A Mother is also a woman - Page 2

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Originally posted by: freelancer

@Armu4eva When I said abt Deepak being among the loved ones i meant the elders. she kept him away from herself but not the elders. As a matter of fact deepak had a good bonding with Dadaji, Badima and even Alok.

As for being to sent to his room I am not sure what her real thoughts were. But i wud like to think that bottom line she didnt want him to know the truth of her life. Children usually are always curious to know bout the facts of their elders. I dont say it is wrong but somethings are better unsaid.

Finally regarding punishing an innocent..... it was not intentional. Raising deepak was never out of compulsion . It was her sense of responsibily towards him. and her being indifferent even though it might have hurt Deepak a lot that was due to the circumstances. She loved him but didnt believe it herself...As rightly pointed out by badima this incident was like a Blessing in Disguise...for Radha bua. She herself never knew how much she loved her son until today when his life was at stake And when the truth was out she accepted him wholeheartedly.....as nothin mattered to her more than her own child's life.

But I wud like to add that no one can ever understand the true pain of a rape victim other than those unfortunate women who have faced these harsh realities. A woman can forgive any crime but if someone violates her integrity, destroys her mere existence ,its just immosiblie for her to forgive him.

Originally posted by: laxmi_s

Tanu dear .😃... in RB's case.... her mental block was the hatred she had for the rapist.... hence she developed a cold attitude towards deepak as he resembled him..... but she herself was not aware of the mother in her.... and her injustice towards her son throughout all this phase....this disliking towards Deepak for her was mostly induced by her inner hatred which ruled her persona for quite a long time...... it is the sudden development in her when she is not told about Deepak's whereabouts or even his suicide attempt that she realises the mother in her..... so whatever injustice happened by her for her son was unintentional.... when a human makes a mistake.... he def. does not do it intentionally as then it wud not be termed a mistake....it is a crime or a sin.... here it was more of a unintentional mistake than a crime or a sin.... if RB had hated him and not gone to meet him even after the suicide attempt thinking her trauma is much bigger than this issue then it wud have amount to a sin by a mother...... yes i agree deepak cannot be given those childhood days back which was a grave mistake done by RB...but atleast this realisation dawned on her now that a mother always wins over a woman....

Originally posted by: Shwets1502

@pooja...but pooja...din RB once ask dadaji and badi maa why they saved her..they cud have left her and the child die then..so does that mean she did try to kill herself and in the process the child..😕

Originally posted by: Armu4eva

At the outset..wanted to say that its indeed a great post...with some equally great responses..!! Luvd reading everyones POV...!!

U are totally right when u say that a 'mother is also a woman' and indeed its many times that as a child we overlook this aspect..!! That we ought to take a step back and think about her feelings and not keep on doing as we please in case it hurts her ..just coz we know that at the end of the day.. a 'mother is a mother' who wuld love and support her child unconditionally.

While as u said..RB has nurtured Deepak ...the important question is whether it was out of choice or compulsion. If it was out of choice then her revulsion to him and continuous indifference have definitely pained Deepak in more ways than one. When u say that She kept him among the people who love him.....i think its Factually incorrect. Radha kept Deepak at arms length always and tried to keep him away from several members of the Kashyap family ..remember how Deepak had to stay, eat and sleep in HIS ROOM whenever he dropped by at the kashyap parivar....how him laufing and njoying wit the family wuld displease her?? At the end of the day RB bringing up Deepak even if out of her own choice...appears to be a compelled decision...!!

RBs feelings...her hurt ...her pain....and her revulsion has no parallels and i have the greatest of respect for the same....but punishing an innocent person for someone elses deeds also deserves to be disapproved.

Finally hats off to the CVs for dealing this sensitive subject so well..!!

Originally posted by: rdfan

@Shwets- If that was the case then she shud be cold towards the people who saved her and deepak and not deepak ......just as she has the right to live and experience the warmth of the family despite what happened with her so does deepak ......if no one deserted her then why shud she desert deepak