If I Were Kumud - Page 4

Originally posted by: reyaansh-kria

Shana,

I have to disagree here. Not that I say their love was eternal or sth since I feel they never reached that tangent(neither of them) but what Saras did is beyond repair. Since the start the writers have shown us that how Saras is kaccha in relationships(coz of his reasons) but his reaction was sth which neither of us ever expected(given that we know more about him than kumud😆). If my man ever breaks my heart then I would've reacted exactly like Kumud. First she took it as a joke then she thought he is postponing it and then the realisation took over her which led to her turbulent struggles be it begging, pleading, terrorizing. All she could see was his rejection once again w/o any reasoning. She cried and cried while he pathetically escaped the situation by hanging up. Kumud stood up and tried what she could do her best since she knows there's no coming back from his side

. Jo uski tadap na sun paya woh kya laut ke aayega aur aaya bhi toh kyu apnaye woh uss premi ko jisne akhiri mod par hath chudha liya aur chodh dia usse hazaro tohmate sehne ke liye.

For the last line, Woman might be the healer but only in the times when she isn't betrayed. A scorned woman would be much worse than the treatment in hell. That's how complicated we women are 😆

hummm...well all i know is all kumud remembered was she hated most .Rejection...if only she could feel his state of mind...she would have never cried ...instead she would have pitied and sat by his side with box of tissue papers ...not for herself but saras.

..if only she could interpret his no from his perspective ...where he was actually saving her from his own gloominess ...

..but then its rightly said u alwayts see what u want to...and she just saw that she was Rejected !!!!!

Originally posted by: shana0127

well u love somebody with such depth as shown then u do as i said

i have not at all been dramatic in writing what i wrote instead i put myself into her shoes and then wrote...coz as far as i know she had she is married to him by soul then why forsake this soul connection so suddenly


plus i did see the dialogues...saras was in pain...and any body would hear him and say that its mad man talking not saras ...then how come kumud did not see this

i have been lucky with my man but then there r times when u go in some depression or anger...and speak things...but then i always know when my man is mad and when in senses ...specially when u fall for a man with fluctuating continence...kumud dared ...i bravo her ...but then she faltered when a real trying time came...

u take risk when u love men like saras ...coz such people r always in need of emotional help ...and u need to understand

sorry here after really understanding saras character ...which i presumed kumud did know ...the reaction of kumud is quit inconsistent ...

@bold - you and I understand because we are seeing both sides of the story.. we saw what Saras went through, she didn't .. She was left to presume everything.. no explanation whatsoever... As far as she knows, everything was resolved between him and his father.. No matter how big a threat Guman was, in her wildest imagination she wouldn't have expected Saras to fall prey to her .. Now he is strong and can fight his battles- that is what she believed.. and this suicide angle that has been used to somewhat justify Saras's weakness , is not in the novel.. his weakness to cope with crisis is a flaw and even he woudn't deny it.. no matter how much we love the character.. Coming back to the situation on hand.. last time he rejected the proposal, it was actually a good decision even though the way to convey it was wrong even then.. but he came to her and it took months for her to heal his lifelong pain .. this time, a phone call from a faraway country , broken yet determined voice saying '' mein apna faisla nahi badloonga '' what do you expect? her pleadings, begging, tears, anger , demand for an explanation ..nothing could deter him.. she even said come to me once and you will see nothing has changed.. I don't need your name ..she assured her support in every possible manner.. all that was left to be done from her side, was physically transport herself.. If this phone call had come a week before the wedding, she might have crossed that extra mile too...

If he was mentally traumatized and that's the reason he couldn't see the blatant injustice of his act, then same can be said for her too... his mental state can go haywire and wreck havoc on people's life and she is supposed to maintain her cool at all times.. even times like this.. ye kahan ka insaaf hai? what if Sunny wasn't there to knock sense into Saras? he would have remained absconding.. both father and son hung up on phone.. where is the girl and family supposed to look for them? in 2 days? and wait till when ? for what? Is anyone ready to talk or explain? had the situation been reverse, this forum would have eaten up Kumud alive..

Originally posted by: vaishali-AR

@bold - you and I understand because we are seeing both sides of the story.. we saw and know what Saras went through, she didn't .. She was left to presume everything.. no explanation whatsoever... As far as she knows, everything was resolved between him and his father.. No matter how big a threat Guman was, in her wildest imagination she wouldn't have expected Saras to fall prey to her .. Now he is strong and can fight his battles- that is what she believed.. and this suicide angle that has been used to somewhat justify Saras's weakness , is not in the novel.. his weakness to cope with crisis is a flaw and even he woudn't deny it.. no matter how much we love the character.. Coming back to the situation on hand.. last time he rejected the proposal, it was actually a good decision even though the way to convey it was wrong even then.. but he came to her and it took months for her to heal his lifelong pain .. this time, a phone call from a faraway country , broken yet determined voice saying '' mein apna faisla nahi badloonga '' what do you expect? her pleadings, begging, tears, anger , demand for an explanation ..nothing could deter him.. she even said come to me once and you will see nothing has changed.. I don't need your name ..she assured her support in every possible manner.. all that was left to be done from her side, was physically transport herself.. If this phone call had come a week before the wedding, she might have crossed that extra mile too...

If he was mentally traumatized and that's the reason he couldn't see the blatant injustice of his act, then same can be said for her too...

by reading all i feel is that kumud never actually did understand saras and his big emotional void and instability ...i am saying it again saras is not at all a normal man when it comes to emotional continances...he showed his symptoms right from the beginning...dugba and kumud did understand it and tried to heal it too...but then pls tell years of trauma can be treated permannently by one two hugs with father and one two laughs ...

