Why the Age Difference Is Not TOO Creepy..Right?

Originally posted by: Santiago24

Lovely piece, Napster! 👏

I am or should I say, was one of those who was not in concurrence with a romance between Adiraj and Anami. But your perspective opened up a different vantage point. And I must say - how true!

Romance is inevitable, and I dont think it is inappropriate even if it starts over the next few months, if they handle it correctly. and the way to do that is not eye locks and heavy breathing, but trust and friendship, slowly ripening on her side, to awareness. On his side, I think he is smitten, but he will fight it. Unlike most serials, i think this one has a stellar writing team, with a very nuanced presentation of very difficult concepts. I trust them to do this well, if they can handle homosexuality, and the rejection of a "girly" male by his family without turning into some kind of ham fisted gay joke, I think the less difficult task of an age gap romance is possible.

He is a 'safe' guy despite his good looks.. no overdose of testosterone there and his 'mardangi' does not need the validation of a arm twisted or palpitating female lead backed to a wall.

I think the shortcut to this is to see how he handles women--and he handles women of all stripes beautifully. He is nothing but respectful of his subordinate, and that is telling, for male field like police work. He allows her to dictate to him--this is my first VVIP case, I will handcuff her myself ..allows insubordination --the chair sitting scene, the teasing. His sister exerts benevolent control -- he listens when she tells him not to call their father, she is the tiny little boss in their home. His masculinity is not predicated on controlling women, or forcing them to submit. That is amazing. I haven't seen that onscreen for a long long time.

Infact, i was quite cheesed out with today's precap. I was wondering if this angle was actually necessary - of anami even discussing adiraj with her chunnu coterie. She is under-age for chrissake but then I forget, for younger gals, older guys ( technically speaking) definitely spring a spark somewhere.

Yaar, show me a teenager who isn't attracted to a hot adult man (not too much older) who is single, powerful and nice and I'll show you a lying teenager. That is the other thing-- she is 17, not 7. One year away from being an adult. The fact she is a minor is his problem, not hers. We have had young heroines before--KKG from IPKKND was all of 20 when she met her man (and the amount of physical tossing about there was insane). In RR set in rural India, Paro was a teenager as well, 18-19 years when she's married. We are expected to accept the young-old trope, its hardly a new idea.

But my point is, in this instance between Anami and Adhiraj, I hope this is something this show will address via Adhiraj feeling conflicted, because the element of her BEING a child still is underlined. Baccha Party, playing with kids, hanging out with Laddoo, chasing a ball around, her tomboyish clothing, even her wild hair ...all of these scream "child". In this case the casting had to be right, or it would have been way, WAY too creepy.

I didnt know that Adi was 27 btw.

Im assuming. The guy is a police investigator, and clearly a successful one of some seniority. If you assume University, and then Officer Training Academy, along with at least 2-4 years of professional experience, you arrive at 27 AT THE LEAST. I don't think quite 30, but certainly not a bright eyed college kid of 23-24, wearing ripped jeans and listening to Taylor Swift. Plus DDLJ---that dates you, yeah? 😆

However, tell me something. Right now, Adi's purported care, concern etc for anami hinges on the one presumption of his that she is an innocent who has somehow got embroiled in murky affairs of Lal Mahal. But, the day, he realises the truth that anami is indeed a true heir, what stops him from targeting anami as well in his whatever plan against lal mahal. why would he not include her in part as the connection he has with the place?

If he takes the "I will make her lurve me and then, I will reveal my true face, Mother I have revenged you, hah hah haaa" route, I can safely assume he will be inside that well that Satrupa spoke of today, on their 1000 acre land. After being beaten to a pulp by the infuriated and not to be trifled with Anami, no less. She is not going to curl into a ball of hurt and despair, ready to keep the laaj of her sindoor, and suffer in silence. She will BEAT him. But jokes aside, any investigation will reveal that blood heir or not, member of the family or not--she IS masoom. The whole of Benaras knows she was brought up there, by whom, and under what conditions. She did not do anything to anyone. The accident of her birth, which she is fighting tooth and nail, cannot be a reason for this pretty level headed, normal guy to decide to revenge himself on the elders through a child. It would make him no better than Pujan, who killed a child because of his elders.

And then perhaps, all this wait n watch, not encouraging love to blossom etc may not necessarily take the same trajectory as one thinks?

I dont think him deliberately setting out to trap her into falling for him can work, because he is already protective of her, and its in his nature, even when he is questioning whether she is a pawn or a player in all this, to still worry for her safety. So, it would take a convoluted mind indeed to warp her innocence into some fake dramatic love story for revenge's sake.

Also, the issue is:

(a) the type of girl she is-- hardly the chui mui type to dream of love who he can seduce. He wont need to "make" her fall for him. She's attracted plenty, and if she falls for him, it will be because she wants to. On her terms. She will make damn sure he knows it, too. She is too brash to hide it and moon over him, and there is a certain innocence to her that will be hard for him to counter, when she does fall.

(b) the type of man he is-- I don't see him taking advantage of a crush, when he finds out she has one. Flirting, sure. But taking advantage of her feelings for him to further his cause will be reprehensible. I see him kind of appalled at himself, at how he is feeling for a girl who he is investigating and should be treating impartially, and fighting it quite hard once he realizes he's in too deep. And helping her, because he is compelled to. Both my his feelings, and his duty to help the innocent--which he knows she is.