A 6 year relationship ended so quickly? - Page 2

Originally posted by: lovegoodshows

Interesting topic! In my humble opinion, love is great and beautiful and all-conquering but sometimes it can have an expiry date. I think that falling in love as well as falling out of love are things out of one's control. Either can happen in a nano-second. It's probable that Sukhmani and Nishant still loved each other in that decisive scene with their parents. But maybe they were not as sure about their feelings for each other as they were at the start of the episode. I feel they were both struck by the 'what if' thurderbolt. Is there something better out there? Sometimes a chance encounter at a bar can get one to question his / her attachment to one's significant other. I know more than one person who's been in a situation like that.

What i'm trying to say is this - It could be that Sukhmani and Nishant were not truly in love at the outset as nureat and tasha have suggested. But it could also be that they were truly, madly, deeply in love but just had a change of heart. Does sound tragic but is very much in the realm of possibility.

I hope my thoughts aren't too controversial.

Originally posted by: mads

anu..I m SO glad u made this topic..I wanted to make a similar one ever since I watched the epi yest..I guess this is the first time that an R.com epi hasnt had a goody-goody kinda ending like it has almost in every epi ..!

anyways, coming back to ur topic ..

I dunno if ther can b a generalised definition of love as such because thats individualistic, in my opinion.. but then, I HAVE seen ppl around me breaking up after their long 6-7 yrs relationship.. so yes, these things do happen in reality..and I guess thats what they'd intended to show this time ..

mayb it so happened that for 6 long yrs their lives revolved around each other only and everything jus began and ended wit them..almost like u kno, it happens when u get into a relationship at a very young age say around 15-16 or so ..many times ppl say it doesnt work..but it also happens the other way round .. that if they both are understanding enuf then they may accept each other, as in, each others' flaws etc and then they are so used to each other for 5-6 yrs that they dont even think of the otherwise options.. dont realise that they may b missing out on something/someone who may b much more compatible to them than this person, whom they are jus simply used to after being so long ..

but in this case, when they did hav a chance to explore the other options, they might hav suddenly realised that they are missing a lot in life due to this .. or discovered that they could b compatible wit other ppl too..and mayb much more..

also in this case, they wer shown to b really young .. and when they got into a relationship they must hav been pretty young and immature enuf..not to realise what they really want from life ..

so I guess thats what happened wit them .. its sad, but its a reality..

and once again, hats off to R.com for dealing wit such realistic issues wit class .. 👍🏼

Originally posted by: PyaarSe

It was soo weird. 😳
Either they didn't really love each other, but were rather just infatuated with one another.
Or they both grew out of the relationship, at the same time. 😆
It wasn't, "you don't know what you have till it's gone".
More like, "you didn't know you were missing something till you have a taste of it". 🤪 😆

I'm more sorry for Isha and Rohan than the clients' relationship. How crazy to be match makers and know that you broke apart a "perfect" couple. 🥺

It was interesting to watch nonetheless (except Ruchika's freak outs, they were getting annoying).

Originally posted by: -Anju-

Wonderful topic..

This is so differnt from the eternal ove/soulmates/kurbaan thingy which are totally overrated in the desi tv.😳Honestly the eternal love thingy makes me feel that TV gives a false perception for the youngsters regarding relationship(Not talking about the ones who can separate reel from real)😒

This particular case was real and bitter ,but unnatural...I dont think so..

Coming to the couple..I felt that after the initial courtship ,they were settling for each other.For them the only hurdle was the parents and that was the aim which was about to be settled.

Some times a couple can be together for a long period of time developing individually.But as long as the other one doesnt pull eachother DOWN the relationship goes on smoothly whether they are in the same page or not in m ost of the things...

It changes when you meet somebody newer whose charecteristics intrigues and challenges the developed you..Is it fair,not really..But not everyone in the world can settle..

God,I love R.com..Itjust tests differnt aspects of human relationship which exceds more than love,...The improtance it gives to diffent personalities are just too good..Rmeind me why this Show is not getting a season renewal,😡..YRF give it a chance...

Hey Anu,,wonderful topic..We have chatted a bit in HardKaur FC in JDJ 2..

