Somebody please slap Shailaja - Page 3

Originally posted by: gangubai1

Will somebody please slap Shailaja and lock her up in a room. At least Rano cries but later she understands the issues, this woman has no more sense in her than an illiterate maid and she is the one solely responsible for all the problems the family is facing now and in future.

I wonder if she thinks that acting like Meena Kumari (not the maid, the B/W movie actress) will make her look good. Even Meena Kumari (the maid) has more sense in her. This woman is acting so frustoo in life that if it was not for the second generation, she would go and live with Ishwar even if he keeps her as a maid and cook to his second wife

Well she is the one who is brought up in the society where Pati is parmaishwar no matter what he does he can go for mujra but patni cannot be a dancer Devdas. Now who got slapped

Originally posted by: shilu999_balani

but in doing so she would lose the respect of not only her children but all the people around her

she would risk breaking the special bond that she has with her children...with alok..with radha bua...with rano...who do not approve of BP at all...in getting back with him she will be alienating herself from everyone else in the family...

and for whom? a husband who deserted her once for another woman...who is showing his true colors of a selfish man..and no garauntee of remaining faithful to her henceforth...

the answer is very simple for herself. Why is that we assume if BM accept BP it is for him. If she loves him and wants him then it is for her. She did spend most of her life for other people, is it so wrong if she thinks of herself for once. Did panna think of how everyone else feel around her when she was behaving badly with raunk, no because she was doing it for herself then why cant BM be with the person that she loves and wants. It is funny how we are against people who would force somebody like BM to be with BP but on the other hand if somebody like BM herself wants to live with BP, we still blame her. Why should a person always live for everybody else. She lived in the same house, took care of everyone and her kids and not even once thought about herself. RB, rano and even her kids nobody can fill the place of a husband or lover in her life. she will always have that void in her life. she clearly wants a companion in life and more than that i dont think she ever forgot her love for BP no matter how bad he is. And if those same people that she made so many sacrifices fail to understand her feelings and needs then they clearly dont deserve her. BM stood by RB in everything even when she hated and insulted and treated her own son like garbage then it is RB duty to stand by BM in whatever decision she makes regarding BP. The entire family should stand by her and support her, They need to realize that BM also has feelings and needs and if she wants BP then they need to stop forcing their hatred and decisions on her. That does not mean that everyone should accept him but just tolerate him for BM.

Again I only support their union if BM wants him and loves him, and not if she is being forced by someone else.

Originally posted by: abhi786

The way BM character is going on now a days is so depressing.. I can understand her dilema.. But now BM has t take stand what she wants ?? and also prepare for the consequences that will happen about her stand..

She has to choose either BP or family (her kids)..Till now alok, dadaji and family suffered a lot because of BP..Now if accepts BP , BM should be ready to face the consequences, may be their children would keep distance with her ..

What ever may be her decision, BM stood take it and stand by it.. How much wise and faithful it will be while choosing a selfish man BP above family who has given her so much love and respect..

Originally posted by: sammukh

That what i am saying...she has lived for the family...she has the right to live for herself now... we have seen her so many times in situations...like "Bheed mein bhi thi Tanhai "n i am sure the character BM is strong enough to change the still plotting BP to a Positive character...whom every1 will love... n i'm not talking from BP's POV...i'm talking from BM's POV... living without a husband is very difficult after marriage...n she has gone through it for 15 yrs...now if she wants to live her share with her husband...i think she has a point...n BP was not a bad man b4 he left...success got into him... n hopefully he is asking forgiveness genuinely...

Someone had posted a thread about the Look on BP's Face when Panna threw away that Necklace. Any person who GENUINELY wants Forgiveness will not have have a look saying "Okay, I don't care and Ab usne Phek diya hai toh Chalo utha hin leta hai" ??
No-One is saying BM is wrong or something. But we are Surprised that Infact of witnessing all that Radha's Insult and Ishika drama thing, She is still in Dilemma about HIM. And whoever said that a Wife has to be with her husband for this So-called Samaj is in my opinion Wrong. Aaj kal Aurat Chand pe pahunch gaye, and we are still fighting over "Women is incomplete without a Man". Now-a-days, there are many cases where WIVES leave their Husband and gone are the Days when they Chup-chap suffered their Husband Demand for Dowry, Physical abuse etc etc.. Zamana Badal raha hai 😉 😆. Just last thing, Badi-Maa had BP's family with her. so She should just keep that in Mind and Recognize as to why BP came into their Lives again?

