Bindiya is not a good role model

I thought Colors TV wanted to create some sort of social awareness with these programmes. I haven't been watching Bhagyavidhaata regularly, but am just disgusted at the way Bindiya is being treated and that she accepts it.
If anyone here has seen old Hindi films, they'll know that this is an old theme, where the groom does not like a bride who is forced on him, and he tortures her and then she wins him over with her innate goodness. Unfortunately in real life, a violent husband (and he may not be hitting her, but he is violent) is not likely to change if he can get away with it.
Bindiya has been so submissive from the start, accepting that she has to give dowry, allowing her family to get her married in that way, and now tolerating all kinds of bad behaviour from her husband and in-laws. She used the old doli to arthi line when her father had tried to take her away. She is an old-fashioned adarsh Bharatiya nari. It may make for a good story, but Bindiya is not a good role model for young girls, who need to know they can take some sort of control of their lives.

I think it is still early days.

Rgattu, you are right, but I feel very discouraged.
Once you reach a certain age or experience, you know that violent spouses (and they can be women too) don't change.
I hope they show that she gets some courage to stand up for herself.

There are different sort of womens in this world... One who cares for themselves... 'N' the other one who lives for others... Bindiya is living for others...
Its just that... This things still happen in India... Maybe this show is trying to show that... A forced marriage is a harsh thing for a women... She gotta face bad situations... But its true... We have to accept it...

Rgattu, I agree that lots of educated girls,women put up with abusive spouses for different reasons. May it be lack of self confidence,family issues,children,fear and many others. It goes on worldwide not just a Indian way of life. Majority of these husbands do not change.

ambodidi, Bindiya is a timid ,shy and homely character so far. I don't think that she is tryng or implying to be a role model of any thing . Her abuse is not for main reason of dowery. It is at this point has become ego problem for all. Vinay was forced at gun point and he felt helpless so he is taking it all out on Bindiya. Poon poon wali felt that it was Bindiya's fault that other previous alliance was broke off. Poon wali did not get to bring her choice of girl in the house so she is pissed. Inlaws are half and half on the issue. Mom ,bua are ok. Dad wants money and dadi does not know what she wants. Older brother is just plain angry young man. Put yourself in their shoe and see hoe angry that would make you? Ofcourse the family is angry ,thier son was force married to not so good looking woman with no dowry. It is a time for Bindiya to stay quite and calm. It all takes time to heal and forget. Soon all will be happy and Bindiya and Vinay will be walking with "HUM DO DAMARE DO". 😆
I would not want anyone to take abuse quitely but arguing and taking up the world on a issue does not solve things either. Now a days girl power in all is also creating problems.Some of us don't know what we stand for and just being a followers. I am not an advocate for submissive women but being all agresive does not get one any where either. Equality is all on the papers but there is nothing equal in reality. Most of us have to find our ownquality and peace in our individualcase and pace.find your own balance some you give in and others stand strong.

i also think its early days yet to decide if bindiya will handle everything with tears. I think all new brides are very hesitant in the beginning, but am hoping once she figures out how the PP Bhabhi and vinay think, she'll be able to face them better.
She may never have the personality to fight back (as many of us women) but she may be better at self-preservation.

@ cimba - I agree abuse is present all over the world...believe me I had seen enough of it in my 10 year stint in London...

Cimba, I agree she is not trying to be a role model, but is this the moral we want our daughters and nieces to learn, that this is the ideal behaviour for an Indian woman? Colors always says it is a channel with a difference.
I don't like men or women who fight for nothing either, but how can a marriage be happy after all that Bindiya has suffered? Of course if it were my brother, I would also be upset, but the treatment of Bindiya is just not acceptable. I wouldn't talk to the girl, but that would be it, why would I torture her, and how many modern girls would take it? I'm sure in the serial, they'll show that her husband changes, but how often does that happen in real life? If people can get away with bad behaviour, they don't change. Doesn't this give girls false hope and encourage them to stay in bad situations?