A 6 year relationship ended so quickly?

I'm talking about Nishant and Sukhmani....the clients in the epi this week....they seemed so madly in love when they first walked in.....always holding hands....they'd picked out their engagement rings....and then a chance meeting with two other ppl and everything changed??😕😆

Sukhmani met Neel and was instantly impressed.....Nishant met Ruchika and was instantly attracted to her too.....they both KNEW that the other ppl were just stand ins....and yet it seemed they couldn't help but fall for them....

It just makes me think.....these ppl were together for six whole years....that's a very long time....and there was so much love b/w them....but just one meeting with other ppl made it all go poof??😕😆....was it ever love to begin with then?? If it wasn't, then isn't 6 years plenty of time to have figured that out before reaching the decision of marriage??

The scene when their parents finally meet each other and everything seems to have fallen in place yet they are both so hesitant and then seem to realize that this just isn't meant to be.....the irony was pretty tangible in that scene....

They first walked in holding hands....and later on as Isha-Rohan both noticed when they were leaving....they weren't even holding hands....such a sea change b/w two ppl so quickly??😆

I wonder if it was ever love to begin with if they fell out of love with each other so quickly😕😆

Thoughts?

Oh wow - I honestly just logged in to comment about this .... [didn't have time to do so last night after watching the R.com episode because I just had to go watch Criminal Minds and Bones😛😆 .... sorry coming back to the point😆] ..... but I saw this as soon as I logged in 😃 ..... so thanks Anu for starting the discussion on this😳

Okay firstly .... I honestly didn't think that Sukhmani and Nishant would end up the way they did ..... actually I was preparing myself for something bad to happen to R.com (the company) ..... I mean Shruti mentioned that the episodes are going to be more action-packed soon and I honestly thought that the parents would find out everything and would be on the war-path against them ........ not melodramatically or anything but I actually thought that the parents would end up suing Isha and Rohan because what they did was not ethical and reflects badly on their company since they're using their employees as potential matches and setting up actual clients to be rejected ..... (and the lawsuit is still something that could happen since Nishant doesn't know the truth about why he was set up with Sukhmani - don't know how Mr. "I-handle-three-businesses-and-you-can't-handle-one-client"😆 would take being used the way he was even if he did end up benefiting from it 🤔) ..... so to see a 6 year long relationship practically vanish into thin air at the mere introduction of other possible options was quite unexpected and .... a bit disheartening😕 .... yet also very real😕

I'm not against the way they handled the track ..... I'm actually glad that they did show this side of the world we live in today .... where a relationship can break down with the slightest hint of a "way out"

Like you said Anu, they had engagement rings picked out, were always holding hands, were willing to pay the R.com fees to be set up with each other, and everything else that their 6-year-log relationship was supposedly based on ....... but the introduction of viable options made that love and commitment take a hike ....... [and by "viable" I don't mean to put down Sally or Huzeifa but Sally is already married and very confused (and insulting to Nishant's parents with the whole calling them old repeatedly thing😆) during the meeting and Huzeifa was completely depressed and robotic😆 ..... so they were set up to be obvious rejections ........ but Ruchika and Neel behaved normally (especially Neel who actually was a true option for Sukhmani) hence making them likable and "viable"]

It really made me reflect on the state of relationships today where "love you forever" has become "love you forever or until I find someone else"😕 .... I mean I could have understood if they had been drifting apart already or if they had been separated or something .... but they were "lovey-dovey-ly" picking out engagement rings one night and 24 hours later they were thinking of ways to break up with one another because they had seen "what they were missing"😕

I was tempted to ask if all relationships have just become akin to picking out clothes or deciding what to have for dinner .... where you're happy with your first choice until you walk through the rest of the store or look through your fridge/cupboard and see that there are more options available to you😕

But I'm not sure I can say something like that about all relationships just yet because as you asked Anu .... was there any love there to begin with? .....

I personally don't think so ..... I'm sure they liked and were attracted to each other ..... but I think they loved the idea of being in love and having a love marriage and rebelling against their parents while making them think they were doing exactly what they wanted ....... I also think they were in love with the comfort of knowing they weren't alone and didn't have to find anyone anymore .....

They'd been together for six years .... and all it took was Sukhmani meeting a rich-but-grounded guy who could help with her Dad's business and Nishant meeting a smart, sexy, funny girl to change their minds about each other😕 ..... the amount of discomfort between the two of them when their parents were getting along like a house on fire was baffling .....

