Is ill treating some one sanskaar?

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Posted: 12 years ago
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Something that has been bugging me for the past few days.Is illtreating a son or a daughter in law or a daughter ok just because some one is the elder in the family and then glorifying it in the name of Sanskaar OK? Why does Bhoomi need to prove anything? Why? I do not agree with that.ofcourse it is a serial,so there is drama etc,but in reality why does a daughter in law need to prove anything? She is a human being for God's sake? Sanskaar is about accepting another person as they are and sometimes accepting them even if they have faults.This glorification of injustice done to a daughter in law is not right.For me the whole point that Bhoomi has to go through any kind of tests is the most imappropriate message to show. Yes the husband supports his wife,but ultimately the tests have to be undergone by the girl right? As a woman,I really cannot digest that.Illtreating a daughter in law is called as domestic violence or abuse!Yes this happens in many households but please do not glorify it in the name of Sanskaar.

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Posted: 12 years ago
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nice post dear and I feel the same. But I feel getting married in a indian family is something similar to leaving your old school and joining a new school..the bully's in your new school will always try to put you down and make you life at school hell! just because they were bullied by their seniors and they now want to take it out on you..

here ansu baa is frustrated because for the first tym something that she planned and executed did not happen..first due to ketki bahu and then due to jaimi wedding...she is taking it all out on bhoomi...

she herself displays how much bad sanskaars she has...

the worst is ansu baa had done the nine tests on all her bahus, including ketki..so does that mean ketki is exact copy of lakshmi. saraswati, parvati and all the other set of godesses? no na..


i am with you ..i am also against ill treatment of bahus...


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Posted: 12 years ago
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not all Indian families are like that!!!
many accept people as they are and they get a perfect right to live a private life too!!!!
the kind of OTTness shown here does not happen in cultured families so it is grossly wrong to say about Indian families like that...
and nope all families are not like 'boarding school' bullying you around..they are pretty much the same as all the families accross the world...
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Posted: 12 years ago
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not all Indian families are like that!!!
many accept people as they are and they get a perfect right to live a private life too!!!!
the kind of OTTness shown here does not happen in cultured families so it is grossly wrong to say about Indian families like that...
and nope all families are not like 'boarding school' bullying you around..they are pretty much the same as all the families accross the world...
Exactly!! So the way Ansubaa is treating Bhoomi is not Indian Sanskaars and my point is do not call th is "Sanskaar" and spoil the meaning of Indian Sanskaars.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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It's so mean to make an innocent suffer so much. It is torture and family violence. How can you show a newly married girl going thru so much agony and that too so far away from home. Bhoomis mothers fears are not wrong in anyway.
Edited by minitandon2003 - 12 years ago
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Since u made this post i won't make an independent post

But someone should make an anonymous phone call to the police that Ansu Ba is doing mental harassment of bahu of the house

she deserves nothing but handcuffs

the police take a strict view of dowry demands and hold both the ones demanding it and supplying it at fault

Ansu Ba was supplying it readily for Bharti's marraige

With Bhumi she is bluntly telling pass tests etc

forget America raised Bhumi even Indian girls won't give these atrocious tests and their families will raise questions

As for Jai

Right from the beginning he opted for parivaar over Bhumi

in America he said he had responsibilities towards parivaar and no time for love

then he married Bhumi to get work permit ...it was not a love marraige , the work permit was needed for fulfilling the promises given to his parivaar

he married only after he thought he was sure he had his mother's permission , if his mother had said NO he would not have married , he simply waited and waited for that yes

Bhumi on the other hand married him without her mother's permission

the next day of marraige he left for India to be with his family not thinking for once what Bhumi wanted , that perhaps this was unfair to her as she was away from her family

that moving needed to be a mutual decision

now he is telling Bhumi these tests will win my family over ...instead of firing his grandma that why the hell should she or any bahu in the world give any 'test' ...r bahus animals to be treated this way , do even servant women give 'tests' or drop the job if it is not to their satisfaction ...if they have this self respect why bahus shouldn't

Why should it even be expected that a girl raised in another culture should know the culture of India and especially Ansu ba ...why this atrocious expectation ...does Avni know Halloween parties or Thanksgiving prayers

why should a rich educated girl who has done a job abroad , whose mother is a succesful entrepreneur , demean herself so and what does Jai mean telling her to do it so he can once more be close to his family

clearly he is thinking more about his family

and even if she passes those damn tests is his family worth it , why does Jai want to be close to those rotten people

the way his sister behaved to his wife , the way his grandmother treated her , was it acceptable ...instead of being furious why does Jai want to be close to those dim wits

Ansu ba should be taken in an open police van on the roads , the izzat of the Vaishnav parivaar will increase then

and even if Bhumi does not pass those damn tests , why won't she be called bahu , automatically the legal marraige has made her one , whether Ansu Ba likes it or not

Chauvinistic and regressive mentality like this must be given a big 👎🏼








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Posted: 12 years ago
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the show itself is based upon regressive and sadistic mentality...
I guess the makers personal mindset is like that!!!
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: svpg

not all Indian families are like that!!!

