Why blame Tara ?

For all those blaming Tara , I ask some questions .

Who took her own marraige for granted , left Nahar , jeopardised her own child , and made it a mission to preserve someone else's [ Tara brij] marraige , someone else's child [ advitiya] ? Saloni .

Who , instead of letting things be , invited the wrath of her own family [ Ambika and Samar], and plonked Kalika on them inspite of knowing how upset they wud be , once more jeopardised her baby and was admitted in hospital for the sheer pressure of things ? Saloni .

Who suggested Kalika's name and took it upon herself to get Shitij married inspite of being heavily pregnant .....when she shud have focussed on her baby and some rest and shud have left the matter to others in the house ? Who brought Kalika in the house in the first place ? Saloni !

The name of the show is Saat Phere , and Saloni very conveniently forgets that the Saat phere r with Nahar and he shud be of prime importance . His baby shud be of utmost importance . That husband's family is ultimately only there coz of the main link....the husband . Today all r saying Tara this Tara that but Tara had not asked Saloni to make such big big sacrifices had she ? Saloni did them coz of her own will ! Infact , Tara , wrong though she is currently , gives supreme value to Brijesh alone [ let the rest of the world go go bhaad me i want only my husband is her blunt motto] .....and even more value to Advitiya , who is her priority above all ! Whereas Saloni's baby is devalued by the mother herself ....Saloni !

So Why blame tara so much ? Infact if the character of Saloni had an iota of sense she wud study Tara and learn what life's priorities r !

i agree with you that sal can be irritating sometimes, always trying to rescue everyone else without considering the consequences. sometimes i wish they would just send her away to a deserted island or something, where she would just relax and stop worrying about the world's problems and focus on her child.

but tara's behavior towards her isn't justified. saloni did make a mistake but despite of all the annoying things she does, she always has good intentions. for tara to accuse her otherwise is very unfeeling considering how much she sacrificed for her. you yourself said it's ridiculous that sal went to extremes to protect tara/brij and save their child, but the fact remains that she went to extraordinary lengths to help her, and in just one instant tara seems to have forgotten all that. in fact whenever something comes up against saloni, tara always seems to go against her. so i don't think saloni is perfect by any means, but when people are angry at tara, i can't really blame them.

saloni doesn't seem to distinguish one member of the family from another. to her kalika, a total stranger, is just as important as her husband, parents, and sister. that is what i don't like about her--she does not know when it's appropriate to butt in and when she should just stay out of other peoples' business. however, i don't think tara is who she should be learning from. tara's obsessive behavior towards advitya is unhealthy. both women are extremes--saloni is careless and tara is obsessive. i don't find either of them ideal.

I disagree.

Saloni may have flaws but she never accused or blamed anybody for just b/c she was angry or frustrated.

And Tara has. The main proof of this was shown in today's episode when Tara still blamed Saloni. Why was she still accusing her? First she had blamed Sal b/c she thought the money given by NS would make Brijesh's case weak but now he's out of jail isn't he? Whatever happened after that wasn't Sal's fault, it's not like she told Brijesh to slap Dheer.

I know that Saloni should focus more on her husband and her child but it's not like Nahar is just sitting there and focusing on Sal and his baby all the time, he's worried about his brother too.

So how can Sal just focus on just one member of the family she has to worry about the others too, after all she does live in a joint family.

And Saloni probably thought KK liked each other b/c of how KTJ was praising Kalika so of course any good person would want to unite two people who seem to be a good match for each other.

Sal didn't know KK's true intentions, she just knew the good ones they falsely portrayed.

In my opinon, Nahar and his baby hold the most importance in Sal's life. When Sal staked everything she has it was to get Tara her child. Nahar always felt guilty b/c he thought Tara couldn't become a mother b/c of his mistake, so Sal tried to fill Nahar and Tara's void.

Also it's not like she actually aborted the baby. She lied to jiji about the abortion. If the baby didn't mean anything to Sal then why did she lie about the abortion to jiji?

