Sadhana MUST learn a lesson:Mod's note on PG42 - Page 5

Originally posted by: Omshanti1111

Sadhna's only motto is to see Ragini happy...she ignored Rgaini;s interest only once , during the court scene...
in the slap incident, she slapped not her jiji's husband, but her devar who took her mentally disbalaned husband out...
actually, I Feel pity for Sdahna, that she always is put in dilemma and she has to choose between her two beloved persons...

I completely agree with you. But Sadhana has to understand that marriage comes first.

One point ....

Originally posted by: navaneeta

One point ....

Sadhna ne shaadi to mazak nahi banaya ... Vasu ne use majboor kar diya ... Please analyze the situation ...

- Yes, Sadhna married Alekh in majboori .. but she gave more than her 100% ... and she really cared for RV's also .. not only Sharma family ... She did so much to save Ranvir from Sonia, and then is the main reason for Alekh's 'thik hona'

- She did so much to make Ranvir free in a respectful manner and not only that .. she always asked Alekh to treat Vasu with respect as she is his mother

- Sadhna was forcefully thrown out of the house, still she came back just for whom? Alekh .... but what she got in return? Alekh asked her to go away and when she asked about all marriage kasam's ... Alekh told that that time he was not normal ....

- Still she saved Alekh's life risking her own life ...

- Why she signed divorce papers? because that was her only way to get money .... Mallika's office has policy not to give loan in < 6 months and then also she worked so hard to win the competition, but there Vasu kept Raginni in front of her .. so she has to loose ....

- Sadhna signed the papers with so much faith and trust oin Alekh that he will come to her where she would explain her majboori to Alekh ... but what Alekh did .....

No Sadhna should not beg anything from anyone ... Alekh should beg and then also Sadhna should not forgive him. Sadhna should be strong to take that step.

It was not the only way to get money. Kaushi is Ragini's mother. Ragini did win the competition...she could have given the money for her mothers operation instead of donating it. Only if someone had told her about this. If not Ragini, then Ranveer could have helped...he is the son-in-law. Sharma family could have returned the money later on.
I fail to understand why did Sadhana hide Kaushi's illness from Mamaji. He had every right to know about his wife's health. What if something had happened before the dance competition...who would have been responsible ? This was a life threatening situation...not saving some property. No logic behind anything.

Seems like , everything else that Sadi did is nulled by her signing the divorce papers.

I guess we should all take a lesson here,

A person who is selfless needs to get the worst of treatments cause they deserve it as they are stupid enough to put people in front than themselves.


So a woman should totally care only about her husband who dosen't acknowledge her nor gives her any of the rights, nor takes care of financially or emotionally and is ready to marry someone else. Yes , that woman should put her marriage first and ignore everything else. Because if not, she is a demeaning character who got only what she deserved.


Point Taken

Originally posted by: --Anu--

It was not the only way to get money. Kaushi is Ragini's mother. Ragini did win the competition...she could have given the money for her mothers operation instead of donating it. Only if someone had told her about this. If not Ragini, then Ranveer could have helped...he is the son-in-law. Sharma family could have returned the money later on.
I fail to understand why did Sadhana hide Kaushi's illness from Mamaji. He had every right to know about his wife's health. What if something had happened before the dance competition...who would have been responsible ? This was a life threatening situation...not saving some property. No logic behind anything.

Originally posted by: Omshanti1111

I dont understand one concept...Alekh does not even acknowledge Sadhna as his wife, what is left in the relationship..its true that Vasu kicked her out, but what did Alekh do as a husband?...remember what Mamaji asked him that he took the phere with Sdahna and not his mom...even if Sadhna did a deal with Vasu, she remained truthful to the marriage and one time she considered the value of truth and GOD above her family, and she was thrown out....

And why Sdahna should go to Alekh and Rgaini for money...does the past record say that they would belive Sdahna..rather, she was already given the feel that Alekh wants to be freed from her and with Alekh even acknowledging her in public as his wife, does not leave anything in the marriage to be saved....Sadhna's decision is fully apt from the reason she is giving, that there is nothing left in her marrige and thats why she is freeing Alekh...how ill she know that overnight Alekh is drawing her pic and wants her back, is she an astrologer...the same people sometime back threw not only her, but also all the stuff back and now Mr. Alekh coming with a "jugal sketch"...

now, if Ranveer and Ragini gives proof of Sadhna's innocence and then Alekh's brain opens up and accpets Sadhna, I am sure this relationship will not last for long ...husband-wife needs to have understanding, just what I saif for Ranveer-Ragini, the same for Sdahna-Alekh

@ red - If Sadhana remained truthful to her marriage in your opinion even afer signing divorce papers for Sharma family crisis, Aalekh is more truthful to his marriage not only by not signing the divorce papers but also by not even looking at the other woman. He kept her away, did not stop his mother from throwing her out. Same night he went to Sharma house to tell Sadhana he would always marry her now and everytime he had to make that choice but went back without telling her. But that doesn't mean he was not truthful to his wife and been a faithful husband. If Sadhana nursed him to health, Aalekh was mountain of strength in protecting her from Vasu and all bad people. He did his part even as a pagal. He did that for Sadhana even when she was not living with him. The reason for Sadhana signing divorce paper is totally wrong and unacceptable.

