Kokila as a saas failing?

Kokile constantly commands Gopi to use her brain, when going shopping for Aham's room what did Kokila tell Gopi, but she's just wasting her breath, Gopi trusts Rashi, and it's reinforced by Urmila's physical abuse, so Gopi even when she knows that what Rashi is saying and doing is wrong, she has been intimidated to doing what they want, if you watched the recent episode when Rashi and her went shopping, when Gopi asked about the money when she questioned the colour choice, she knew if she questioned more or decided No I'm going for this colour, she would be in trouble with Urmila, also she has no leg to stand on really in the Modi house, if Aham were to respect her and treat her with patience and love, she wouldn't have to do as Rashi and Urmila say. But still she has Kokila on her side, so when they abuse her she can tell her, but I question how far Kokila's loyalty is also...as she was there telling Gopi off about the newspaper after Holi, when she has asked Gopi to take a number and name from her diary Gopi can't do it, her son has told her on three occasions that he doesn't like Gopi because she is uneducated, the first time after he slapped her, the second time when when Kinjal got married and he went to extract the promise to send Gopi the Gawar away and he was incapable of accepting a Gawar as his wife, the third the same when Naani left I can't bear her mum she's a Gawar, so what more evidence does Kokila need that her son will not accept Gopi without her being educated, perhaps Kokila is the slow, dumb one, but more likely she is afraid of Gopi becoming too powerful in the house and she (Aham's mother) being sidelined, as she was afraid of when they just got married, i think this fear has not left her, that's why she is not doing anything about educating Gopi, that's why I cannot totally like her character.

Originally posted by: Nafisa_blossoms

Kokile constantly commands Gopi to use her brain, when going shopping for Aham's room what did Kokila tell Gopi, but she's just wasting her breath, Gopi trusts Rashi, and it's reinforced by Urmila's physical abuse, so Gopi even when she knows that what Rashi is saying and doing is wrong, she has been intimidated to doing what they want, if you watched the recent episode when Rashi and her went shopping, when Gopi asked about the money when she questioned the colour choice, she knew if she questioned more or decided No I'm going for this colour, she would be in trouble with Urmila, also she has no leg to stand on really in the Modi house, if Aham were to respect her and treat her with patience and love, she wouldn't have to do as Rashi and Urmila say. But still she has Kokila on her side, so when they abuse her she can tell her, but I question how far Kokila's loyalty is also...as she was there telling Gopi off about the newspaper after Holi, when she has asked Gopi to take a number and name from her diary Gopi can't do it, her son has told her on three occasions that he doesn't like Gopi because she is uneducated, the first time after he slapped her, the second time when when Kinjal got married and he went to extract the promise to send Gopi the Gawar away and he was incapable of accepting a Gawar as his wife, the third the same when Naani left I can't bear her mum she's a Gawar, so what more evidence does Kokila need that her son will not accept Gopi without her being educated, perhaps Kokila is the slow, dumb one, but more likely she is afraid of Gopi becoming too powerful in the house and she (Aham's mother) being sidelined, as she was afraid of when they just got married, i think this fear has not left her, that's why she is not doing anything about educating Gopi, that's why I cannot totally like her character.

I know i dont understand her character sometimes. Beginning of few episodes i seen that she even controls her own Saas (that Baa which god knows where she's kept in the house and whether she even lives there lol).
But yes i do agreee with the fact she is not taking her son seriously and focusing on what he wants outta Gopi (To be smart, educated and intellgent like him).
She just focusing on her thing that meri bahoo aisi honi chahiye waisi honi chahiye.. Rashi se aage honi chahiye.. but she doesnt think that after bahoo she is to be Ahem's wife :S
Ahem loves her mom so much.. i think she should think about his happiness aswell by giving him a right life-partner.
Im glad Kokila's mum picked on that point and Gopi Ahem's story is atleast moving on.

We knock Hetal for being too soft when she does the chores to help the bahu rather than living it all to the bahu to do herself...example of this was during the bahu exchange Kokila was telling Hetal no my Gopi vau can manage all the kitchen chores herself you don't go in there to help her, Hetal said but if I help her she will be finished quicker, and we saw when Gopi finished working your go rest dhikra, but under Kokila she is work work work all the time, no time for nothing else. Even Aham questioned her about the mango boxes where were you mum this is your responsibility every year, why did you leave it to Rashi and Gopi? If Kokila was like Hetal she would have been in the storeroom on hand to help Gopi count the boxes when she was suffering and help her pack them, to finish the job quicker and Rashi wouldn't have had any opportunity to do any evil deed, her son wouldn't have been embarrassed. That is why someone posted the biggest joke in today's episode when Kokila said to Rashi, remember always my eyes are on you...😆 if that were true she wouldn't have been so successful with all her evil deeds.

i hope she will make aham to realize what gopi mean to him and he will accept gopi

Hmm again there's a lot of Kokila bashing.Is Kokila God that she would do everything perfect? Well at least she doesn't cover up the faults of her bahu unlike Hetal. Hetal is the perfect Sas but did she have an iota of influence over Rashi? I remember Koki telling Hetal not to wipe Gopi's tears as she has to toughen Gopi up as she has to shoulder responsibilities of the house some day. She's trying to help Gopi by giving her tips to win over her husband. Usually MILS are so possessive over their sons .They hate DILS for usurping the position. Ican count anumber of instances when I have wished she could be my Sas.

Originally posted by: muktha_cute

what..d..hell
does..kokila..doesnt..have..any.work.except.2.protect.gopi
and..which..gopi..who.doesnt.even.trust.her,sab.chupati.hain.vuss.se
aur.sab.apni.rashi.behen.ki.har.baat.sunti.hain
why.should.kokila.help.such.dumb.women
hamesha..ahemji.aur.rashi.behen
despo.gopi
i.feel.like.slapping.gopi.for.her.stupidness.and.dumbness

the one which should really protect her is ahem modi...her husband
not her saas ,sis or sasur...
if ahem was free to her and open ...gopi wouldnt have did any dumbness .for her everyone in the family is new...gopi -koki have a generation gap...koki wont understand the very aspects of gopi.
so if ahem falls in love with gopi there ends her dumbness...and the kalakaries...so we hope that this kalakari will back hit urshi and make gohem together...

swambhawamiyugeyuge...

ok I have a question what is "swambhawamiyugeyuge"?😃

Originally posted by: aachus

the one which should really protect her is ahem modi...her husband
not her saas ,sis or sasur...
if ahem was free to her and open ...gopi wouldnt have did any dumbness .for her everyone in the family is new...gopi -koki have a generation gap...koki wont understand the very aspects of gopi.
so if ahem falls in love with gopi there ends her dumbness...and the kalakaries...so we hope that this kalakari will back hit urshi and make gohem together...

swambhawamiyugeyuge...

Yes, agree totally Asha! A husband's protection is like an umbrella for the wife against life's storms.