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Hi guys,
I am creating this topic after reading all the things you all have been saying about the last scene on thursday...
Since the day Suman has said that in her heart, only Kartikji is her husband, many people have been blaming Suman for being disgraceful to her first love and husband, Karan.
During the last episode, they showed the "vrath" scene where Suman has fasted for her husband, Kartikji.
Seeing this, people have been saying that Suman is not logic about all this, either she is graceful to her first husband and fasts for him, either she moves on and stops all this "rituals".
Sorry to say this but I disagree with this point of view. I don't really know the story of "Savitri" but I know she did all she could to get her husband back. That's why on that day women fast for the long life of their husbands.
"Savitri" had her case, but everyone doesn't have the same case. Everyone's life is different, with different cases and different twists. How can we compare someone's life with someone else's? This is not right from my point of view.
In each different case, there is a different solution. And there are not only facts to bear in mind, but as I have said in another topic before, there are many psychological matters to keep in mind.
We all have been seeing what kind of tortures Suman was facing after Karan was supposed to be dead.
Also, people use the words "first love" to say all this. Yes Karan was Suman's first love, but let's say that everyone's first love is not the same. We can't compare "Savitri"'s love for her husband with Suman or anyone else's love, because "first love" doesn't happen in the same way for each person.
Last thing, we can't compare "Savitri"'s strenght with someone else, or let's say any woman's strengt with "Savitri"'s. Every person is different.
We can't expect every woman to be exactly like "Savitri", from all sides. It's not right, it's not fair, because everyone has its own qualities and weakness.
"Savitri" was strong, she faced all kind of things to get her husband back. Another woman is not strong enough and can't face her husband's death, she dies after some days. Another woman is a bit more stronger, she brings up her children with bravoure etc.
All I want to say is that every person is different, every person has a diffrent life with different cases and diffrent twists.
Suman did whatever she could with her strenght, when she saw Kartikji was always there for her and loved her, she fell in love. That was her life!
Now about the fact that she shouldn't fast for her Kartikji because he is not her first husband, this is not right either. If she has moved on in life and has another husband now, why can't she fast for him in order that her husband gets a long life?
Let's imagine, a girl marries a man who is supposed to be a very good person, but after the wedding she gets to know he is a very bad person and starts beating her, to the point that her parents don't have a choice and brings her back home. When she gets divorce from that man, she wants to move on and marries a nice person who cares for her. Can't she fast for him so that he gets a long life? Of course she can! It means we are not only supposed to fast for our first husband, are we?
Imagine if Karan was really dead and Suman would have married Kartik, then would it mean she can't fast for him because he is not her first husband and she hasn't been graceful to her first husband by marrying with his brother?
If we say that then it means after a husband's death a woman should only mourn him and not move on in life, and if she does then she can't follow the rituals of "Savitri" and gets discluded from religion. Is this right?
Please reply to this topic and tell me what you all think.
I am creating this topic after reading all the things you all have been saying about the last scene on thursday...
Since the day Suman has said that in her heart, only Kartikji is her husband, many people have been blaming Suman for being disgraceful to her first love and husband, Karan.
During the last episode, they showed the "vrath" scene where Suman has fasted for her husband, Kartikji.
Seeing this, people have been saying that Suman is not logic about all this, either she is graceful to her first husband and fasts for him, either she moves on and stops all this "rituals".
Sorry to say this but I disagree with this point of view. I don't really know the story of "Savitri" but I know she did all she could to get her husband back. That's why on that day women fast for the long life of their husbands.
"Savitri" had her case, but everyone doesn't have the same case. Everyone's life is different, with different cases and different twists. How can we compare someone's life with someone else's? This is not right from my point of view.
In each different case, there is a different solution. And there are not only facts to bear in mind, but as I have said in another topic before, there are many psychological matters to keep in mind.
We all have been seeing what kind of tortures Suman was facing after Karan was supposed to be dead.
Also, people use the words "first love" to say all this. Yes Karan was Suman's first love, but let's say that everyone's first love is not the same. We can't compare "Savitri"'s love for her husband with Suman or anyone else's love, because "first love" doesn't happen in the same way for each person.
Last thing, we can't compare "Savitri"'s strenght with someone else, or let's say any woman's strengt with "Savitri"'s. Every person is different.
We can't expect every woman to be exactly like "Savitri", from all sides. It's not right, it's not fair, because everyone has its own qualities and weakness.
"Savitri" was strong, she faced all kind of things to get her husband back. Another woman is not strong enough and can't face her husband's death, she dies after some days. Another woman is a bit more stronger, she brings up her children with bravoure etc.
All I want to say is that every person is different, every person has a diffrent life with different cases and diffrent twists.
Suman did whatever she could with her strenght, when she saw Kartikji was always there for her and loved her, she fell in love. That was her life!
Now about the fact that she shouldn't fast for her Kartikji because he is not her first husband, this is not right either. If she has moved on in life and has another husband now, why can't she fast for him in order that her husband gets a long life?
Let's imagine, a girl marries a man who is supposed to be a very good person, but after the wedding she gets to know he is a very bad person and starts beating her, to the point that her parents don't have a choice and brings her back home. When she gets divorce from that man, she wants to move on and marries a nice person who cares for her. Can't she fast for him so that he gets a long life? Of course she can! It means we are not only supposed to fast for our first husband, are we?
Imagine if Karan was really dead and Suman would have married Kartik, then would it mean she can't fast for him because he is not her first husband and she hasn't been graceful to her first husband by marrying with his brother?
If we say that then it means after a husband's death a woman should only mourn him and not move on in life, and if she does then she can't follow the rituals of "Savitri" and gets discluded from religion. Is this right?
Please reply to this topic and tell me what you all think.
Anupamaa
