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Posted: 7 years ago
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Originally posted by: foresight


no one in their right mind would bash their mother in law over small disagreements. It messes up life for everyone...most importantly urself. and bashing mil also messes your own marraige. Diya is sensible, mature and intelligent. she isn't trying to hit back just to prove she is strong. she knows she is strong and when the time comes, even KM will admit it. Diya doesnt need to make a show of it on every occasions. Smart ones know which battle to fight and which not it. Diya like many of the successful women in real life knows that well and knows that it never helps to make enemies with mil if it can be helped.

very well said👏

there is huge difference between maintaining self respect and reacting blindly. if you want to maintain self respect, the best way is to prove them wrong and make them take their words back and not stoop yourself to saying bad words.

since ratan was responsible for the mess, it is morally ratan's responsibility first to clear the misunderstanding. he did it. Diya knew he would.

here ratan has made it clear that it is his fault and his fault alone. and he has said it to KM every time she has tried to accuse Diya, so why should diya again add the same thing as if to justify herself? does she need to give justifications to KM esp when it is clearly said out loud by the person responsible for it, Ratan ...that she is blameless.

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Posted: 7 years ago
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no need to say bad words ..telling that u r son is responsible he did this childish thing without thinking cosequencsand see the results why blame me ..these words when said how it becomes bashing ..
what is bashing meaning by thw way bashing is critisicing some one severely ..here KM did bashing

if diya defends herself it comes unde retort it does not come under bashing ..

yes strong women retort when accused badly .they wont wait for others to defend only meek people wait for othes to defend themselves

strong women dont scheme .or bash othrs unneessarily .but they retort and defend themselves without waitng for others to defend thm be it mother in law or any one
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Posted: 7 years ago
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Originally posted by: VARUNI2014

no need to say bad words ..telling that u r son is responsible he did this childish thing without thinking cosequencsand see the results why blame me ..these words when said how it becomes bashing ..

what is bashing meaning by thw way bashing is critisicing some one severely ..here KM did bashing

if diya defends herself it comes unde retort it does not come under bashing ..

yes strong women retort when accused badly .they wont wait for others to defend only meek people wait for othes to defend themselves

strong women dont scheme .or bash othrs unneessarily .but they retort and defend themselves without waitng for others to defend thm be it mother in law or any one


relationships dont work that way. mature sensible definitely dont. it poisons the relationship and then mending it to civil relation takes ages. it is extremely easy to break relation with a retort but difficult to keep it civil with restraint. strong woman dont retort unnecessarily. when the person responsible is taking responsibility there is not reason to comment for Diya. if ratan hadnt clarified, then stating facts calmly...the key word here is calmly...is the mature approach. retorting in a relationship only leads to fight. and while you dont need to hide from fights, you also dont need to create them everywhere.

every mother in law daughter in law relationship is a bit strained in the beginning. if one is being unreasonable, it doesnt mean the other one needs to be as well. if the relationship is managed well in the initial period, it can be the biggest support system the daughter in law can have. here diya has enough on her mind as is with divorce and if that is not enough, it took both dira a while to understand what is even going on. why would she add to her headache by more fights when she is supposed to be leaving? and leaving with dignity have made the divorce decision herself.

retorting doesnt make someone strong. it only makes them blunt. and restraint doesnt make someone weak or meek, it only makes them mature sometimes as they know when to bring things up and when to stay quiet.

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Posted: 7 years ago
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what divorce decision did diya made .
.alreday ratan made that decision .then diya asking for divorce is just name sake..

even if diya did not ask ratan would give her divorce ..he was just waiting for her dad to recover

restriant needed as long as u r not unnecessraily blamed ...


if mom in laws are sensible then daughter in laws will be sensible oo in fact eldrs need to show much patience

in south india mom in laws alreday relaisd it ..in educatd urban and semi rural homes ..ofcourse after some bad experiences they suffered




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