@ green - Both never explicitly expressed they love each other. But definitely showed in hteir actions they are immensely in love. Woh kaafi nahi tha Sadhana keliye to win the competition to save her mami and clear the misunderstanding right after letting Ragini know her mother's condition?

Aalekh is mad about Sadhana signned the papers is legitimate. She should have talked to him before she made that decision unilaterally. Ek sauda karke shaadi ki for her family, doosra sauda karke divorce kardi phir sharma family keliye? Aalekh was never more important to her than Sharma family. For that reason alone I would say she went over board with her Sharma family Obsession. Aalekh doesn't need a wife who makes a sauda of their marriage everytime there is musibbat in sharma family. No man should need a wife like Sadhana.

Originally posted by: 16sweety16

well i think that even if sadhna went to ragini and try to ask her for money and tell her about her mother's condition.. ragini would have never listened to her.. probably interupt her in the first sentence due to the hatred that ragini has for sadhna.. Asking for ranveer's help --> not all families want to ask their son-in-law for help whenever they are in trouble.. they also have some self-respect in themselves.. i am not saying that ranveer is an outsider but still he is the son-in law.. sometimes its not right by keep asking the son-in law for money.. (plus ranveer is always helping out in their problems.. he needs a break too)..

Regarding the part about sadhna hiding kaushi's illness from mamaji --> sadhna probably didnt want her mamaji getting a heart attack.. n plus if she told mamaji..then he would have suggested to keep the house on a loan(or whatever its called).. n if he finds out that vinu already did, then mamaji would just suffer from another heart attack..

plus i think it was good that sadhna tried to get the money for her mamiji.. as afterall thats her family as parents werent there since she was small... her mamiji is somewhat like her mother.. so it wouldnt better much if sadhna or ragini would have come up with the money..

Sadhna would have taken responsibility in this case.. as she is always sacrifying all the time.. i am sure, sacrifying one more time wouldn't have made a big deal to her..

well anyways, its just a serial.. not a real life situation.. plus we do need to be entertained in some ways or the other..

@ red - Vasu kept Ragini in front of her is not a good enough excuse for a married woman to divorce. It was just matter of few hours she could have cleared the misunderstanding or naraazgi of Ragini by letting her know about her mother's condition and she would understand. Did she not understand today? Same way Ragini wold have understood then too...

Originally posted by: --Anu--

I completely agree with you. But Sadhana has to understand that marriage comes first.

@ bold - that's exactly how I feel.

Originally posted by: Omshanti1111

but he could speak that one sentence that "Sadhna is my wife, but we are staying separate"...this one sentence from Alekh was needed to boost Sadhna's confidence....you may ask why Sdahna did not reveal that, then I'ld say Sdahna cannot as she is disowned by them and if she says, she will be labelled as taking advantage of using the "Rajvansh surname"....

I'll give you some example, somtimes we speak a lot, but not that one word that is the requirement...once one old lady was dying and her grandsons were aksing her "grandma say RAM"....She said "I cant say so much"....bottomline is she uttered five words, but not the word "Ram"...Thats what exactly Alekh did...he has feelings for Sadhna, he used to go to Mehra office for Sadhna, that you and I know....but how will Sadhna know...she is utterly confused with Alekh's behaviour,,every wife needs the recognition of her relationship, thats the minimum ...alekh failed in that too...

@ Anu - I am completely with you Anu.

Originally posted by: Omshanti1111

I understand you....you are not accepting that Sdahna divorced Alekh just because she put Rgaini over Alekh....really, your point is very valid...but again its her priority, she loves Rgaini more than Alekh...she actually balanced ..she felt that Ragini will win and gain back confidence and then Alekh will not sign the divorce papers, so the divorce will not happen....but her calculations were wrong...it will be a win-win situation for her, she probably thought like that...

@ Anu - Had she given him divorce because Alekh was not a good husband then there was no problem.- That's my argument too..

@ Omshanti - If Ragini is her priority, she really doesn't need a husband. At least not Aalekh who genuinely loves her. Divorce is a serious issue and she really doesn'texpect the other person to take it easy because she is used to making sauda like she were shopping for a saree and yet to have a win-win situation. That means woh apni manmaani karthi rahegi. She will go back and forth divorcing and getting back with him. Then she must be thinking Aalekh is still Paagal to accept that behavior.