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After watching today's episode, I was left confused and wondering about Gopi. Not only was she abused and threatened by Urmi at MM, she also went to RN to get more crap from Urmi herself and I was frustrated with gopi... Why would someone do this? Why would they take so much degradation and yet feel that they are at fault.
So this is what I found about Manipulators and Vulneribilities that the manipulators use. Urmi and Rashi fit perfectly.. Love to hear your thoughts on this😃
According to Wiki manipulators exploit vulnerabilities and use it to their own benefit.. So what are Gopi's vulnerabilities
1. navete - victim finds it too hard to accept the idea that some people are cunning, devious and ruthless or is "in denial" if he or she is being victimized.
This is Gopi's definition. She is just blind to people's faults
2. over-conscientiousness - victim is too willing to give manipulator the benefit of the doubt and see their side of things in which they blame the victim.
Isn't this typical Gopi? It is one thing to see from another's PoV. It is another to always give them the benefit of doubt like she does with UrShi
3. low self-Confidence - victim is self-doubting, lacking in confidence and assertiveness, likely to go on the defensive too easily.
I had hoped that the above had reduced. But Gopi still cannot be assertive enough. She lets Urmi and Rashi walk all over her and is their doormat😭
4. masochistic - lack self-respect and so unconsciously let psychopaths take advantage of them. They think they deserve it out of a sense of guilt
Again.. Gopi isn't it? Gopi also has the "disease to please" and also has an addiction for acceptance from others..
With so many vulnerabilities, it is no doubt that UrShi take every advantage and use manipulations to get their own way. Now lets move on to what these manipulations from UrShi are classified as.😉
Some of the things that Wiki says are part and parcel of Manipulators are
1. Lying - We all know how Rashi uses it, don't we?
2. Denial - Manipulator refuses to admit that he or she has done something wrong.
3. Covert intimidation - Manipulator throwing the victim onto the defensive by using veiled (subtle, indirect or implied) threats.
4. Guilt tripping - A manipulator suggests to the conscientious victim that he or she does not care enough, is too selfish or has it easy. This usually results in the victim feeling bad, keeping them in a self-doubting, anxious and submissive position.
5. Shaming - Manipulator uses sarcasm and put-downs to increase fear and self-doubt in the victim. Manipulators use this tactic to make others feel unworthy and therefore defer to them. Shaming tactics can be very subtle such as a fierce look or glance, unpleasant tone of voice, rhetorical comments, subtle sarcasm. Manipulators can make one feel ashamed for even daring to challenge them. It is an effective way to foster a sense of inadequacy in the victim. (Urmi all over?😲)
6. Playing the victim role ("poor me"): Manipulator portrays him- or herself as a victim of circumstance or of someone else's behavior in order to gain pity, sympathy or evoke compassion and thereby get something from another. Caring and conscientious people cannot stand to see anyone suffering and the manipulator often finds it easy to play on sympathy to get cooperation. (Rashi to the T?)
Thanks to some google search, I get what the CVs are doing. They are all using UrShi to teach us things about manipulations and then using Gopi to show vulnerabilities and as wiki does not have the answers of how one overcomes these manipulators, the CVs let UrShi win all the time😉 Sorry Kidding.. But the above made a good study😛 I guess now, I can be less confused and wonder more about how close the person writing for UrShi should be from becoming a pshycopath himself😆
Udne Ki Aasha
Anupamaa
