On similar topic, srushti has written a wonderful post ' I want to be at peace'. Since both are related topics, wanted to share my reply :
However I would like to add that Kumud, I feel, understands by now that there is something Saras needs to let go. His pain, anguish, agony which he has kept in his heart and not releasing. If you see, she said when he was doing ploughing, 'you need to let go of the demon inside you first, than think of relieving yourself' ( I don't remember the exact dialogue, but see the video once again).
She is the one who has somewhat the overview. When she said that ' kyon hum dono ek doosre ko chubhan dete hain,' the other day, she is realising that every time they want to comfort each other still end up fighting for some reason or the other.
Saras is not ready to accept the layers or deep inside pain in him is ruining him, it's Kumud who has identified it, since the day she has seen his eyes. She says also " you know why I agreed by merely seeing your eyes, coz I saw an innocent pain in them". Even in the room, she only recognised it again, and told him to share to get rid of the pain inside him. She knows him better than he himself.
At times if the person you know is in deep pain, and you want to relieve him, and he does not acknowledge only that he has pain and it will ruin him, frustrates you. Same is happening to Kumud.
Why she ran after him to the fields was not coz she wanted to belittle him, but coz she was worried after seeing him on the verge of tears after talks with Dukhba.
In my opinion, when she said to Saras that ' tum swarthi ho' she was trying provoke him to spit his pain out. She was just trying to incite him to let go in some way or the other. Since she did not know how to relieve him exactly, she made him to take his anger out on her. But she never expected his anger will be so personal aimed at her.
Even while packing, she does not want him to leave coz he has not yet said no, but coz she wants him to leave from a place which is resurrecting his pain. That's why she said, ' mujhe tum he yahan bulana hi Nahin chahiye tha' , and not because he was being personal in saying about her ' ahankaar'.