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I totally agree with you all. We all want gopi to stand for her rights.

There is nothing wrong about Ahem and Koki's close relationship. What is wrong is to except that there can be no other person in this world who shares an equally close relationship with the child.

The mama's boy was an explanation to the question, what was the difference between Gopi separating Vidya and Koki doing the same. The fact that Koki is the grandmother and not the mother is the difference😊

I am a Kokila fan. I respect her discipline and conviction. But I am not blind to her faults. And in this track she has quite a few of those.

My only issue is that in this track, it is not only Gopi, but Ahem and Koki too who are at fault.

Gopi is at fault in hiding Vidya from Ahem and that to me is something that these two should deal with
Koki is at fault for pushing Gopi to leave the house. She can keep insisting that she did not say the actual words. It is however obvious that her animosity with Gopi and Ahem's hate towards her were what pushed Gopi away.
Ahem to be is at fault for being ready to believe that his wife could be that careless. And even if she had been at fault, it was an accident.

The argument of grief and distress applies to all three and all three made mistakes. Gopi is rectifying hers slowly. Ahem and Koki are yet to play catch-up.

he mama's boy was an explanation to the question, what was the difference between Gopi separating Vidya and Koki doing the same. The fact that Koki is the grandmother and not the mother is the difference😊

I mean to say that a mother who has brought up a child for 8 long years has a right to claim her right against a grandmother who is out for revenge. 😊

It is her individual right too and she is emotionally involved.

From where I stand, I think Gopi did look out for her second child when she walked out. She did not walk out because she wanted to spite her MIL and hubby. She walked out and saved herself from the hellhole that her home had become, where she was treated like dirt and felt like one.

You know my views on that one😆

As for swallowing whatever comes her way for her own child, I think in the long run it would help the child more if the mother stood up and walked out instead of bowing down to abuse. The child got an environment where she grew up quite well. It would have been more injurious if Vidya had seen her mother being slighted by her own husband and her grandmother from day one. In the greater scheme of things Vidya surely did benefit. Her father loves her and she loves him back. She now has a mother who is stronger.

Gopi is currently swallowing everything that is getting thrown her way. She is doing it more ably now than before. From where I stand the ego is now only from one end.

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000

he mama's boy was an explanation to the question, what was the difference between Gopi separating Vidya and Koki doing the same. The fact that Koki is the grandmother and not the mother is the difference😊

Do u mean to say the mother has right to seperate more than the grandmother .

I was talking of the right of any individual , father , mother , grandfather , grandmother , to seperate a child from parent .

When the grandmother finds that the mother has ALREADY seperated the child from the house and her son , has no intention of giving it up , and says u all can see her when u have totally missed out on the growing process , when she is even more grown up , and is furious and decides to give daughter in law in same coin , she is wrong coz she by relation is a grandmother and not a mother ?

But i say even this anger is wrong . Whatever silly atrocious behaviour the mother has done , one has to lump it for the child . Which she ultimately did on Hetal's advice .

Same way , whatever your personal fights and blame games with your spouse u have no right to deprive child of the parental bondage of father .

Regarding the 'pushed' to leave the house , u know my thoughts .😊 I frown on zero tolerance level of barbs and words when kids r involved.

I hve been reading all the arguments for and against Gopi for leaving the house 8 years back. My thinking is the Gopi we knew 8 years ago never opened her mouth in front of her MIL or Ahem whether she was in the wrong or whether she was correct nor was she ever allowed to present her case in any situation with koki always saying BAS with her palms put up stopping Gopi from explaining anything ( I am not talking about the meera situation here at all). This being the case immediately after Meera incident with Koki accusing her, Ahem joining Koki, even if Gopi had at a later date tried to communicate with Koki/Ahem, they would not have entertained her not even bothering to listen to what she had to say. I am not saying that Gopi tried but even if she had tried they would not have entertained her. She was fighting a lost cause in trying to communicating anything, Koki's hatred saw to that and Gopi knew the way it was and probably that is why she did not try to inform any of them.She was not strong enough to insist on being listened to(The only way perhaps she could have made them listen to her was walking into MM 8 -9 months pregnant!! ) and once a thing is put off then it is too difficult to gather the courage to come right ahead and declare and face the consequences.

I mean to say that a mother who has brought up a child for 8 long years has a right to claim her right against a grandmother who is out for revenge. 😊

Gopi seems to be under Stockholm syndrome. Loving the people who torture her.

Ba is the most reasonable person in that household followed by Hetal. They are flexible. They wanted Radha as bahu because Radha tricked them. Now gopi has come with Vidya, they are so happy that they want to integrate her into the family.

Ahem obeys his mother but he does not do it fully. He married gopi because his mother selected her but he did not accept her for a long time. Now even if Kokila accepts gopi because she saved her life, ahem wont accept her easily.

Kokila is the Captain of the ship called Modi Bhavan and it seems that she is waiting for the right time to think about gopi's status. It is clear that Vidya can never take the place of Meera as for as Kokila and Ahem are concerned though they love her.

Now Urmi will slowly start her kalakari against gopi as now the fear of Radha has subsided.
She will slowly try to poison rashi against gopi. It will be interesting to see as to how long rashi can remain positive?