Maternal Family? Don't they mean anything?

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mjtruelegend

@mjtruelegend

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Posted: 13 years ago

Hello people's. Saw today's episode, and I just livid!! Totally vexed!! I know the Kashyaps have done a lot for Suhana, they loved and cared for her and they still do yes I know BUT!!! Does that mean her maternal family take a complete backseat???? No more matter how much love you get at your in-laws, no one can take the place of your parents and your MAYKA!!

How can she say "Maa ki kaami mehsoos nehi hone di"?? Of course BM filled the maternal void she had in her life but that doesn't mean that she stops talking about Vidhisha!! The invisible bond of Suhana-Vidhisha was so beautiful, they used to bring tears to my eyes but now she hardly mentions her mother!! 😭 Why so different? Why did they cease the emotional bond? What happened to that photo of hers with Vidhisha which Ishaan gifted?

Sadly, SGP is not what it used to be. Suhana was so much more sensitive when it came to her father, mother, sister and even the servants but now she talks like they are not related any more, and I hate that line..."You are no longer a BAJPAYEE...You are now a KASHYAP""...What on earth does that mean?...Yes you adapt and grow to love your new family but they CANNOT replace her own blood family can they?? As far as I am concerned, you learn to love your family equally as your maternal family.

Your in laws are an addition to your world that's all!

Not only that I have always hated KK for blindly following and agreeing to anything and everything the Kashyaps do, despite their wrongdoings!! No REAL father is like that! But now his daughter has started too!!
And the family? Sorry to say but nowadays they all appear to be artificial and I am not able to connect well to any of them!!

You may or may not agree, but please do share your thoughts. Especially to those married ladies, how do you treat your maternal family after marriage?

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Sheema

@infinity00

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Posted: 13 years ago

Once I told my sister Inlaw ( nanand) about my itenary before my mother and she knew from her when I was going ...my mother cried ...she said " I know you love your Inlaws ...because I taught you to love your husbands home and family just as yours but I never thought that you would forget me" I was so shocked and embarrassed and now when my mother is no more I cry thinking about it and regret .

I didn't like when Suahan said that they love me more then my Dad... It break my heart as , a father like KK is a blessing who not only fulfilled the duty of a loving father but as a mother as well. Sometimes SGP writers takes the idea of amazing inlaws too far just to prove that there serial is not a typical TV serial with vicious sasural . This idealism of Inlaws is not real .

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mjtruelegend

@mjtruelegend

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Posted: 13 years ago

I totally agree!!😭 I am was really taken aback when she said that!! I don't like what the writers are doing with the Bajpayes-Suhana. Before when Suhana-Sanjana used to meet, they would be so warm to one-another and they would hug and Sanju used to say "Didi" so sweetly, now I miss that!! 😭

Not only that, Suhana-Ishaan were in Mumbai for 6 months, why didn't KK-Sanjana go to see them? For them it would be nothing to fly to Mumbai and back withing a day or 2. So why didn't they? I just feel the writers are neglecting this very heart touching bond that used to exist!!😭

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MadameX

@MadameX

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Posted: 13 years ago

Fantastic post, Sheemu-sama...I liked the points you made. 👍🏼 CVs are truly being too unrealistic. 😒 How can a woman who has lived for a greater part of her life (not in terms of the number of years but the strength of the emotional bonds that formed during that time) sideline her own mayka? It's just too impossible. Maternal place is where the child is raised and moulded...when the girl arrives at in-laws place, she is ready-made material. In-laws don't have responsibility of raising her and teaching her...she has come prepared to take responsibility. But like Sheemu said, by glorifying the Kashyaps as ideal in-laws, they have put Bajpais far too much in the back that they seem meaningless and unimportant.

Parents are very special and no one can really take their places unless in the extreme circumstances when parents are unable to support a child and so surrogate parents have to step in. Even still, there is a special bond from just being blood parents.

