Is Dharam still married to first wife?[DT Note:Page 7] - Page 2

Originally posted by: ninag

Please don't be so judgemental about age. My grandparents had an age gap and had a very happy marriage. I was reading in the daily mail today about how Celene Dions husband is dying of cancer and how in love they still are after 20 years of marriage. He is 30 years older than her!

Originally posted by: xPalkix

I've said it millions of times before and I'll say it again, love has and should never have any boundaries.

Originally posted by: ..RamKiJanaki..

I bet your grandmother did not marry her younger sister's FIL though, and neither did Celene Dion.

It's not just the age that makes Dheera a disgusting couple. Dharam was Meera's FIL (through Vidya's marriage), which is what makes it so gross! I don't care what CVs do now. I don't care if they break up Shravan-Vidya, or do Dharam-Meera remarriage. They cannot change the fact that Meera married her FIL. No one can deny this.

Originally posted by: ..RamKiJanaki..

This statement is wrong on so many levels. Even love has its limits. You don't go falling in love with your FIL do you? Or your uncles, grandfather, even your father?

Saying love should not have boundaries is giving people license to commit so many wrongdoings. Elder people will abuse their daughters, nieces, DILs, granddaughters, etc in the name of love.

All those who support Dheera - put yourself in Meera's shoes for just one moment. Your younger sister is getting married to a boy who was previously YOUR proposal. So the boy could have become YOUR husband should you have accepted his proposal. You rejected him, which is all fine, but now your sister is getting married to him. What does that make his family in relationship to you? His mother is now your MIL. His father is now your FIL. His grandmother is now your grandmother. Got it? Your sister's in-laws become YOUR in-laws. This is universally accepted and expected in every country and culture, not just in India.

Just because your sister is not completely married to her groom yet does not give you license to run off with her future FIL.

Would any of YOU guys do that? If your sister is getting married to someone and her FIL is single, would you run off and marry him because you find him hot, or because you supposedly "love" him? How rude and unfeeling is that towards your sister, towards her husband?

Moreover, Dharam and Meera are NOT in love. They both hate each other and married each other for revenge, so all your statements about older people falling in love with younger people are totally meaningless.

Originally posted by: ..RamKiJanaki..

Honestly, I'm done with this whole argument. I don't really care what the show does, as it stopped making sense eons ago, but one thing I just want to reiterate.

A sister's FIL may not be your direct FIL, but he's still a father figure. If you guys met up at a party, you'd address him as Sasur, babuji, papa, etc. You wouldn't address him by name and treat him as if he's a stranger with no relation to you.

And I don't know anyone in real life who married their sister's FIL. It's just wrong on so many levels. How can anyone justify that? People criticize cousin marriages. How is this right? It's far worse. At least cousin marriages don't change relationships within the family. And to be honest, I don't think ANYONE in real life would marry their father-in-law or sister's father-in-law. It's not a custom in any culture within India. A father-in-law is always seen as a father figure. If anything, a woman might marry her ex-husband's brother, or cousin, but not someone who is equal to her father.

Originally posted by: ..RamKiJanaki..

Honestly, I'm done with this whole argument. I don't really care what the show does, as it stopped making sense eons ago, but one thing I just want to reiterate.

A sister's FIL may not be your direct FIL, but he's still a father figure. If you guys met up at a party, you'd address him as Sasur, babuji, papa, etc. You wouldn't address him by name and treat him as if he's a stranger with no relation to you.

And I don't know anyone in real life who married their sister's FIL. It's just wrong on so many levels. How can anyone justify that? People criticize cousin marriages. How is this right? It's far worse. At least cousin marriages don't change relationships within the family. And to be honest, I don't think ANYONE in real life would marry their father-in-law or sister's father-in-law. It's not a custom in any culture within India. A father-in-law is always seen as a father figure. If anything, a woman might marry her ex-husband's brother, or cousin, but not someone who is equal to her father.