| 14-year-old reality show participant believes sex change will help her be a star singer; feels like a boy in a girl's body
Diksha Sharma (14) believes her gender is stopping her from realising her dreams that of becoming a singer. The girl from Haryana was recently in Mumbai to audition for a reality show, but didn't get selected.
She says she feels like an "outsider" in her girls' school and wants to get a sex change as soon as she turns 18.
| | Diksha was among the 55 children from nine cities who contested in the final round of auditions in Mumbai last month | Diksha Sharma has dreams in her eyes. The 14-year-old girl from Sirsa, Haryana, wants to become a famous singer and is willing to go to any extent to realise her dream.
According to Diksha, who tried her luck on a reality TV show recently, there's just one obstacle her gender.
But she's found a solution to that problem as well. Diksha has decided to undergo a sex change operation immediately after she turns 18.
She says this will not only help her become a top singer, but will also quell her frustration of being a boy trapped in the body of a girl.
Talking to MiD DAY from her hometown, Diksha said she wanted to be a boy since she was in Std VI.
Diksha, whose clothes, mannerisms and demeanour are like that of a boy, said, "I don't care about what clothes I wear and make up does not excite me. I like to play cricket and ride a bike.LOL!!! so that is what it takes for a girl to be like a guy?😆...I have seen guys who take more than an hour to get ready coz they need to match their clothes with their shoes, apply gel on their hair, spike their hair, straighten their hair to make perfect bangs, etc...So, that's definitely not a valid reason for a girl to change her gender.
In my school, meant only for girls, I feel like an outsider. I have two elder sisters and my parents raised me like a boy because they weren't going to have more kids. So, it's partly her parent's fault. It's selfish how they raised her like a guy just coz of their desire to have a son.
I feel frustrated because I think I would have definitely made the finals of Zee TV's SaReGaMaPa Little Champs if I were a boy." What has her internal organs got to do with her voice and her singing?
Such is life
Diksha was among the 55 children from nine cities who contested in the final round of auditions in Mumbai last month. She was not among the 12 kids selected for the competition.
"It was the first time I had such a big platform to showcase my talent and make it big. I'm sure I would have won the competition had I been a boy. But such is life," said Diksha.
Ajay Bhalwankar, ZEE TV's programming head, said, "During the auditions in Delhi, Diksha insisted that she be included in the group of boys and we obliged.
However, she didn't go past the final auditions in Mumbai. We wish her luck and appreciate her parents for supporting her through this."
Parental support
Though Diksha's parents aren't thrilled about her decision, they've decided to stand by their daughter. Parents feel obliged to stand by their kids though they might be against their kids' choices. But they need to understand that a fourteen year old is not mature enough to take such decisions that are gonna bring drastic changes in their lives in future. Instead of "supporting" her, they need to knock some sense into the girl.
"We tried to explain to Diksha that she should be happy with what God has given her. But we've also told her that she can do as she pleases when she turns 18. Legally, it's valid for a person to do what he/she pleases after turning 18 but this is about the person's emotions and not just legal rights. She needs to first make sure that she is ready for such a drastic change. Personally, I don't advocate transgender surgeries.
We are not worried about any backlash from society, we will support her in her decision," said her father Krishnan Sharma, who works in a dispensary and suffers from respiratory problems. Her mother runs a beauty parlour from home. I don't know what her parents are thinking, seriously. I would never expect any "good" parent to be like....yea..i support my kid's decision when the kid is merely a fourteen yr old. It's like as if a two year old's got a cavity but still wants to have a candy and his/her parents "support" the kid's decision to make the kid happy.!!! If I was her mom, I'd rather try to bring her on the right track instead of "supporting" her, whatever that implies.
Having convinced her parents, Dikhsha does not want to waste any more time. "I am desperately looking for a doctor who will help me with the operation," said Diksha.
Counselling, a must
According to psychologist Seema Hingoranny, "Diksha needs counselling. Most teenagers experience identity crisis that can either be temporary or shape the adults they become.
For example, some people who express a desire for a sex change may be suffering from a gender sexual identity disorder that may be the result of some childhood trauma or hatred towards a particular sex."
Dr Vijay Sharma, president of the Indian Association of Cosmetic Surgery, said, "Technically, a sex change operation does nothing, but offer aesthetic value.
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