@blue...that was the pressure , excitement and anxiety of marriage due to which she failed to understand his perspective and his naive efforts to save him from himself and his dark life of a wanderer

@bold black ...at last u agree that kumud did falter just like saras ...so let them suffer together ...coz they deserve it...if only if only one of them was sane enough ...and the story would have had been a different one

Originally posted by: shana0127

by reading all i feel is that kumud never actually did understand saras and his big emotional void and instability ...i am saying it again saras is not at all a normal man when it comes to emotional continances...he showed his symptoms right from the beginning...dugba and kumud did understand it and tried to heal it too...but then pls tell years of trauma can be treated permannently by one two hugs with father and one two laughs ...

@blue...that was the pressure , excitement and anxiety of marriage due to which she failed to understand his perspective and his naive efforts to save him from himself and his dark life of a wanderer

@bold black ...at last u agree that kumud did falter just like saras ...so let them suffer together ...coz they deserve it...if only if only one of them was sane enough ...and the story would have had been a different one

If Kumud hadn't understood Saras, then she would have never been able to change him at the first place.. No appreciation for the girl, who despite being rejected, persistantly worked on his weakness and successfully filled up the void in his life by bringing him close to his father.. Had she been aware of the reason of the suicide then, she would have worked it out for him too.. But you should not always rely on others to help you get out of crisis.. As a man of the family, there are far many respensibilities you are supposed to take..as a husband, as a father and hence forth.. If you runaway at the first hint of crisis then yes you are not fit to start a family ever.. so in that sense , Saras is not fit.. yes..

I feel bad for the fact that people can easily forgive Saras despite the enormity of his blunder, excuse being he was mentally unstable.. but the girl is expected to be rock solid.. no heart only brain to mechanically put aside her shock, panic and grief and think of ways to support Saras.. Some support from the man, for a change would be nice too no?

and don't be so upset... we knew what we were getting into.. they both will suffer and we will cry with them..

kumud too traumatised poor girl i think she will regret this

VERY TRUE & VERY WELLSAID...I was hoping sanjayji will use his own brain and will change the story, but...

Originally posted by: vaishali-AR

If Kumud hadn't understood Saras, then she would have never been able to change him at the first place.. No appreciation for the girl, who despite being rejected, persistantly worked on his weakness and successfully filled up the void in his life by bringing him close to his father.. Had she been aware of the reason of the suicide then, she would have worked it out for him too.. But you should not always rely on others to help you get out of crisis.. As a man of the family, there are far many respensibilities you are supposed to take..as a husband, as a father and hence forth.. If you runaway at the first hint of crisis then yes you are not fit to start a family ever.. so in that sense , Saras is not fit.. yes..

I feel bad for the fact that people can easily forgive Saras despite the enormity of his blunder, excuse being he was mentally unstable.. but the girl is expected to be rock solid.. no heart only brain to mechanically put aside her shock, panic and grief and think of ways to support Saras.. Some support from the man, for a change would be nice too no?

and don't be so upset... we knew what we were getting into.. they both will suffer and we will cry with them..

vaishaly...thats what i am always saying ...when u fall for a weak person u need to be strong ...and if cannot be strong dont blame the weak coz he has been weak before too ...its u who promised to be strong and be on his side...saras was never fit yes...but its dugbaa and kumud who said we will make hime fit...there were on social work spree. to rehabilitate saras ...so why cry

instead she should have had used her power ...the power to get him back again...if she really loved him and cared for him...but no instead she burned it all and said...man go to hell ...i am done with u and ur emotional tantrums...i want a guy who can take care of me and not one whom i have to pamper life time

saras like people r a life time responsibility

as for saras i dont side him ...ihe is already suffering what more ...at last he ended up doing what he feared most...he filled Kumuds life with darkness of his own

Originally posted by: ruby2000

If I were Kumud, I will not rush into any decision..because its my life... How could I take the decision with in seconds... I loved him so deeply...I know I would be completely heartbroken.Even my mind is blank ...My family will b very upset...In this situation ,I will try to find out the reason behind his decision.I know him very well ... His mind can be easily disturbed.So i defintly try to contact him ...After that If the reason is not worthy.I will accept what my parents choose for me... But even not suddenly... How could I ???? :( oh..cant imagine... ;(

VERY TRUE & VERY WELLSAID...I was hoping sanjayji will use his own brain and will change the story, but...

May be there is a possibility that he change the story at the end,...no use...where it needed to change...didn't happened...NOMORE interest to watch..

they will sure change the end coz its no more valid as widow re marriage is not a stigma now ...so keep watching

right now this twist was necessary...as it brings out the faults in the lovers...and shows path to other couples ... that how an impulsive decision can ruin ur and ur beloved's life ...the show does have a point to teach if u really take it positively...

Originally posted by: khanrocks

kumud too traumatised poor girl i think she will regret this

u r right...she will

infact both will...saras is already doing so and Kimud will for sure

@shana- You almost made it sound like Kumud committed a crime by helping Saras come out if his miseries ... So they should have left him mope and grope his mother's death all his life, and live the life of a detached loner??? when was this deal made even sub consciously, that he can remain the weak and dependent partner and she has to be the strong, understanding, supportive one? The promises that I remember they made together were:
1. To always be there for each other, whether physically together or not- both failed, not just Kumud..even if I ignore who failed first
2. Sirf haq nai ma, zimmedai bhi - saras promised Guniyal
3. Kumud ko hamesha khush rakhunga- saras to VC

Do they sound like promises of a weak man? That was a moment if weakness.. He wasnt weak when he left Kumud is RN with a promise to come back.. Thats the transformed Saras we all had gotten used to, including Kumud..

We have very different interpretations of the story , but my heart hurts for both..thats where I am with you :)