I agree that Tara loves Brijesh and can't live without him and he holds the utmost importance in her life but the same goes for Saloni towards Nahar. The only difference is that Tara wants Brijesh to be happy and fine and it seems like nothing else matters to her but Saloni wants Nahar to be happy and fine too and everyone else as well.

No offense intended.

Kernal

guys

ur not understanding me at all .

I am not saying Tara is correct at all . Tara is a very limited lady . That is a fact , that is her character . Expecting anything else from her is wrong . Is this the first time she has treated Saloni this way ? No , there have been many times she has conveniently turned against Saloni and talked badly to her . Yet , it is Saloni's choice to forgive her , not to remain angry with her and to give her priority above her own marraige even . Now if Saloni has chosen this path , why blame others is my question .

See even forgiveness shud be given with judgement and caution . If u go around getting treated like crap , and forgiving everyone anyways , they start taking u for granted and start devaluing u . That is what has happened to Saloni . Has she ever remained miffed with Tara after rescuing her and made her realize her fault ? Never ! it is always ....Bhabisa ur big , u dont even apologize ! What rubbish yaar ! Thats the reason Tara thinks she can get away with all these rubbish insults she flings around !Has Saloni ever shown that Tara has hurt her by talking to Brijesh but decidedly not talking to his wife for some months till it sunk in Tara's brain that she shud never do it again ? Never ! Saloni has given Tara the clear cut message that treat me anyhow , ill always value u more than myself , my marraige ! Even now , whats the reason to keep quiet ? If the answer is it is not classy to constantly answer back an elder , sorry , i dont buy it ......there is nothing wrong in firmly defending urself . Why will others silence Tara ....its none of their business , it is Saloni alone who can silence her and she does have the capacity to talk sharply at times . So why blame Tara is my question .

Kernal , no offense , but i disagree about the point where u say Saloni gives her own marraige equal importance . She doesnt . She is a classic case of a woman happily busy preserving others marraiges and taking her own marraige for granted . The Brijesh Tara marraige was so important to her that she virtually destroyed her own marraige ......which was a ridiculous thing to do . When in reality she shud have taken Nahar into confidence . She didnt , and she put him thru hell . She is pregnant but running on the roads like a madwoman for saving Advitiya ...taking falls , never really giving her unborn foetus who cant speak the priority it desrves . And all this she does by her wish . Goodness is ok till it doesnt become annoying , and Samar once pointed it out to saloni .

Rainabow , totally agreed that Taras obsession with her baby is unhealthy . But thats not wat im talking about . What Im saying is the base of that unhealthy obsession is prioritisation . And Saloni seems to have lost touch with her priorities and the meaning of Saat phere .

I also disagree. saloni did it because she is not selfish. She care for every one in the family. May be because she is older (forget kalika) sister in the house. and I know how it goes. Becuase I had 4 of my younger siblings. Girls have this motherly instincts. And that is what makes saloni so sacrificial. becuse she has always put herself last when it came to her own.
May be it is bulit in behavior as I have seen may older sisters and how they helped the entire family.
Saloni is not doing this so she will be called mahan. it just that she cares and you can not wipe out those feelings after you get married. tehy get

well then , when ur sacrificial , as u put it , sacrifices r done without expectation . Sacrifices r thankless jobs . Saloni has chosen this path as u say ramas , it is her inbuilt nature . It is not necessary that the people for whom she does these big big sacrifices will necessarily return it with immense gratitude .....as the world around is not great but very limited . And so is tara . I dont think Saloni herself expects Tara to be of her level and chooses to overlook it , so what im saying is why r others , on behalf of Saloni getting so anger ? Clearly , Saloni doesnt mind being treated like crap and we must respect it . 😆

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000

well then , when ur sacrificial , as u put it , sacrifices r done without expectation . Sacrifices r thankless jobs . Saloni has chosen this path as u say ramas , it is her inbuilt nature . It is not necessary that the people for whom she does these big big sacrifices will necessarily return it with immense gratitude .....as the world around is not great but very limited . And so is tara . I dont think Saloni herself expects Tara to be of her level and chooses to overlook it , so what im saying is why r others , on behalf of Saloni getting so anger ? Clearly , Saloni doesnt mind being treated like crap and we must respect it . 😆

saloni is never asking nor expecting. In this world 2 kinds of ppl exists once who give then others wo takes. Saloni never asked for any favors from any one. some ppl are so self sufficient that they hate to ask others for favors and feels that things they can do themselves why bother others. That is when saloni messes up many times.