many accept people as they are and they get a perfect right to live a private life too!!!!
the kind of OTTness shown here does not happen in cultured families so it is grossly wrong to say about Indian families like that...
and nope all families are not like 'boarding school' bullying you around..they are pretty much the same as all the families accross the world...
Exactly!! So the way Ansubaa is treating Bhoomi is not Indian Sanskaars and my point is do not call th is "Sanskaar" and spoil the meaning of Indian Sanskaars.

yes because this is not sanskaar..and the way they are portraying it is very very degraded...and definitely India is not so cheap...
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000

Since u made this post i won't make an independent post


But someone should make an anonymous phone call to the police that Ansu Ba is doing mental harassment of bahu of the house

she deserves nothing but handcuffs

the police take a strict view of dowry demands and hold both the ones demanding it and supplying it at fault

Ansu Ba was supplying it readily for Bharti's marraige

With Bhumi she is bluntly telling pass tests etc

forget America raised Bhumi even Indian girls won't give these atrocious tests and their families will raise questions

As for Jai

Right from the beginning he opted for parivaar over Bhumi

in America he said he had responsibilities towards parivaar and no time for love

then he married Bhumi to get work permit ...it was not a love marraige , the work permit was needed for fulfilling the promises given to his parivaar

he married only after he thought he was sure he had his mother's permission , if his mother had said NO he would not have married , he simply waited and waited for that yes

Bhumi on the other hand married him without her mother's permission

the next day of marraige he left for India to be with his family not thinking for once what Bhumi wanted , that perhaps this was unfair to her as she was away from her family

that moving needed to be a mutual decision

now he is telling Bhumi these tests will win my family over ...instead of firing his grandma that why the hell should she or any bahu in the world give any 'test' ...r bahus animals to be treated this way , do even servant women give 'tests' or drop the job if it is not to their satisfaction ...if they have this self respect why bahus shouldn't

Why should it even be expected that a girl raised in another culture should know the culture of India and especially Ansu ba ...why this atrocious expectation ...does Avni know Halloween parties or Thanksgiving prayers

why should a rich educated girl who has done a job abroad , whose mother is a succesful entrepreneur , demean herself so and what does Jai mean telling her to do it so he can once more be close to his family

clearly he is thinking more about his family

and even if she passes those damn tests is his family worth it , why does Jai want to be close to those rotten people

the way his sister behaved to his wife , the way his grandmother treated her , was it acceptable ...instead of being furious why does Jai want to be close to those dim wits

Ansu ba should be taken in an open police van on the roads , the izzat of the Vaishnav parivaar will increase then

and even if Bhumi does not pass those damn tests , why won't she be called bahu , automatically the legal marraige has made her one , whether Ansu Ba likes it or not

Chauvinistic and regressive mentality like this must be given a big 👎🏼








I agree I really do that no girl should demean herself enough to give these tests but I explained it in another post also: Bhoomi would probably want to give this test for her own self-esteem and self-pride so she doesn't have to feel guilty for the rest of her life that she is the reason Jai left his family. She could have refused this test and jai would have left with her but ultimately she might have regretted not giving the family life a go and would also be sad to see Jai sad because she knows he loves his family very much. It would also be letting down Parul's trust in her. Bhoomi is such a nice girl she would sacrifice herself but wouldn't let Jai ever be hurt. Until they keep showing that Jai is supporting Bhoomi until then I am OK because I know this happens in a lot of households even today.
All they need to do is show that Bhoomi's goodness and truth, Jai's love and Parul's trust (all the good morals and sanskaars) ultimately defeat Ansuba's ego and false pride (all the bad).
Edited by SRKLuvr - 12 years ago
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: SRKLuvr

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I agree I really do that no girl should demean herself enough to give these tests but I explained it in another post also: Bhoomi would probably want to give this test for her own self-esteem and self-pride so she doesn't have to feel guilty for the rest of her life that she is the reason Jai left his family. She could have refused this test and jai would have left with her but ultimately she might have regretted not giving the family life a go and would also be sad to see Jai sad because she knows he loves his family very much. It would also be letting down Parul's trust in her. Bhoomi is such a nice girl she would sacrifice herself but wouldn't let Jai ever be hurt. Until they keep showing that Jai is supporting Bhoomi until then I am OK because I know this happens in a lot of households even today.
All they need to do is show that Bhoomi's goodness and truth, Jai's love and Parul's trust (all the good morals and sanskaars) ultimately defeat Ansuba's ego and false pride (all the bad).


I agree with everything that you say, but first, not all the girls will think so generously.

And secondly, just a thought...even if everything goes well and Ansuba melts, will this not leave a bad taste in everyone's mouth? Esp the the new bride? I am sure she will never be able to erase this completely out of her.

Giving in to an injustice once, makes you vulnerable to many more in the future. What Ansuba is asking Bhumi to undergo, is not out of any logic, but bcz of her arrogance and false pride. She will always hold Bhumi to ransom this way . Ansuba is irrational and such people can never really be satisfied. One small thing against her wishes and there she goes again...this is blackmail, not some test. Instead Jai and Parul should stand upto her and in time she will gradually understand that Bhumi truly is a gem of a girl. But again, her big ego will not allow her to accept it.

All in all she has some ulterior motives behind this and not Jai or Bhumi's wellness. Its all a waste.

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