Gopi and Ahem - UpDate - Page 9

Originally posted by: monalidp

Yeah...cooking and cleaning are not the qualities for someone to fall in love with...but you are very close to the truth. Men DO want their wives to do cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc.😆 If a girlfriend aspires to be a wife someday, she must demonstrate these essential qualities or she has slim chance to succeed.😕 Gopi has much more to her than cooking and cleaning which you are failing to understand. She deserves to be loved for her goodness of heart not for cooking and cleaning. Also, Aham is not 'required' to fall in love with her. Big Deal. She can get much better person that rude Aham Modi. But I am sure he will do it by his on volition when time comes.

Originally posted by: saomom

Why do you not think I cannot see a different opinion? Of course I can see it! I just don't agree with it. Apparently that makes me intolerant. As long as I agree with you I have tolerance? Rubbish! How about seeing things from my point of view?

I never told you to get out. In fact, this is what I said: If you would like to be a part of this SNS family, I will be the first to welcome you. If you come here only to be argumentative, then we would rather you not visit our little part of the world. No one here has a problem with a different opinion. What we do have a problem with is the way that opinion is delivered. Most of us here prefer to be gracious to each other in our differences. While we may not agree, there is an unspoken respect amongst the members.

We have grown up discussions all the time on this forum. People have differing opinions about Aham and Gopi. Some like Rashi and some don't. Heck, we can't even agree if this show is worth watching! And yet, no one throws a tantrum. The opinions are stated and no one feels attacked.

In the real world, adults speak nicely to each other. They know that when there is a differing opinion, you don't start lashing out and tell people they are intolerant because that only makes you appear to be the intolerant one. We discuss - not accuse.

The accusation of my close mindedness baffles me. I came to this forum with nothing in common with any of the members here. I took a leap of faith and came to help myself learn the language and the customs of the Indian people. By my good fortune, I was embraced by the members here when they had absolutely nothing to gain from welcoming me. I would say the people on this forum have been tolerant beyond measure when dealing with me. I have made blunders and mistakes as I have tried to learn and yet I was still welcomed.

I've been on the internet for over 16 years. One thing I have learned is that when you come to a new place, you lurk for a while to get a handle on the feel of the place. You introduce yourself to other people on the forum. You start off slowly and pretty soon you're part of the group. Here on the forum, the GupShup thread is the best place to introduce yourself - and the best place to meet the other members. Please drop by there and meet the other members of the forum. You may find that they are not the intolerant, close minded group of people you seem to think they are.

ps - tellyaddict's name is Sadhli not TD. And for the record, we would appreciate you treat her with a bit more respect. We happen to love her. And yes, in this instance I am talking for the other members of the forum.

pps - please keep in mind that the reality is, we are talking about a TV show. It's not real! Most of us here are hopeless romantics that want to see Gohem together. We know full well that the Aham character is deeply flawed and so is the Gopi character (along with every other member of MM). We simply don't really care. We just want to see them happy together. We know that the CVs have totally screwed up the characterization and we are trying to figure out how they're going to make this right. So to get so riled up is ridiculous. The brutal truth is that it's all pretend. We just choose to spend a bit of time each day in this pretend world - hoping for a bit of romance to blossom between Gohem.

Originally posted by: Laila2009

The point is Gopi does not sell - she does not have a personality. She offers the housemaid look, in traditional garb and is just "NICE" - a person has to be interesting. This is what no-one here comprehends.

Originally posted by: Laila2009

Gopi and Ahem are NOT what this whole show is about. Telling someone not to watch a show because there are problems with a story line is a very immature response. Again read my post - why should he like Gopi? She did a few "nice" things - great but that does not make a wonderful person. She herself does not want to educate herself (and of course her mother-in-law is to blame as well). And yes, Gopi's personality says she is BORING.

i didnt ask u 2 not watch the show... re read my post if u dont comprehend what i am trying 2 say to u...., i dont think i can put my opinion in a more straightforward way......btw wt are the qualities u feel that gopi should have so dat u feel ahem would fall for her..... if u want i could put it in a more clearer way...... wat are the qualities u find her lacking in???

She whines all the time - her voice is annoying. Also to be outspoke is not equivalent with being rude, disprespectful or respnosible for destroying a family. Neither Ahem nor Kinjal can speak up against their authoratative mother. NEITHER has a right and the whole family works as a team to push them to marry even if they do speak up. Kinjal is begging her mother and the family - do you see them relinquish?

if u feel her voice is annoying u or i cant do a thing bout it..... it's the voice of the actress dat is playing the role.....and the girl is playing the role very well.... i dont think just bcoz of the voice they would be needed 2 replace her......she is being outspoken ...... but in a silent way..... we need not voice out ..... hey as parents they have rights over their children 2 take decisions for them when they do things wrong..... and marriage is a big thing ..... n if the girl or guy whom they would marry does come into the family....and if the mother feels dat she is not right for the family then she can voice it out n if the guy agrees to his mom then he should keep up with ... he shouldnt treat her like unwanted....or something......