It seems that the CVs have managed to develop Suhana into such a character that is quite malleable in negative terms: she is easily bendable to whatever her obsession is focused on. 😆

Edited by MadameX - 13 years ago

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mjtruelegend

@mjtruelegend

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Posted: 13 years ago

Ekta it really upset me when I saw that !! I have seen so many women, my Mother, my Aunties who learn to take all their bonds with them, no more no less. For me my family are utmost important especially my mother and no matter how much love anyone gives me, they will not able to change the way I feel. I know after marriage a lot happens, lots of things change but your MAYKA is one thing that cannot change or even replace...its just sad how they are showing it! I don't like it!😒

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Tani

@Tani91

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+ 6

Posted: 13 years ago

^I completely agree with that...Suhana is like clay for the CVs right now...they can make her an idiot they can make her a bahu and what not, she's a big blob of Playdogh for the CVs

I havent seen the episode yet and I do love the Kashyaps more than anything on TV at the moment but I do agree that it is wrong for the CVs to ignore that a maternal home is still a part of a woman after being married. My own mother often jokes that it is such a crazy societal norm that we have that girls have to go away to someone else's house.

I feel like they should show some sort of resistance from KK now especially with Sanjana's wedding coming up about Kashyaps and their (how to put this nicely) stupidity sometimes...I remember in Friday's episode that Suhana was talking about the on screen chudail telling Gauri to do crap and he was like W*F Rano said this? I feel like they need to show more situations in which he questions the Kashyaps and their way of handling things

I have a feeling that with RB and Deepak truth coming out he will

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MadameX

@MadameX

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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: mjtruelegend
Ekta it really upset me when I saw that !! I have seen so many women, my Mother, my Aunties who learn to take all their bonds with them, no more no less. For me my family are utmost important especially my mother and no matter how much love anyone gives me, they will not able to change the way I feel. I know after marriage a lot happens, lots of things change but your MAYKA is one thing that cannot change or even replace...its just sad how they are showing it! I don't like it!😒

Seriously...Cvs are making things too much into terms of black and white: Kashyap= ideal, Bajpais = non-ideal. Life is about grey shades...you also have to have a lot of balance in life. From all that I learned, extremes have never been good no matter what it may be. Even I am like you, unmarried...and I would never ever dare to even think about sidelining my parents and brothers. Although I understand one has to prioritize the in-laws first after marriage, that doesn't mean, you completely leave the maternal side. That's just way too extreme.

Suhana is in desperate need of character makeover. CVs, are you listening? 😡😆😆

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Tani

@Tani91

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Posted: 13 years ago

^Oh please if they hear that then they will make her into a brainless maniac like in Mumbai track again🤢...I would rather take actress Suhana than blonde bimbo Suhana anyday

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MadameX

@MadameX

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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: Tani91
^I completely agree with that...Suhana is like clay for the CVs right now...they can make her an idiot they can make her a bahu and what not, she's a big blob of Playdogh for the CVs

I havent seen the episode yet and I do love the Kashyaps more than anything on TV at the moment but I do agree that it is wrong for the CVs to ignore that a maternal home is still a part of a woman after being married. My own mother often jokes that it is such a crazy societal norm that we have that girls have to go away to someone else's house.

I feel like they should show some sort of resistance from KK now especially with Sanjana's wedding coming up about Kashyaps and their (how to put this nicely) stupidity sometimes...I remember in Friday's episode that Suhana was talking about the on screen chudail telling Gauri to do crap and he was like W*F Rano said this? I feel like they need to show more situations in which he questions the Kashyaps and their way of handling things

I have a feeling that with RB and Deepak truth coming out he will

@ the big, bold pink: Oh hellz yeah!!! KK can't always assume Kashyaps are best and know what they're doing. Even he is idolizing them too much and I really hope he doesn't do that because even Suhana is seeing that and getting affected by it. People have to also learn that not everyone is perfect, everyone is flawless, and that you shouldn't blindly accept everything because of preconceived notions. It's actually quite dangerous to do that. Kashyaps can't always make the right decisions. So KK needs to be a bit more open-minded than he is and question things that don't seem right.

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MadameX

@MadameX

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Posted: 13 years ago

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Originally posted by: Tani91
^Oh please if they hear that then they will make her into a brainless maniac like in Mumbai track again🤢...I would rather take actress Suhana than blonde bimbo Suhana anyday

No, no, I meant that I wanted CVs to make Suhana smarter and more mature and just overall a hell lot better than she is now. 😆