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I would like to share a few views and experiences regarding the story line between sonali and abhi...
First n formost the actress who plays the part of sonali deserve a medal for her playing the part of the victim so damn well I hve nothing but respect for her to even have the courage to take this role on...
Why do I think that? Because I have been there myself, in that situation, in those shoes and in that world of hers...people may think why is she still there but what people don't see is what is in that person head, mind, heart...abuse comes in all shapes n sizes mentally, physically, emotionally and unfortunately sexually, ur made to believe that this is how it's meant to be that it's normal n that ur life will never get better wether u stay or wether u leave in fact ur made to believe that it will just get worst the min u set foot outside the door, people in that position don't need others telling them what to do or judge them all they look for is love, respect, support n courage no matter what their desicion is, thy don't need another bully in their life who tries to impose their views upon them, they need a friend, sister, brother, parent coz not one single person can help other than urself, u cannot rely on anyone but urself because it's only you who can decide how to spend the rest of your life
Watching these scenes bring a lot of horrible n traumatic memories for me, there's times I feel like screaming at my TV, shout n scream tell her to get out while she can or convince her to tell someone, to run away without looking back I now realise that so many people would hve felt like that seeing my situation from the outside but at tht moment in time u just don't listen simply because of the fear of what he would to me or my family, the way ur family have the need and desire to protect you from this evil man in that same way I had the need to protect my family again from this evil man unfortunately it takes something drastic to make you see sense for me that drastic thing was loosing our unborn child due to his violent actions becoz he had proved to me that if a father can so easily take away the life of his child then he wouldn't think twice about doing it to his wife, why? Because love is a crazy emotion it makes u loose ur senses
BUT...there is sooo much help, first person to help u is urself once you take that one step alone u have a hundred people behind u for the rest of ur life
I stayed in my situation for 3 years without realising there was just so many places and people to run too, the day I left my marital home I realised I wasent alone as on the other side of the door were my saviours, my family, the police, my lawyer, social workers n now 2yrs on thy are all still behind me to catch me every time I fall
It took a lot of courage for me to leave my husband, if u even knew half my story you would understand why but Iv slowly built my life back up piece by piece NOW I see what others saw n I didn't back then and due to experience it gave me the ammunition to not help other victims but just to be there on the sidelines just waiting patiently for u to run to me
I'm now a police officer n am blessed that I now get to repay back to all the people who risked everything for me, I see woman in Sonalis situation day in and day out due to the nature of my job I have seen thousands of domestic abuse victims (men as well as woman believe it or not) I can't fix what's broken in their lives but everytime I make them realise help is at the other side of that door I believe Iv saved a life...
Watching these scenes between sonali n abhi just kills me inside but I'm proud of this show tackling such a taboo subject it would've been a risky gamble for the makers as this kinda storyline must be handled n shown in a realistic n sensitive way, I hope to god people who are in that same position get inspired by this storyline, make them realise so many other people r going thru the same I see sonali cowering in a corner with abhi towering over her n all I want to do so badly is step between them n say "I'm ur sister, ur friend, ur shadow...I can't promise to solve ur problems or fix ur life but if u take my hand I can promise to help n protect you..."
First n formost the actress who plays the part of sonali deserve a medal for her playing the part of the victim so damn well I hve nothing but respect for her to even have the courage to take this role on...
Why do I think that? Because I have been there myself, in that situation, in those shoes and in that world of hers...people may think why is she still there but what people don't see is what is in that person head, mind, heart...abuse comes in all shapes n sizes mentally, physically, emotionally and unfortunately sexually, ur made to believe that this is how it's meant to be that it's normal n that ur life will never get better wether u stay or wether u leave in fact ur made to believe that it will just get worst the min u set foot outside the door, people in that position don't need others telling them what to do or judge them all they look for is love, respect, support n courage no matter what their desicion is, thy don't need another bully in their life who tries to impose their views upon them, they need a friend, sister, brother, parent coz not one single person can help other than urself, u cannot rely on anyone but urself because it's only you who can decide how to spend the rest of your life
Watching these scenes bring a lot of horrible n traumatic memories for me, there's times I feel like screaming at my TV, shout n scream tell her to get out while she can or convince her to tell someone, to run away without looking back I now realise that so many people would hve felt like that seeing my situation from the outside but at tht moment in time u just don't listen simply because of the fear of what he would to me or my family, the way ur family have the need and desire to protect you from this evil man in that same way I had the need to protect my family again from this evil man unfortunately it takes something drastic to make you see sense for me that drastic thing was loosing our unborn child due to his violent actions becoz he had proved to me that if a father can so easily take away the life of his child then he wouldn't think twice about doing it to his wife, why? Because love is a crazy emotion it makes u loose ur senses
BUT...there is sooo much help, first person to help u is urself once you take that one step alone u have a hundred people behind u for the rest of ur life
I stayed in my situation for 3 years without realising there was just so many places and people to run too, the day I left my marital home I realised I wasent alone as on the other side of the door were my saviours, my family, the police, my lawyer, social workers n now 2yrs on thy are all still behind me to catch me every time I fall
It took a lot of courage for me to leave my husband, if u even knew half my story you would understand why but Iv slowly built my life back up piece by piece NOW I see what others saw n I didn't back then and due to experience it gave me the ammunition to not help other victims but just to be there on the sidelines just waiting patiently for u to run to me
I'm now a police officer n am blessed that I now get to repay back to all the people who risked everything for me, I see woman in Sonalis situation day in and day out due to the nature of my job I have seen thousands of domestic abuse victims (men as well as woman believe it or not) I can't fix what's broken in their lives but everytime I make them realise help is at the other side of that door I believe Iv saved a life...
Watching these scenes between sonali n abhi just kills me inside but I'm proud of this show tackling such a taboo subject it would've been a risky gamble for the makers as this kinda storyline must be handled n shown in a realistic n sensitive way, I hope to god people who are in that same position get inspired by this storyline, make them realise so many other people r going thru the same I see sonali cowering in a corner with abhi towering over her n all I want to do so badly is step between them n say "I'm ur sister, ur friend, ur shadow...I can't promise to solve ur problems or fix ur life but if u take my hand I can promise to help n protect you..."
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