Dhawal accepted her because that annoying pressured him into it and he is such a dunce he does not know any better. Just because he agreed to accept her does not mean you have to MARRY that person. Goodness. And NO-ONE, no matter how bad is required to live their life for someone else. You have to learn to live your life for yourself WITHOUT hurting others intentionally what kind of 19th century views are pushing on this forum?

excuse me .... u need not teach me how 2 live my life .... got dat...... according 2 to u...... from wat i get from ur post.... u seem like a person who want all the people in the world 2 be exactly like u..... have opinon exactly like u....n live exactly like u..... others ppl dont have d right 2 live in dis world... as per ur opinion.... if each n everyone having the same qualities will make the whole world boring......

Education and confidence are not important? REALLY - talk about putting yourself and others, including your own children, at a disadvantage.

i m not saying dat they arent important..... it is a necessity...... but wat if ppl dont have them...... u wold go n kill them...... wat kind of narrow mindedness is dis ......

i m an educated girl...... i never said education is not needed..... n did i say dat i would not let my children get educated???? huh???? try be broad minded n not narrow minded dat only education n being moden is important okay?????

Originally posted by: Laila2009

Originally posted by: Laila2009

Who the heck does stand up to their parents for each and everything? We need to stand up only if each and everything they do is wrong!!! And parents like should not be having kids if they do each and everything wrong. By the way, you need to live your life for yourself. You need to learn to form your OWN opinions, ideas and viewpoints. Parents and husbands are not there 24/7 and if you cannot think for yourself or learn from your own actions, how do you plan to survive in this world? Do you always plan to be a child? Helpless, indecisive and lost?

ppl do stand up for each n everything.... for example kinjal on d show.... n i have a real life example for that too.... who spoiled her life trying 2 stand up for everything..... who is now suffering a lot.... n who r u 2 say dat parents shouldnt have kids...... n one more thing..... i dont think parents will try 2 spoil their life making wrong decisions for children......parents would want the best for their children....... i do have my own opinion ideas n viewpoints n i follow them....n dat wat i mstating here.... u r d one who is trying very very hard to change our opinions n viewpoints n evrything......we do think for ourselves n learn from it ... u need not teach us...... n who r u 2 ask me how to survive in dis world... n have u seen me in real life dat u r saying dat i m a child , who is helpless indecisive or lost..... i do make my own decisions i do stand up 2 my parents if they make any mistake..... i m not a helpless indecisive child....... sorry if i m being rude ..... but i cant help.it... u have gotten on my nerves..... shut up about commenting on my personal life n on my view points.... i dont like ppl advicing me 2 change myself got dat........u need not comment on my personal life......


u gave out ur opinion on the characters.... if u want 2 help the cv's 2 make a character change do email d cv's ..... nobody is forcing u not to.... we gave out our opinions.... u cant consider them as a viewpoint n consider them as personal attacks then it's ur problem ......


bubye i dont think i can talk anymore 2 u.... since u seem like a person who only wants ppl 2 have ur opinion..... u dont buy other ppl's opinion.... it's either ur way or the highway.... so bubye take care... n yeah hope u get 2 meet ppl who do agree with u.....

Originally posted by: monalidp

You are diverting from your original post. Please stick to the point. Here you have made some new points and I am answering those. Gopi DOES sell, she has hundreds of supporters on this forum alone. She DOES have a personality, which is that of a nice, caring and selfless girl. Her traditional garb appeals to 99% of viewers. Her look is NOT that of a housemaid, you don't get housemaids wearing designer sarees/lehengas and expensive jewellery😆 As to being interesting, she does interest 90% of the viewers, there are some who don't like her, but they aren't much bothered with it. If you don't find her interesting, no one can help it. I think you have exhausted your capacity to reason logically and now making random statements. Please stop posting if you don't have anything worthwhile to say. I do not expect any response to this post unless you want to quote individual statements and lash out at me. I won't be responding again. Period.

Originally posted by: NiVu-mjht1

ppl do stand up for each n everything.... for example kinjal on d show.... n i have a real life example for that too.... who spoiled her life trying 2 stand up for everything..... who is now suffering a lot.... n who r u 2 say dat parents shouldnt have kids...... n one more thing..... i dont think parents will try 2 spoil their life making wrong decisions for children......parents would want the best for their children....... i do have my own opinion ideas n viewpoints n i follow them....n dat wat i mstating here.... u r d one who is trying very very hard to change our opinions n viewpoints n evrything......we do think for ourselves n learn from it ... u need not teach us...... n who r u 2 ask me how to survive in dis world... n have u seen me in real life dat u r saying dat i m a child , who is helpless indecisive or lost..... i do make my own decisions i do stand up 2 my parents if they make any mistake..... i m not a helpless indecisive child....... sorry if i m being rude ..... but i cant help.it... u have gotten on my nerves..... shut up about commenting on my personal life n on my view points.... i dont like ppl advicing me 2 change myself got dat........u need not comment on my personal life......


u gave out ur opinion on the characters.... if u want 2 help the cv's 2 make a character change do email d cv's ..... nobody is forcing u not to.... we gave out our opinions.... u cant consider them as a viewpoint n consider them as personal attacks then it's ur problem ......


bubye i dont think i can talk anymore 2 u.... since u seem like a person who only wants ppl 2 have ur opinion..... u dont buy other ppl's opinion.... it's either ur way or the highway.... so bubye take care... n yeah hope u get 2 meet ppl who do agree with u.....