Thanks, Anju :-) We've chatted in the Hard Kaur FC earlier?? I guess that's why your username seems a bit familiar😆

That's a good point you've made....I guess they were indeed settling for each other without fully realizing it....they were on the same page about everything till that point so they never thought there might be trouble in paradise....but meeting very different sort of ppl changed everything for them....which is why I don't think it was forever love to begin with....might have been puppy love initially given that they were both young and ultimately they just got used to each other....until a chance meeting with other ppl made them pull a 180 and decide that this wasn't for them after all😆

I SO agree with what you said about R.com....*sigh*....It really is a tragedy that such a brilliant show is not being given a season renewal....they show varying hues to relationships in such an intelligent way....when will we ever find classy, thought provoking entertainment like this on Indian TV again?😕

LOL as for the rest of the 'lowe stories' on desi TV😆😆....they are meant to be more fantasy anyways....but sadly some young impressionable minds actually seem to start naively believing in those stories and thinking that THAT is reality😕😆

Originally posted by: Tasha1985

It really made me reflect on the state of relationships today where "love you forever" has become "love you forever or until I find someone else"😕 .... I mean I could have understood if they had been drifting apart already or if they had been separated or something .... but they were "lovey-dovey-ly" picking out engagement rings one night and 24 hours later they were thinking of ways to break up with one another because they had seen "what they were missing"😕

I was tempted to ask if all relationships have just become akin to picking out clothes or deciding what to have for dinner .... where you're happy with your first choice until you walk through the rest of the store or look through your fridge/cupboard and see that there are more options available to you😕

Originally posted by: incandescence

Personally I don't believe in 'falling out of love' phrase. I feel If you fall out of it then you were never in it. It's not love if it ends. I believe in love...the eternal kind. But unfortunately 'Love' is the most abused word these days. It's used for everything....attraction, desire, convenience, compromise...It's sad but true...

Originally posted by: nureat01

WORD, Mash😉😆.....Love is indeed quite an abused word in today's times....it's used so flippantly and so easily that it gets watered down in meaning....sad but true indeed😆

Maybe there are varying kinds of love....if we speak of eternal kind of love, I don't think one can fall out of it either.....but I guess there can be varying degrees to the emotion as well...hmmm?😆.....Generally I concur with what you said though...ppl put the label of 'love' on emotions that may not be that exactly....maybe they mistake intense attraction/desire and ultimately convenience for Love?

Originally posted by: nureat01

Thanks, Anju :-) We've chatted in the Hard Kaur FC earlier?? I guess that's why your username seems a bit familiar😆

That's a good point you've made....I guess they were indeed settling for each other without fully realizing it....they were on the same page about everything till that point so they never thought there might be trouble in paradise....but meeting very different sort of ppl changed everything for them....which is why I don't think it was forever love to begin with....might have been puppy love initially given that they were both young and ultimately they just got used to each other....until a chance meeting with other ppl made them pull a 180 and decide that this wasn't for them after all😆

I SO agree with what you said about R.com....*sigh*....It really is a tragedy that such a brilliant show is not being given a season renewal....they show varying hues to relationships in such an intelligent way....when will we ever find classy, thought provoking entertainment like this on Indian TV again?😕 Unfortunately,.I dont think that we ever going to..People still want to see flying dupattas and love story and holier than thou bahus🥱...Eg.this particular couple: if it would have been any other serial ,it would one of the the couple backing out and we would all be pouncing on that person 😆😆 ..Instead R.com seriously provides us with a scenario where we end up thinking about the entire thought process of the people and situation involved rather than of thinking one dimensionally..

And ur Bones siggies look lovely...I still have 1.5 season to catch up before I get to the 100th epi...

Originally posted by: incandescence

Hmm...You are right about the varying degrees of love as well...It is indeed possible to love someone more than the others...But lets take the most genuine form of love that we all have encountered...The love that we feel for our family...when have we ever heard 'I fall out of love with my family'? Even if we don't like anything about them...even if they annoy us to hell etc etc, we still love them....I mean that's LOVE....Where there's no actual need for 'I Love You's or holding hands and everything....I know romantically speaking love is taken in a different dimension altogether...but the core emotion 'love' that a person feel is the same...isn't it?

Maybe it all depends on personality as well....I, as a person, love with all I have...so it will be difficult for me to fall out of it...but then it's extremely difficult for me to fall in love for the same reason...For people who fall in love easily, it might be easy to fall out of it too...hmm?