In my humble opinion, if there was real love between them I don't think they would have grown apart as quickly as they did .... they could have still grown apart but I think it would have been more gradual because they wouldn't have wanted to mess up 6 years worth of love and togetherness after one day ...... but the pace at which they changed their minds and the fact that both changed their minds at the same time makes me think that they weren't in love with each other .... just in love with love

But again - before anyone concludes this - I'm not disappointed with the episode - I'm happy they showed the disappointing state of many relationships in the real world today 😊

and sorry about the long post😆

Interesting topic! In my humble opinion, love is great and beautiful and all-conquering but sometimes it can have an expiry date. I think that falling in love as well as falling out of love are things out of one's control. Either can happen in a nano-second. It's probable that Sukhmani and Nishant still loved each other in that decisive scene with their parents. But maybe they were not as sure about their feelings for each other as they were at the start of the episode. I feel they were both struck by the 'what if' thurderbolt. Is there something better out there? Sometimes a chance encounter at a bar can get one to question his / her attachment to one's significant other. I know more than one person who's been in a situation like that.

What i'm trying to say is this - It could be that Sukhmani and Nishant were not truly in love at the outset as nureat and tasha have suggested. But it could also be that they were truly, madly, deeply in love but just had a change of heart. Does sound tragic but is very much in the realm of possibility.

I hope my thoughts aren't too controversial.

anu..I m SO glad u made this topic..I wanted to make a similar one ever since I watched the epi yest..I guess this is the first time that an R.com epi hasnt had a goody-goody kinda ending like it has almost in every epi ..!

anyways, coming back to ur topic ..

I dunno if ther can b a generalised definition of love as such because thats individualistic, in my opinion.. but then, I HAVE seen ppl around me breaking up after their long 6-7 yrs relationship.. so yes, these things do happen in reality..and I guess thats what they'd intended to show this time ..

mayb it so happened that for 6 long yrs their lives revolved around each other only and everything jus began and ended wit them..almost like u kno, it happens when u get into a relationship at a very young age say around 15-16 or so ..many times ppl say it doesnt work..but it also happens the other way round .. that if they both are understanding enuf then they may accept each other, as in, each others' flaws etc and then they are so used to each other for 5-6 yrs that they dont even think of the otherwise options.. dont realise that they may b missing out on something/someone who may b much more compatible to them than this person, whom they are jus simply used to after being so long ..

but in this case, when they did hav a chance to explore the other options, they might hav suddenly realised that they are missing a lot in life due to this .. or discovered that they could b compatible wit other ppl too..and mayb much more..

also in this case, they wer shown to b really young .. and when they got into a relationship they must hav been pretty young and immature enuf..not to realise what they really want from life ..

so I guess thats what happened wit them .. its sad, but its a reality..

and once again, hats off to R.com for dealing wit such realistic issues wit class .. 👍🏼

Originally posted by: lovegoodshows

Interesting topic! In my humble opinion, love is great and beautiful and all-conquering but sometimes it can have an expiry date. I think that falling in love as well as falling out of love are things out of one's control. Either can happen in a nano-second. It's probable that Sukhmani and Nishant still loved each other in that decisive scene with their parents. But maybe they were not as sure about their feelings for each other as they were at the start of the episode. I feel they were both struck by the 'what if' thurderbolt. Is there something better out there? Sometimes a chance encounter at a bar can get one to question his / her attachment to one's significant other. I know more than one person who's been in a situation like that.

What i'm trying to say is this - It could be that Sukhmani and Nishant were not truly in love at the outset as nureat and tasha have suggested. But it could also be that they were truly, madly, deeply in love but just had a change of heart. Does sound tragic but is very much in the realm of possibility.

I hope my thoughts aren't too controversial.

Originally posted by: mads

anu..I m SO glad u made this topic..I wanted to make a similar one ever since I watched the epi yest..I guess this is the first time that an R.com epi hasnt had a goody-goody kinda ending like it has almost in every epi ..!

anyways, coming back to ur topic ..

I dunno if ther can b a generalised definition of love as such because thats individualistic, in my opinion.. but then, I HAVE seen ppl around me breaking up after their long 6-7 yrs relationship.. so yes, these things do happen in reality..and I guess thats what they'd intended to show this time ..

mayb it so happened that for 6 long yrs their lives revolved around each other only and everything jus began and ended wit them..almost like u kno, it happens when u get into a relationship at a very young age say around 15-16 or so ..many times ppl say it doesnt work..but it also happens the other way round .. that if they both are understanding enuf then they may accept each other, as in, each others' flaws etc and then they are so used to each other for 5-6 yrs that they dont even think of the otherwise options.. dont realise that they may b missing out on something/someone who may b much more compatible to them than this person, whom they are jus simply used to after being so long ..

but in this case, when they did hav a chance to explore the other options, they might hav suddenly realised that they are missing a lot in life due to this .. or discovered that they could b compatible wit other ppl too..and mayb much more..