P.S: I think what CV's are trying to show about BM is " If you love someone, let him go. If he comes back he's yours forever" 😆

Originally posted by: sammukh

That what i am saying...she has lived for the family...she has the right to live for herself now... we have seen her so many times in situations...like "BHeed mein bhi thi Tanhai "n i am sure the character BM is strong enough to change the still plotting BP to a Positive character...whom every1 will love... n i'm not talking from BP's POV...i'm talking from BM's POV... living without a husband is very difficult after marriage...n she has gone through it for 15 yrs...now if she wants to live her share with her husband...i think she has a point...n BP was not a bad man b4 he left...success got into him... n hopefully he is asking forgiveness genuinely...

Again I disagree.U r right reg. "bheed main tanhai" and even I agree that woman feel more secured in the presence of her husband or father(just my POV) but she isn't that feeble that she has no entity without them and also that so called love fades away when u feel deserted and alone even in the presence of a everyone for u,the void can never be filled by anyone else .Than women dies each day and along with her that so called feeling "love" also dies,for the one who ditched and deserted her longg back.She can never accept a man who is no more reliable and is even adamant.If she accepts her than it be an insult to her and even an insult to all those women who have suffered it all like BM every moment,every day and every time,who are ditched or deserted by their husbands.And husband like USM can never be a pride of any women in the world.

Originally posted by: shilu999_balani

exactly ...thats what i mean...how can she accept a man *(for herself also) who has been unfaithful to her with another woman?...if it were me i could never forget that fact... every time i would look at him...the other woman would come in front of my eyes and i could never forgive him...may be i could forgive but could never accept him as my husband again...

and yes the whole family stood by her and supported her in her time of grief...her children too...how could she just ignore them and accept the clearly selfish man who has no paternal feelings for her children?...

she was scared in last years august 3rd episode that the kashyap family is falling apart...with her accepting BP..the family is definitely going to be divided? to fall apart in her words...

I think once again, we are kinda throwing our own perspective into this issue. Just like people force women to stay with their unfaithful husbands because they feel that way we are expecting BM to leave him and judging her but at the same time everyone forgets that this BM's life and she can decide what she wants whether that is living with an unfaithful arrogant husband like BP or somebody nice and loving like Suhana's dad.
We are saying that we would never accept a husband like him back but this is not our life and we cant force our believes on somebody else.
BM never remarried or even completely got divorced and stayed with them and devoted her entire life to her kids without even once thinking about herself. Both her kids are older now and have their own lives so they should stop expecting their mom to always think about them and for once let their mom be selfish and think of herself. That does not mean they have to accept ishwar as their father or talk to him but just respect your moms decision and be happy for her.

Daadaji and daadi are old now and would not be alive forever. deepak will soon get married and start his own life and RB will be busy with him and his wife and their kids. Rano and her hubby will be busy with their lives and would want to retire and just be together. Inder and panna and illesh and ishan will all have kids soon and be busy with their own lives and at the end it will BM left alone. So why is it soo wrong if she for once in life thinks about herself and wants to be with a man that she never stopped loving.Why cant everyone just support her. Nobody has to like BP but just accept and support BM's decision if she is happy.

I agree sombody wake her up, she fogotten last fifteen years of humiliation rejected wife now acting like a teenager. BM needs to slap BP & also tell her mil that no more sacrifce or else waik out of the house with dignity.

Originally posted by: gangubai1

There are a number of similarities between Sona and Shailaja atm. We want Sona to leave Abhishek but we are saying support Shailaja if she wants to stay with Ishwar.

How is emotional abuse different from physical abuse? Ishwar has broken her trust once, there are abandonment issues there. He has other obligations and he is using her for his own selfish motives. Yet Shailaja has no objections to all of that. She is ready to take him back and not just that, she is deaf to what the entire family feels about this man. She is blackmailing them, leveraging their feelings for her to gain acceptance for Ishwar. That is what is galling.

I think they need to let her take him back and then realize for herslef that he is not the right person for her. If she listens to everybody else and kicks him out of her life then she will always have that doubt in her heart. remember even when he first left BM didnt have a choice and was not given the option to decide. This time they should let her decide and then face the consequences so at least she can get rid of the marriage and sindoor and never think of him again. They need to let her make her decision.