WHY Paro Pushes - Page 9

Originally posted by: Harshuu

@NapsterMonster!! Don't you think that it's wrong on paro's part to insist that Mala stay in their room without consulting Rudra ( after all this is his room too ) ? A man comes home tired after work, least he deserves is his own room to relax ,isn't it ? How can Paro decide everything on her own ? I would love to hear Your take on this . Maybe,there is something that I am overlooking which you might be able to shed some light on. Because of this,I am not able to enjoy the show. Thank you.

Originally posted by: napstermonster

Deep:

Every time you comment its always insightful, and well thought out--and this is no exception, as per your usual standards. So here is the thing---I LOVE your point, because its something we should discuss. What is the urgency here? I think the issue with Paro is her complete lack of what I would consider filter. I don't know if I mentioned it in my post, but the girl as no concept of appropriateness, and that is something they have deliberately given to her as a character flaw. In contrast, we have Rudra, who (to balance out her impulsiveness) is nothing if not planned and controlled. He has the opposite problem--he overthinks and chooses to silently absorb and stay un-involved, unless he's dragged into things.

I could point out instances (the BSD ceremony with her love confession for Paro, and his refusal to do anything about Maithli's adoption for Rudra) but lets stick with the mooch-romance. I agree with you regarding the life's smallest moments arguments, the issues of dwelling within the moment. What would it have hurt for Paro to enjoy something I'd have given my left leg to experience in her place? Nothing--but her mind was not in it, even if his was. I've noticed this about her--she blurts out what she thinks, and half the time, it is a one track thought that SHOULD be shelved---but because it is unresolved, she will stick to it, until it is ended.

Id rather have her enjoy herself and really feel the passion, then have half her brain think "hmm..awkward---we are in the angan" and the other half wonder..."Is that Mala behind the pillar watching us?" Of course, when you have a specimen like that looming over you, "majhaal mera dimaag ka" indeed--but realistically, I would have found it odd of them to continue romancing not when her dimaag is so wrapped up with the issue at hand. He was in the mood, she was fascinated by his seduction--but there were too many other things right there, to distract her admittedly one track mind. Not tonight, darling, I have a headache takes on a whole new meaning for me, here!

This aspect of Paro makes for a potential nagging wife, of course, and the CVs now have a hard job navigating the line between adorably determined and shrill fishwife. So far, it has worked (for me) because she does not nag, really, she just makes it almost impossible for him to ignore her. If she had tried to prevent him from leaving for the BSD, insisting he help her out, that would have crossed the line. Instead, she tells him off (and which wife wouldn't in that situation,honestly) and she focusses on what she herself has to do (go out and find Mala). She makes it difficult for him to do his work, sure--but hell, if I was out looking for my husband's missing mother, I'd be indignant too, until he finally gave in.Tejawat IS looking for Mala, she WAS abused. Paro might be irritating--but shes right.

The whole "I wont come home until I find her" smacks of her usual way of approaching anything, --all or nothing. She does not do half measures. If she will accuse someone, it is with every last thing. If she will promise something, it is again with her full life, focus and attention. But yeah---I agree with the gist of your premise--stopping to smell the roses (or the shockingly sexy husband..mmm!) would have gone a long way towards getting THEM, as a couple, on to the next level. Sometimes, duniya (should go) bhaar mein. I hope after consumashion (i am estimating that will happen in early 2017), Paro will realize what the hell she's been missing, and understand the pleasures she just gave up for a hot and tiring car ride!

Originally posted by: napstermonster

Yes, Simple answer, I think it was ridiculously wrong of her to offer her and her husband's bedroom to Mala like this--unless and until there is a motive behind it--like this tyaag of the bedroom resulting in Rudra coming and going from his bedroom. Normally he avoids Mala but if she is staying in his room he will have to see his mother on his bed, in his space, and be made to interact with her in a setting of his childhood bedroom. He will be forced to deal with her, in aplace of memories, where his mother was a constant presence. I don't know if Paro is as devious as I am, because that is something that I would do to psychologically trigger good childhood memories in my Rudra if I was Paro.

The motive could also be (and more likely is) Paro being over-enthusiastic and impulsive and mahan, and this tyaag was done out of unthinking kindness (and its a tyaag-- that angaan has absolutely no privacy for moochwala romance or consumashion of any kind). It it was her being--"Oh Great Mala-Meri Sab Teri Hai, Meri Mahan Mata Rani" I think Paro just majorly stepped over the line. In that case, Paro is being stupid, and I hope Rudra gives her hell for it, for taking away their private space like this. I hope she has to kiss him multiple times for this stupidity, and we get to see every one of those "sorry" kisses in slow motion.


Lets see which one it is--because at the end of the day, I am going to relax and enjoy this--because I need Rudra to deal with his hurt, his pain--and this will bring him a step closer to doing just that. Mala being in his room--the result will be the same. This son loves his mother, and he is a generous, protective man underneath all that gussa and dekhava. He went to search for his mother, and bought her home. He loves her too much to be indifferent to her, even when he hates her. He will be secretly happy being the one to protect her now, by giving her the sanctuary of his bedroom, where she used to sing him to sleep. Maybe, once more, she will do so, and give him the peace she snatched away from him 15 yrs ago. Kya kare, baisa..incurable optimist hu mein, barso se!

Thank you so much Napster for explaining it so beautifully & double ,triple 'thank you' for ' replying '. Yes, now it makes perfect sense. Thank you sooo much.

Originally posted by: showviewer

As I see it both Rudra and Paro go to extremes. Earlier Rudra in his patriotic fervour killed all his witnesses except the innocent one and then threatened, intimidated and locked her up to get a statement of a crime. He came barging into the haveli he quit 15 years ago. Similarly, today Paro in her enthusiasm of being a do-gooder and trying to get the family united is ready to give up their private space without giving it a thought.

Rudra wants to heal, he wants answers but he is not ready to spell it out clearly. There is no way he would have taken Paro to Laila's place and waited for Paro to convince Mala yesterday, he absolutely did not want it. Like in most times he would have forced Paro to leave. He is letting Paro do what he is unable to make himself do right now.

Like someone wrote in another post, we cannot expect either Rudra or Paro to take all the right steps all the time,both have their strengths and weaknesses and when they come together they balance each other out- the protector and the nurturer. We are here to witness their journey as stumble along this path to discover and heal each other.

Maybe as Navinsa pointed out Rudra will have to bump into his Maasa now in the room and at some point a conversation may occur. Paro may also learn a lesson or two about private space. Who would not want character development?

Originally posted by: radhikalaya

Fantastic post. I love Paro, warts, zidd and all (okay, Paro has no warts, I suppose). I don't understand her, but she is perfect for her oonth. That is all.

But I get nothing from Mala... Paro is desperately fighting for her and almost putting her relationship on line (and Rudra is pretty much the only person she has with no other family... nothing) but Mala is.. making kheer and taking over her son and new bride's room. She falls at her sister's feet but makes no serious attempt to speak with Rudra.. seems so half-assed. If she seems like someone who is worth fighting for, Paro's valiant attempts will seem less jarring 😆 Right now Mala is coming across as a slightly whiney person. Not much more.

And I don't think fangurls will ever like Paro. Unless she takes a bullet for Major Saab and dies. Actually they will still hate her, because if Paro dies major Saab will kill himself.

Thanks for writing this post.