||DOTW|| Honesty - a neccessary virtue? - Page 3

Originally posted by: Justlikethat1

Dipsy, as much as I agree that Gopi has secrets from Koki and Ahem, I do not believe that her relationship with them is dishonest.

Gopi has been honest about her love and her respect for both Koki as well as Ahem. Her hiding certain truths about UrShi from Koki or Ahem is not because she is dishonest with them about her relationship.. It is just because she is honest with herself about them. She understands that for KoHem, what UrShi do will be par the tolerance level.

I am actually happy that Gopi is totally honest about that to herself. She is also correct in her assumption that KoHem will not stand for injustice and that me think that Gopi does know that she is siding with gross injustice when she hides UrShi's acts from KoHem and hence her furtive glances and the guilt. However wrong I think her hiding the truth of UrShi is, I still consider Gopi honest about her intentions regarding them.

Koki on her part also understands Gopi's weakness. I don't think she agrees.. She however understands that her Gopi vahu cannot help herself from siding UrShi and that is why we see her listen to Gopi's pleas regarding Rashi and Urmi. That is the honesty I like. Both talk to each other and share in PoVs, however different it maybe.

When Gopi hides something from Koki, it is only when that truth will lead to Rashi being sent out. Remember that Gopi knows Koki's sense of fairness completely and Also Ahem's anger. She was the victim for a year when she was sent out of her sasural for her mistake. Do you think she will wish the same fate on her cousin who she loves? I don't think so.

The honesty I am talking about is more the honesty of oneself about one's relations. GoKi and GoHem's relationship between each other is clear and truthful. They however are blinded by gratitude when it comes to anyone from MBP. Koki is blinded by her gratitude for Mota Bhabhi for sustaining her over the years while Gopi is filled with gratitude towards Rashi and Urmi. That is why they do not let them get the punishments they deserve. This is their only fault.

As for Ahem, I do not think it is right to stay so far away from his family tensions but then I cannot blame the guy. .When you have a person like Rashi in the house, every day is drama whether you like it or not. 🤢 But I still keep hoping that he would see Gopi's eyes and understand her plight one day and talk to her like a friend and tell her that she needs to overcome her gratitude😊

Originally posted by: Justlikethat1

Dipsy, I thought we were talking about dishonesty in their relationships and not dishonesty per se😉😆

I do agree that Gopi has been giving a lot of chances to UrShi and I do not think either Rashi or Urmi deserve any of those chances. .As much as I do not agree with her choices, I do understand them. It is like me understanding Koki even when she was at her mean best to Gopi before. She as a possessive mother. I may not agree with her but I understood her emotion.

Now lets come to your question on whether Gopi will do something to clear Koki or will she side with Rashi and Urmi.. Well, the Cvs want us to believe that Rashi is not evil.. So I see even her wanting to somehow help Koki come out..

Now will Gopi remain calm and let Urmi slide away in the advent of her MIL's humiliation? I don't think so.. And even without the spoilers I would have said the same thing. I do not think Gopi would let Koki rot in jail if she found out about what her Maami did..

Now you tell me.. Is Gopi this generous about her forgiveness only with UrShi? No.. She forgave Ahem for all he did. .Heck, she did not even blame him for treating her like an object and using her as his punching bag.

She did not think Koki was horrible for putting her in a storeroom and shouting at her.. She thinks good of everyone Dipsy, good and bad. And that is her weakness. She finds reasons to forgive them. She thinks Rashi is miled and she feels Urmi loves Rashi too much and hence makes mistakes. Excuses that do not hold water with me.. No doubt but that makes her a fool but not dishonest.

You tell me that Koki agrees to Gopi's demands because she loves her. But I think Koki agrees to Gopi's demands inspite of knowing the truth about UrShi. She does that for the same reason that Gopi hides the truth for.. For the family and their happiness. Not for anything else.

Both Gopi and Koki IMHO care too much about their family and that is where their fault lies. They are not dishonest, they are weak and also they do not value their own generosity and forgiveness. That is why I talk of a clean break from MBP for both.

Gopi needs to get out of feeling gratitude towards UrShi and Koki needs to come out of the need to protect and save MBP from UrShi.. Then they can move on.. Until then, however honest they are in their own relationships, they will be nowhere.. Just my PoV😊

Originally posted by: Xarina

Getting back to he subject of honesty, do you remember in the early days of Gohem when Hetal gave Gopi the sari that she was given as a present to Gopi and told her that Ahem had gifted it to her. Here she was being dishonest with Gopi, although her intentions were good they were bound to have created a misunderstanding and heartache for Gopi in the long run. Koki saw this and revealed to Gopi the truth. It hurt Gopi at the time but at least she was not under any illusions. So how is it that Gopi can see but cannot or will not reveal Urshi's antics? Isn't this creating an illusion no matter how good or considerate her attentions are? The truth hurts but in the long run it is the best option. Gopi needs to see things as they are for it not to impact upon her in a less favourable manner.

Originally posted by: Justlikethat1

Xari - I totally agree with what Koki did that day and yes. I think Gopi needs to come clean about UrShi's actions but also remember that unlike Koki, Ahem supported her in her lies when it came to keeping the family together.

That is where the problem lies. Ahem has to sit Gopi with him and tell her that the 'greater good' in her mind is all ok but not at the expense of letting two monsters get away and who is Gopi to actually think of the greater good? What does she know?

Gopi needs to have her illusions of UrShi's kindness and 'love' broken. She needs to be shown that keeping Rashi's actions hidden will only break the family in the future.. If she does not want Rashi's child to suffer later, she needs to let Rashi face the music now..

Yes.. Gopi needs to break her illusions about UrShi. that makes her dishonest about her relationship with them but does it make her dishonest with her relationship with KoHem?😊