Tara on other hand hardly does anything and every time she is put to test she blames her downfall on others. She always like to be taken care of and also stick her nose where it does not belong. All she does it is scream to rpove her point. What would be Tara without brijesh and singh parivar. she has nothing without that family.

Yes advitiya and brijesh should be important to her . but they live in joint family. So it should be all the other members as well. The way she treated Dheer and Ishan when tehy were playing with advitiya was totally disgusting. Same time when she was at blame for falling a sleep when she had sent Nahar away and was suppose to take care of saloni. Nahar yelled a little and she told Nahar why are you yelling and walked away angry.

Now why is she yelling and it is not even saloni's fault. She tried to help victims she has not commited some crime or went in public and said hey we are gulity so we are paying off.

Tara's behavior is unacceptable as an older bahu of the house. I am both an older bahu and older beti of the house and I know one thing when things get tough you take control of it calmly rather than blaming others or fate for the situation.

ramas ...do read all my posts in this thread . in each , i have said that Tara is a very ordinary , small minded , limited kind of lady .....no one is praising Tara here . What I am saying is .....when one helps these kind of people , it is a thankless job . Neither do such people acknowledge the help , or remember it , or r grateful for long....they quickly forget it it is human tendency .

Remember ....Tara is ordinary ....it is Saloni who is extraordinary . Also when u said Tara pokes her nose in other peoples business I wish to point out to u that Poking nose in other peoples business is more of our dear Saloni's speciality rather than Taras . She pokes it in everyone's business . With good intentions , but she does do it . And this is wat she gets . This is wat she will always get .

Arre baba ....if Tara has herself bluntly told Saloni in front of so many people ki yes I am swarthi [ selfish ]......what more can one expect from such a character ? This is my question .

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000

ramas ...do read all my posts in this thread . in each , i have said that Tara is a very ordinary , small minded , limited kind of lady .....no one is praising Tara here . What I am saying is .....when one helps these kind of people , it is a thankless job . Neither do such people acknowledge the help , or remember it , or r grateful for long....they quickly forget it it is human tendency .

Remember ....Tara is ordinary ....it is Saloni who is extraordinary . Also when u said Tara pokes her nose in other peoples business I wish to point out to u that Poking nose in other peoples business is more of our dear Saloni's speciality rather than Taras . She pokes it in everyone's business . With good intentions , but she does do it . And this is wat she gets . This is wat she will always get .

Arre baba ....if Tara has herself bluntly told Saloni in front of so many people ki yes I am swarthi [ selfish ]......what more can one expect from such a character ? This is my question .

Yes saloni pokes her nose with good intention as she likes to help everyone. I know it is very wrong. Not everyone appreciates others prying in their business.

But then Tara advises on the matters she has no clue. bringing KTJ up and giving him powers was her idea. When brijesh was against it and sal supported brij. But Tara went against it. Giving more powers to KTJ was Tara's idea. So any one is to blame for Brij's downfall is Tara.

i agree 100% more ppl in this world are like Tara who always like to blame situations on others rather than getting the cause of it and trying to solve them. Then rely on others to take care of them.

There , u got it and said it ! This was what im saying for so long though i know very well this is a forum where everyone loves Saloni . Facts r facts. There r two things people watching this show can decide .

1] To be wise and not to meddle in other people's business as it fetches only blame and misery . example : Saloni and Shubhra . 😆

2] To rise above ur ordinary self and make it a mission not to live life for urself alone but to help everyone who comes across ur journey of life and never to expect thanks for it but to do it like Saloni does .....for her own happinress as helping others makes her happy .

Choice is ours . 😆