Was Gopi REALLY right match for Ahem at any level?

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MARHABAA

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Posted: 14 years ago

Ahem is what he is an angry young man character who lacks compassion for his wife as he sees her as a rope around his neck.

Any other forward thinking husband would have taken positive steps to help his wife by teaching her worldly things and getting her an education.

There is nothing wrong with being illiterate- its not her fault shes been deprived. But its unrealistic that Ahem is just going to ignore her or be indifferent towards her . He could easily demand from Kokila that she has his wife educated to some basic extent atleast !

Then we have Gopi who although devotional doesnt really come across as aspirational ...shes shown to be in the my husband will accept me eventually as I am mode which is so wrong .

With the past couple of episodes showing Gopi in this rather pathetic light of all forgiving bordering on stupidity it now draws more light onto the fact she is so wrong for Ahem.

Kokila messed up BIG time .If Gopi is not going to learn from her mistakes then shes stagnant and in so being will never be able to reach a level where Ahem will begin to be civilised let alone loving towards her !

So disappointed in Gopi and more so with Kokila this week !! what a wet blanket @ the whole catching Rashi yet non action routine

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neetusidhu

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Posted: 14 years ago

wow...you made from really good points...i also agree that gopi or koki need to take some steps so that Aham will notice gopi atleast and be civil towards her and not treat her like crap like he usually does.

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MaahiiVe

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Posted: 14 years ago

Originally posted by: MARHABAA
Ahem is what he is an angry young man character who lacks compassion for his wife as he sees her as a rope around his neck. Any other forward thinking husband would have taken positive steps to help his wife by teaching her worldly things and getting her an education.I'm not justifying, but it is Ahem's (the character's) nature to hold a grudge for so long. He was married against his will to a girl who was not what he imagined as ideal, e.g. illiterate. Plus he had to give up the girl who he liked, so it made him all the more bitter.
There is nothing wrong with being illiterate- its not her fault shes been deprived.

Absolutely! But its unrealistic that Ahem is just going to ignore her or be indifferent towards her . He could easily demand from Kokila that she has his wife educated to some basic extent atleast !

Then we have Gopi who although devotional doesnt really come across as aspirational ...shes shown to be in the my husband will accept me eventually as I am mode which is so wrong. I understand what you mean here - results will take terribly long to show up in this mode.

With the past couple of episodes showing Gopi in this rather pathetic light of all forgiving bordering on stupidity it now draws more light onto the fact she is so wrong for Ahem. Yupp - her believing Rashi shows her to be more unintelligent than one could ever imagine!

Kokila messed up BIG time .Yes! HOW could she let Rashi away!?! If Gopi is not going to learn from her mistakes then shes stagnant and in so being will never be able to reach a level where Ahem will begin to be civilised let alone loving towards her ! Maybe I'm too optimistic, but I think he might. Although she is uneducated, we shldnt forget the much deeper traits of Gopi's character, i.e. her selflessness, her perseverance, her innocence.

Despite her being unideal or incompatible with him, I can imagine him falling for her, and appreciating her for who she is.

So disappointed in Gopi and more so with Kokila this week !! what a wet blanket @ the whole catching Rashi yet non action routine Oh yes! I really expected more.. 🥱

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-Nafisa-

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Posted: 14 years ago

Mahabaa opposites attract, it's often extremely boring to be with someone so similar to yourself, I know I get frustrated with Gopi, and I want her to be stronger and deal with him, but Aham loves to be on his high horse that is his personality. All this he says to Gopi is all an act, deep down he wants her as his wife and wants to be close to her.

Earlier I was thinking about the anniversary approaching, and these were my thoughts...

I was wondering if he takes the day off for his parents anniversary, and his own is coming up, what is he going to do. I think Kokila will force them to do something together, and he will do it with the pretence "if you say so mum than off course I will" but deep down his just hoping for that from his mum.

Why I think he does pretend a lot, "he hates Gopi", remember when Naani left he said I want to leave the room for her and go into the guest room he was so angry, when Kokila came up with several reasons why he couldn't use the 2 guestrooms, but one reason she gave to change the bedding and clean the room Naani was using, is only temporary, so if he really wanted to be away from Gopi he would have gone out 2 days later, when that particular room was ready, but no he stayed, forgetting he wants to be away from Gopi. 😲 (shocking right???)

I think our Aham just pretends and counts on his mum to make the decision he really wants...his so sick, he can't speak honestly he would rather get what he wants in a round about way... 😆

So he does want Gopi, he just wants her to be educated, that's why he keeps saying it over and over she's an illiterate, she makes these mistakes because she is illiterate, wants this is corrected, he will quickly make a round about turn or maybe 3 point turn...😆

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Sonia

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Posted: 14 years ago

Really liked your points and they way you conveyed them.

I totally side your points.

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Sandy

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Posted: 14 years ago

I have to agree that opposites do attract! Ahem is attracted to Gopi, he just needs to get over her illiteracy or Gopi needs to become educated.

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MARHABAA

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Posted: 14 years ago

Thanks , I have no qualms with the fact that opposites can attract however the opposite poles of Ahem & Gopi isnt really the issue.

Ahem lacks respect for his wife ..he doesn't miss an opportunity to growl back at her because he sees her as inferior to himself .Get her an education and some of his issues are resolved .

He may have a soft corner for her however its in the depths of his soul tangled way down my his ego and in his own conviction that hes got a rough deal .

Gopi however doesnt make her own situation any better as she stays within her comfort zone and at this point isnt shown to advance whether thats by taking Kokilas help or using her own common sense.

Something has to change in Gopi that Ahem will see her in a different light AND that seems to be nowhere in the equation yet of this serial.

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simi_1

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Posted: 14 years ago

You are right, these 2 are from 2 different worlds, but the way ahem listens to his mom, think that he will eventually see what his mom saw in Gopi as his bahu, or atleast I hope so

Also, believe that opposites attract, but this seems to be a slow motion process

First of all these 2 need to spend some time with each other, other than gopi taking chai to ahem😉