Koki - Gopi Relationship / Scene !!! - Page 2

Originally posted by: navyab

Well aris...though my point is Kokilla does not love Gopi as her own daughter because if she did, she would have thought about her before anything else but it is also clear she loves & cares for Gopi...yes everything related to Ahem & her pride take precedence but she cannot destroy the relationship of marriage just like that !!!

Kokilla understands the importance of marriage & knows her role in her sons's marriage stops when she gives them advise after that she always left it to Ahem & Gopi to make a choice !!! Kokilla knows Gopi as a human being with feelings & hence she was concerned about how her DIL was taking everything & I do not support that she will destroy this marriage relationship for her word, yes at times she forgets that other people are involved & their feelings are also to be considered but she does not have negative feelings towards others !!!

Navyab, don't get me wrong here. I understand Kokila knows the importance of marriage, but she did let Gopi go at one point when Ahemji insisted. It was only for Nani's sake that Gopi was brought back and she kept her back because Nani made her think. So if she has to choose between her son's and Gopi's happiness, I think she will choose her son's not just for her pride or her word.

Originally posted by: navyab

Well we know Gopi never had mother's love all thru her life to know that she can share all her feelings without doubt with her Harini...when Kokilla accepted her as more than a DIL it was her responsibility to teach her daughter to show her daughter that she is there for her in all situations !!!! as much as she can punish her for her mistakes similarly at times of insecurity she shuld build the trust that as a mother, Im always there for you whatever you may think or do !!! This trust always comes from the mother to help her daughter to share all feeling...let be anything even her insecurities !!!!

Well if the doctor does not know the ailment what is the assurance that your health is going to be fine do !!! yes momentory the patient thinks everything is fine but the fact if the doctor does not probe you on your symptoms which are not always physical, then how confident are you going to be that the doctor will actual know all your problems & give you correct medication that will heal you !!! similarly the assurance from Koki may momentarily heal Gopi of her pain that she is there for her but if Koki does not know what is the actual problem that is eating her DIL how will she even know what she needs to do !!!! And every patient unless probed deeply you will not know all the symptoms so the same unless Koki gets into the depth of Gopi's heart she will not know what thought is actually taking form in her mind !!! And another question if the roles were reversed of Ahem & Gopi...or it was kinjle in Gopi's place, will Koki still take the same decision !!!!

ery well said navya jus love the relationship tht they have of mother n daughter..

fabulous ananlysis as usual

Originally posted by: Justlikethat1

Navya, Koki will know of Gopi's insecurities only if Gopi will let her probe. .The minute Koki started about the past, Gopi preempted her.. Further more Gopi says she trusts her husband completely. So how can Koki understand her insecurities?

Navya, mother and daughter is a beautiful relationship, yes. But a mother is also human. She cannot understand a daughter by looking at her. She can try and assume of course but one's thought is always privy to the person unless they are voiced.

If the patient does not even let the doctor probe and says that they are perfectly alright, the doctor will not even think of looking for symptoms..

I am not blaming or finding fault with Gopi. All I am saying is that to say that Koki is not the mother she should be to Gopi is incorrect. Koki's character is not to mope. She thinks tears are a weakness. She wants the same for her DIL..

Gopi for the first time is doing admirably well in that aspect. Her strength is visible without a lot of tears. There will come a point when Koki will stand for Gopi, with Gopi but today she did do her motherly duty very well..

When her DIL herself says there is no problem, then there is nothing a mother can do.. There are times when you have to let your children come to you with their worries. I feel this is one of those times.. If Gopi needs help, she will reach out to Koki, Kokila made sure that she made that very clear. In my PoV that is where you stop as a mother.

You do not probe something that the daughter is not ready to share on her own.. As long as your daughter knows that she can come to you, that trust makes your bond.. In future if Gopi feels she needs support she will not hesitate.. Again Navya, this is my PoV..

For the first time Gopi is doing something independently. She is taking decisions based on what she knows.. whether right or wrong she will learn. Koki till now as Gopi said has guided her.. She will continue. A mother should show the child how to fly.. They should let the child to fly on their own if the child wants...😊

Navya & Harini, wonderful discussions going on here. I feel Koki loves Gopi truly unconditionally as she is her choicest choice but she loves her dhikra a teeny weeny bit more than her😉 (kin-blood) I don't blame her...Ahem is her own flesh & blood😛.

Harini, Koki very well knows all about Gopi's insecurities and worries there is nothing for Gopi to give explanations, it is not rocket science... You bring your son's ex and tell your emotional cow Gopi Vau, that you did it on humanitarian ground 🤢 what is the poor soul to do. Today only thing Gopi can hold on to is her TRUST and FAITH. Faith is the surest guide in the darkest days😳 not Ahem Modi lol😉😆
Why is her strong business-man son moving around like a zombie and tadapti atma😲?
Thx to Koki's decision making for him all the time. That's why I have been saying ...Don't make decisions for your kids all the time; they must learn how to live with the consequences from the choices they make ( Ahem may have been happily married with Anitha today, had it not been Koki's decision making for him or he would be on the verge of taking a divorce from Anitha and fallen for an orphan Gopi... but it would have been his good & bad decision) . After all, we kids have to learn to think for ourselves sometime. And shd be ready to take risks for our actions. If Kokila would have let Ahem taken decisions earlier then today he would have become good decision maker and problem solver in family matters too like business.
But Harini, as you say Koki is human😛 And to err is human😛

There are times when you have to let your children come to you with their worries. I feel this is one of those times..
Harini, Mom Koki got not only worries but a pail full of trouble for Gohemland lol😛 She may try to be Mom to her DIL but she is abs tyrannical ( her dialogue, tume Ahem ka dhyan batava he diya🤢) , so now Koki shd also face the consequences of her decision making.

very true navya... these ppl remaining her again n again she z an orphan... she cant even share her pain vth anyone... nobody z there 2 her..nt even her kanhaji... very sad 4 selfless gopi..all others r selfish..

I dint know how i missed this!! Beautiful!! Well done!! Fab !! No more adjectives:-)

Jo explanation/ assurance ek husband ko ek wife ko dene chahiye the , the MIL is giving the DIL.