also in this case, they wer shown to b really young .. and when they got into a relationship they must hav been pretty young and immature enuf..not to realise what they really want from life ..

so I guess thats what happened wit them .. its sad, but its a reality..

and once again, hats off to R.com for dealing wit such realistic issues wit class .. 👍🏼

@ lovegoodshows and mads (please do let me know what to call you as I don't know your names😳) - just really wanted to continue discussing this after reading your posts but since you guys raised similar points I thought I'd colour code them and respond to them together

@ blue - I do agree with that .... it is entirely possible to fall out of love with someone and you are both right that sometimes people end up missing out on the world around them (as you both said in red above)

I didn't mind that ..... I guess what bugged me a little (in general) ... was the point you both made in purple .... that they both "suddenly" realized it .... it was as though they were quite literally hit with a thunderbolt 😆 ..... I think it was the pace at which they spiraled out of love I had an issue with ..... I'm not saying that it doesn't happen ...... I just felt that these two fell out of love very quickly ..... and that's why I felt that they were more in love with the idea of being love and were too comfortable to see past that (as mads said ingreen) ..... I didn't meant to make it sound like they had never loved each other in my post (orange above) ....

I think I just didn't get how two people who are showing major PDAs one day could both realize otherwise at the same time ..... so I guess what bugged me was the PDA right before ..... does that mean they were already starting to feel otherwise and were purposely engaging in PDAs to show everyone else (namely Isha and Rohan in the office) that they were meant to be .... but if they each felt it why go through the whole thing of seeking Rohan and Isha out and buying engagement rings happily? 🤔 ...... and if they were genuinely madly, deeply in love with each other one day .... was that one encounter with someone else enough to break them up? ..... I mean maybe it was but this kinda makes me lose faith in relationships and love (a little) .... it is almost as if you could lose a relationship as seemingly "solid" as Sukhmani and Nishant's at any moment😕

Again - lemme clarify that I am not saying I disliked that they showed this in the show ..... as both of you said ..... this does happen in real life so I'm glad that they're sticking to reality ..... maybe I'm the only one but it is this reality of life that scares me ..... a little 🤔 ...I might be a hopeless romantic at heart .... but I still hope for the "forever and beyond" kinda love even if it is unrealistic😆

@Tasha, lovegoodshows, Mads: Great points, guys! I really enjoyed reading them....I'll surely try to reply to the posts individually soon....I'm kinda preoccupied with other stuff currently....lol

It was soo weird. 😳
Either they didn't really love each other, but were rather just infatuated with one another.
Or they both grew out of the relationship, at the same time. 😆
It wasn't, "you don't know what you have till it's gone".
More like, "you didn't know you were missing something till you have a taste of it". 🤪 😆

I'm more sorry for Isha and Rohan than the clients' relationship. How crazy to be match makers and know that you broke apart a "perfect" couple. 🥺

It was interesting to watch nonetheless (except Ruchika's freak outs, they were getting annoying).

It was a bit.. actually verrrrrrry odd!

Wonderful topic..

This is so differnt from the eternal ove/soulmates/kurbaan thingy which are totally overrated in the desi tv.😳Honestly the eternal love thingy makes me feel that TV gives a false perception for the youngsters regarding relationship(Not talking about the ones who can separate reel from real)😒

This particular case was real and bitter ,but unnatural...I dont think so..

Coming to the couple..I felt that after the initial courtship ,they were settling for each other.For them the only hurdle was the parents and that was the aim which was about to be settled.

Some times a couple can be together for a long period of time developing individually.But as long as the other one doesnt pull eachother DOWN the relationship goes on smoothly whether they are in the same page or not in m ost of the things...

It changes when you meet somebody newer whose charecteristics intrigues and challenges the developed you..Is it fair,not really..But not everyone in the world can settle..

God,I love R.com..Itjust tests differnt aspects of human relationship which exceds more than love,...The improtance it gives to diffent personalities are just too good..Rmeind me why this Show is not getting a season renewal,😡..YRF give it a chance...

Hey Anu,,wonderful topic..We have chatted a bit in HardKaur FC in JDJ 2..

Hmmmm...interesting topic...Talking in context I think Nishant and Sukhmani never loved each other....They like each other and were with each other just for the lack of a better option. After SIX years, now when they have an opportunity to look for other options they are oh-so-confused with their relationship.. And no doubt this does happen in real life too...specially these days...Have we not heard 'I don't love him/her anymore....I fall out of love' in real life countless times?

Personally I don't believe in 'falling out of love' phrase. I feel If you fall out of it then you were never in it. It's not love if it ends. I believe in love...the eternal kind. But unfortunately 'Love' is the most abused word these days. It's used for everything....attraction, desire, convenience, compromise...It's sad but true...