is worth remembering how far the music world has come, from gramophones and radio nights to curated algorithms and AI-generated beats. But despite the change in tune, the emotion remains timeless.

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