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DiyaS

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Posted: 11 years ago

#21

Originally posted by: Malini1
Diya, amazing write up, kash cv's made Paro to voice her POV for being what she is and why she is doing what she is doing.
Hope the cv's read this and give Paro's point of view to the viewers instead of rushing and messing up her character leaving everything to viewers understanding there by giving scope to disconnect to Paro's character.
Malini

Malini, I wish they would. Part of the problem with the show is the short shrift given to all the other characters. Paro and Mala are the two main female characters, and they have failed to get the sympathy of the audience for either of them ... just a few scenes, flashbacks, monologues would have done the job ... but the writers have just not bothered to justify them The entire show is shown from Rudra's viewpoint, and currently his viewpoint is that of a sulking twelve year old child. So how can the viewers connect to any of the characters?

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DiyaS

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Posted: 11 years ago

#22

Originally posted by: SS88
Wow, this moved me to tears. I know what you're talking about. My aunt passed away about 2 years ago . While she was alive, she and her daughter were infamous for their fights in our family. She suddenly died one night of a heart attack. It's been nearly 2 years, and my cousin has probably cried more than she did in the 20 years of her life before her mother's death. All she says is she regrets she fought so much with her mom.
Mala might be safe in their house, but she can die anytime. Any of us can. And Paro has seen sudden death too many times in her life- first her parents, then Bindi, then her baraat. Not to forget she saw Rudra on the verge of death. I wish the CVs show some of this.

So true, Su ... I know exactly what you mean, having faced similar loss myself ... there is always that feeling of 'could I have done more? Did I tell them enough how much they meant to me?'

Paro's justification for her actions is something the writers have consistently failed to bring out ... she has faced loss repeatedly, time and again ... and she has pulled herself out each time. And she knows that there are times in life when one does not get another chance. She never met her parents after that fateful bus trip. Bindi died because she set up Paro's meeting with Varun, and then saw something she should not have seen. She almost lost Rudra. She knows how useless it is to hold on to old grudges ... life is too precious and too short to do so. Paro knows that well ... she has lost everything time and again ...

I wish the CVs would show this ... 😕

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DiyaS

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Posted: 11 years ago

#23

To everyone who replied here ... thank you. This post was not meant to justify Paro, or to prove her right ... it was only to present her POV and give her a voice ... something that the cvs have consistently failed to do. And also to show that Paro has also been through her share of pain and tragedy ... in many ways, bigger than what Rudra has faced. So if she pushes Rudra to come out of what I can only call his self-pity now ... she has reason to do so ... because she has been there, done that.

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Arshiheartthrob

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Posted: 11 years ago

#24

Wow yaar, this post is FREAKING AWESOME!!!! You have explained Paro's POV so well. Uptill now I also use to think that Paro is just being pushy but not anymore. Thanks to u 👍🏼

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Posted: 11 years ago

#25

How can Mala the mother justified? Those fifteen years when she as happily sleeping in Tejawat's arms, did she spare a thought to her son who was going through hell? Would a mother who does that be glorified? That's where I find Paro at fault,nothing else.

PS. The worst was Mala left Rudra with a abusive father.

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showviewer

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Posted: 11 years ago

#26

Diya, hats off to you! 👏Thank you so much for giving voice to women who have been conveniently ignored in the narration of this story to justify some of their plots. Even though Paro and Mala are fictional characters, it feels good that at least this post gives them some outlet, they got heard.

You are absolutely right, this Mala track failed because creatives failed to show her and Paro's POV. The focus is on their actions not their thoughts, what drives them is not shown. A huge failure on part of writers as this was one of the central track of this show. Right from the beginning this neglect of female characters has brought them to this point of disconnect with the audience. Now all they are left with is rebooting this show by bringing another anti hero and making two men of brawn fight it out.

Very moved by your post. Thank you, but can't shake off this feeling of "what if" and "if only"...

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gilgamesh

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Posted: 11 years ago

#27

👏 👏 👏

Superb Dia! You have provided the insights so sorely missed by the CVs in this show.

Eagerly awaiting your write-up on Mala's behalf.

Edited by gilgamesh - 11 years ago

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showviewer

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Posted: 11 years ago

#28

Waiting to read Mala's thoughts!

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DiyaS

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Posted: 11 years ago

#29

Originally posted by: Harshuu
How can Mala the mother justified? Those fifteen years when she as happily sleeping in Tejawat's arms, did she spare a thought to her son who was going through hell? Would a mother who does that be glorified? That's where I find Paro at fault,nothing else.
PS. The worst was Mala left Rudra with a abusive father.

Thanks for your reply ... good to hear someone ready to discuss.

Again, this is not to justify Paro or Mala ... or to glorify them ... this is just to present their POV. And the writers have NOT SHOWN Mala's or Paro's POV, which is where the whole problem lies. Remember, this is a story, and we are seeing only what the story tellers show us.

How do we know how badly hurt Rudra was about his mother's desertion? Because we have been SHOWN it ... again and again and again. Starting with his breakdown with the soldier's mother ... and multiple times after that.

We have not been SHOWN Mala's POV ... and that is exactly where the lacuna lies. And why we cannot empathise with her.

Why do we feel that she was justified in leaving, even slightly? Because we have been SHOWN that Dilsher abused her.

Now if the cvs show us a few flashbacks of Mala pining for Rudra, seeing Rudra in every child, making multiple attempts to hunt for Rudra and Dilsher, deciding time and again that the moment she gets news of Rudra, she will tell Tejawat and ask his help to get Rudra back, worrying whether Tejawat will accept Rudra, whether Rudra will accept Tejawat, wondering how well Disher is looking after him, and whether she would be selfish in separating him from his dad ... if we saw any or all of these scenes, that would change the entire scenario.

Did Mala know that her son was going through hell? Or did she feel that for thirteen years, while she faced abuse, Dilsher never lifted a hand on his son ... so at least Rudra was safe. And she left Rudra when he was thirteen, not three ... he was old enough to fight abuse ... or would be very soon.

The cvs have shown two very radical tracks for Indian TV ... a woman marrying her husband's killer ... and a woman running away from a bad marriage, instead of staying and bearing up with the abuse. But they have shortchanged their own show by not showing the emotions and compulsions of the women involved ... hence the disconnect.

Why does Paro glorify Mala to Rudra? Because she has seen that despite his mother's abandonment, when Rudra finally spoke about his mother, he only said good things, he only remembered the good times. He never said she scolded him, or that she neglected him. On the contrary, she was so devoted to her son, and he to her, that's why the betrayal hurt so much.