Do you think Kokila is rude?

she is only rude to evil minded persons

she likes the truth so when she is getting to the truth she tells them as is no beating round the bush. straight to the point

but she is very acerb??

well Koki can't be described in good or bad

She is bad to people whom she thinks will harm her family and feels her opinion is wasted on them... her opinion may be right or wrong...

she got her kids married to 2 people who were as blamelass as they come (till now that is how Dhawal is portrayed, so am keeping him in positive light) but she was the perpetrator of all the unhappiness in her own kids lives and that of the people she brought home...
is Ahem so great that his love is everything in the world for Gopi and Koki is doing her a favor by getting Gohem together... "main tumhe ahem ka pyaar paane me madad karoongi" (she said something to this effect) how preposterous, when she herself is hiding a lot of truth, which could have removed a lot of misunderstandings between Gohem...

i remember seeing her butting in and spoiling a moment that could have become a sweet moment for Gohem in the initial stages of their marriage... i saw her doing this on more than one occasion and also she is not happy if her bahu does something considerate for her son... and buts in to lessen the impact.... i hate Koki a lot during those times

she is just a straight forward women..yes shemay be strict but not rude
and she is not a bad person for sure infact i find her fair..although she could have done something for her son;s happy married life