Finally I can relate to Mala and her story ..

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Posted: 11 years ago
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So finally the Mala-Dilsher mystry is solved and somewhere I m relieved now 😆😃 ; It was bothering me that what exactly happened between both and I m so glad CVs finally made it all clear without any doubts 👏👏👏


Now finally I can feel for Mala's character without any assumptions 👍🏼 ; I guess any woman in her place would hv walked out from such a bad marriage ; Mala did try to make their marriage work and even took responsibility of the business when Dilsher lost his leg , but it seems Dilsher never really valued her importance but instead kept taunting her and even physically abused her ; Dilsher was actually a drunkard who lost evenrtything due to his alcohol habit and he also had a male chauvinist kind of attitude towards Mala and so could not tolerate her success later on 🤔

Mala did have a extra marital affair with Tejawat but the affair happened because she was suffocating in a loveless marriage filled with physical violence and so she actually found some peace in Tejawat plus like she said , their love for writing also developed that connection and rest I guess Tejawat was good with his brainwashing act too and so he was smart enough to trap Mala looking at her emotional state of mind 🤔...

So overall I will no more blame Mala now because she did made efforts to make their marriage work but no efforts came from Dilsher and then I guess every woman has the right to walk out on such bad marriage and start a fresh life with someone who actually loves her but mayb it was Mala's bad luck that she got the love from someone like Tejawat who turned out to b a terrorist ...

Coming to Dilsher , I guess he realised Mala's value only after Paro entered Rudra's life and then Dilsher could understand the worth of a wife in any man's life the way Paro handled Rudra and brought him back to life , reason why today we see Dilsher actually feeling guilty for whatever he did to Mala ; He knew that its his fault that the marriage dint work and then just to satisfy his typical male ego , he made Mala look like a vamp in the eyes of his son Rudra since childhood

In short Rudra is the main victim here ... He suffered the most because of a bad marriage between a husband and wife .. He was fed all sort of lies against his mother by his own father and then today when he finally knows the truth , he feels like a lost kid between his mother and father and wonders why was he born in the first place which is so natural for him to think that way 😭😭


If I see from Rudra's POV , then for him both his mother and father r wrong .. His father is wrong for all the lies that he told to Rudra all these years against his mother and his mother is wrong for not making enough efforts to get her son back which she could hv via legal route especially when she knew that her husband was an alcoholic ; So now if Rudra feels both his parents r selfish and never thought about his emotions , can we blame him ?? Its always the child who suffers the most in such cases because both father and mother expects the child to understand their inidividual POVs and in the process the child feels all divided between both 😭😭


I also liked what Paro told Rudra today when he was venting his anger on that punching bag ; Paro tried to make him realise that he may continue to hate his mother but he has no right to talk to a elderly woman in that manner since thats not the Rudra she loved , she loved that Rudra who hated women but always made sure to protect and respect them even if they r wrong 👍🏼 ; Though I m not sure if Paro's nonstop comparison between Mala and her own life is right or not but at least it makes Rudra realise that he should not hv spoken in that tone to an elderly woman who gave him birth ; At least now that Rudra knows the truth , he might see his mother from a different POV and will try to understand her 🤔 ...

Overall I m glad CVs cleared out the Mala story now ... No more confusions left and its only a matter of time Rudra accepts his mother 😃

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SanzBarbie thumbnail
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Posted: 11 years ago
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agree..
that scene of Paro Rudra when Rudra reprimanded Paro for pdemeaning herself was the highlight for me..
he is so possessive of her and i just love it..
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Posted: 11 years ago
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me too glad this is cleared...
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Lovely post Jyoti!
Agree with you completely. 👍🏼
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Posted: 11 years ago
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nice post agree with you...i feel really sory for rudra and mala
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Thank you for such a detailed and well balanced analysis😊
I agree mala had every right to walk away from a abusive relationshie, it is every womans right and we now know that mala did make effort from her end to make the marriaqe work but recieved no support from dilsher.

However, mala had the time and the resources to take her son with her because she new how bitter and abusive dilsher was, whether it was mental abuse or physical abuse, but she did not make the effort. She simply did not try hard enough to fight for her only son when she new about dilsher, she left rudra to put up with all the abuse and poison, which only intensified after her departure.

It would be interesting to see if paro questions mala on that matter because its not exactly rocket science, mother left husband because he was abusive but left her child behined so it only makes sense for anyone to question as to why the mother didnt fight for her child?
But no sure if paro would even think along those lines, what she has been told today is probably alot for her to take in, she might probe mala further but not too much.

Poor rudra, he really has hit rock bottom, betrayed from all sides and to make it worse the betrayal is from his own parents. Cannot really blame him for the state he is in...he really needs some space and time to deal with all this.

I am not sure if it is right for paro to compare her situation with malas, for it does not quite much sense, would be grateful if someone could shed some light on this.
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Great post, both dilsher and mala are equally to blame for how rudra feels rite now.
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Posted: 11 years ago
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Jyothi nice post and agree with you.
So relieved that is over.

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Posted: 11 years ago
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an objective analysis👏

"Those who resort to violence become deaf to the language of reason and blind to the realities that reflect its nuisance. " "Logan Pearsall Smitha"

there are two ways to treat this violence

1- a category of women remains passive due to financial dependence and fear being on the street with these childrens.

2- the other category is looking for an escape and live freely in order to rebuild the physical and psychological damage

in the case of Mala was looking for an escape route thanks to the writing of his thoughts and poetry, the problem she has solved a problem by a big mistake, she abandoned her child with a violent man and a drunkard

I do not judge his actions; Unfortunately, the pain makes us act incoherently, Tejawet is a crafty person, she knew how to influence the mind disturbed Mala😭

The victim is Rudra whose childhood was stolen by a weak mother and a father ungrateful

we shouldn't to compare the incomparable, Paro is not Mala, Rudra despite his hatred and rudeness has never exceeded th red line.

at the end he got to know with treasure that has invaded his life without damaging Paro❤️

Closing Remarks

No woman can tolerate conjugal violence

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Posted: 11 years ago
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Originally posted by: SanzBarbie

agree..

that scene of Paro Rudra when Rudra reprimanded Paro for pdemeaning herself was the highlight for me..
he is so possessive of her and i just love it..



Yup I too loved how Rudra told Paro that he never saw her with those eyes or never thought of her as characterless or anything and he was also about to say how she was always his only and so was not ready to believe she even became a widow .. awww 😳😳

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