Gopi and Koki do not deserve Ahem - Page 3

Originally posted by: aris22l

Am I the only one who thinks that Gopi is the smartest in MM? Are Rashi and Jigar going to live like this for the rest of their lives? I don't think Jigar is going to divorce her, so someone has to step forward to fix the situation and Gopi is trying to do that when none of the elders would take the lead

Right.. Her intentions were pure.. She just went about it wrongly. Instead of convincing Jigar, she should have convinced Rashi to first understand Jigar. Tell her to be patient. Certainly help her but by teaching her to do things around the house and around Jigar. She just concentrated on the wrong individual. Instead of the wrong doer she wants the victim to change

Gopi did not really involve Aham in this; it was Aham's decision to help Gopi. I don't think he would have listened to her if she had disouraged him from doing it.

Well it was Ahem's decision and Gopi respected it then. She needs to respect it now too. Ahem has taken responsibility for his actions and instead of supporting him she is going to take the blame thinking that will help him. Now this is very Gopi. And as I understand Koki, I also understand why Gopi will do this. So although I do understand I do not and cannot agree with her next course of action. (Although I am kinda of hoping that it will bring Ahem's feelings to the forefront)

I understand we all want Gopi to work on her relationship with Aham, but I am not sure what she can do. It is all upto Aham to fix it. Gopi has given him her all from the day she got married. She doesn't know where she stands with him. Just because lately, he hasn't been shouting at her and has shown more care towards her, should she become aggressive and make a pass at him? Or should she just point blank ask him if he loves her. After how he treated her for more than a year, should she risk getting knocked down again? We all say Aham's reaction to an innocent kiss. If he was really ready to be more of a husband, he should have just kissed her back or explained to her that he liked it. She was so scared that he may yell at her again. It will be totally out of character to do anything other than what she has been doing so far. Poor girl is totally confused because of the mixed signals she is getting from her mil and husband. Kokila has told her that she will help her with Aham and now Kokila is telling her that Gopi is bad influence on her son. Aham has become more caring towards her, but does not show any husbandly love towards her.

Totally agree.. And that is why I understand Gopi. I cannot an do not blame her but just saying that she also needs to take the next step with Ahem when he comes forward. He does not deserve to get her love that easily and I am sure he will strive hard but there is a point in the future Gopi may have to come forward and take his extended hand. Gopi understands the pain of unrequited love. She also loves her Ahemji with all her heart. So she will surely accept his love if and when he confesses. But just saying that in making her MIL and sister happy, she should not forget this love of hers for which she has waited a year and a half now..

Originally posted by: aris22l

Am I the only one who thinks that Gopi is the smartest in MM? Are Rashi and Jigar going to live like this for the rest of their lives? I don't think Jigar is going to divorce her, so someone has to step forward to fix the situation and Gopi is trying to do that when none of the elders would take the lead. Gopi did not really involve Aham in this; it was Aham's decision to help Gopi. I don't think he would have listened to her if she had disouraged him from doing it.

I understand we all want Gopi to work on her relationship with Aham, but I am not sure what she can do. It is all upto Aham to fix it. Gopi has given him her all from the day she got married. She doesn't know where she stands with him. Just because lately, he hasn't been shouting at her and has shown more care towards her, should she become aggressive and make a pass at him? Or should she just point blank ask him if he loves her. After how he treated her for more than a year, should she risk getting knocked down again? We all say Aham's reaction to an innocent kiss. If he was really ready to be more of a husband, he should have just kissed her back or explained to her that he liked it. She was so scared that he may yell at her again. It will be totally out of character to do anything other than what she has been doing so far. Poor girl is totally confused because of the mixed signals she is getting from her mil and husband. Kokila has told her that she will help her with Aham and now Kokila is telling her that Gopi is bad influence on her son. Aham has become more caring towards her, but does not show any husbandly love towards her.

Originally posted by: Justlikethat1

👏 Wonderful PoV. My intentions were not to blame Gopi nor Koki actually. I agree partly and have added my comments in maroon. I love Gopi and understand her motives. And at the end of the day just want her to be happy..😃

Loved your comments. I am a little biased towards Gopi's character. 😳

Originally posted by: maddy311

Okay I have read first page only so my view is gopi always will prefer to be doormat. She won't go against kagdi because she doesn't want to hurt her. And I feel this decision doesn't make her bad wife because ahem still hasn't confessed his love before her. To gopi he is only friend who is helping her and nothing more than that. If ahem doesn't treat her as wife then why should she treat him as her husband.
All she can think of her pure mind is kagdi and ahem are unhappy if they are away from each other and the best decision she can take is stay away from ahem to bring them close.
If ahem had confessed his love then I agree that gopi should take firm stand but now she can't.

I agree on kagdi completely. She needs to make space for gopi in between her and ahem.

Originally posted by: aris22l

Loved your comments. I am a little biased towards Gopi's character. 😳

Originally posted by: 5cents

Nice analysis! Gopi is goodness personified. Vatican will canonize her any given day. But the world is filled with Rashis & Urmillas so she has to change herself accordingly without losing her innocence.

I don't agree that Gopi is the smartest in MM but yes, she is defo the sweetest sis anybody could have. Rashi is indeed very lucky to have a sis like her. But she too has her shortcomings...her fuse also goes off randomly😕. No human being is always right or always wrong.

You really made me laugh. Vatican will canonize her any given day😆 I think Gopi didn't do it because Rashi is her sister. She would have done it for whoever Jigar had married. I agree she may not be the smartest, but she is the most caring.

Of all pains, the greatest pain, is to love, and to love in vain. Gopi's love was earlier never reciprocated and the relationship that she valued so much was not valued equally by stubborn Mr. Modi. The feeling of not being esteemed & loved surely caused lot of pain to Gopi. But I guess their love is GOT perfected in PAIN. Gopi made a place in Ahem's heart by her goods deeds & actions. Now as he is understanding her well & gets it where she is coming from. He wants to help her in all her missions. Her ideologies are working on him. the man is besotted cannot see his love worried. 😛 But coming to yr next qs why he did not kiss her back or expressed his love ...he is just realizing his feelings for her...the man needs time. She just came out of her tooti- footi state😉. His mom is also not helping much these days.🤢 But anyways Gohem are on the same page & will remain there. Husbandly love will follow.😃 He wants the relationship to progress at its own speed. There may be minor speed bumps but that will knit their love muscles stronger. 😊

I am not blaming Aham for any of this, but I don't think that Gopi should be blamed for not moving her relationship forward either. I think Ahamji is going to come around in time, but he is the one who needs to make the first move. Gopi is an innocent babe, she doesn't know how to act with her husband unless someone tells her what to do. Remember, Kokila had to even coach her on how to talk with Ahamji and how to decorate their room. At least she is feeling comfortable enough to ask Aham if something happened between him and Kokila without cringing with fear.