Rudra's Reluctance !! - Page 3

Originally posted by: eveline

This is not about Paro's innocence. This is about Rudra's protective instincts for her, which might be misplaced. I am not saying that Paro needs the protection, its just Rudra's who tries to protect her from any kind of harm. Just like Paro was more than capable of taking a slap, she did not need his protection there, but it is Rudra who believes he needs to protect her. Similarly, Paro might be worldly wise, but Rudra would still try to keep her away.

I do not remember Rudra calling her a loose woman ever. Not in any scene till now and especially not yesterday. The only thing he asked Laila to do was to talk to Paro with respect, manners and dignity, staying within bounds of decency...the exact translation of the words...Tameez aur Maryada. Words like loose woman and chaste lady have not been used or mentioned anywhere in this show. Nowhere till now has he ever called her names, or harmed Laila's dignity. And as you have mentioned this, I would appreciate if you mention those words and scenes where Rudra has used them for Laila, in support of ur statement ( I might have missed something here). On the contrary, Rudra has shown a lot of patience, self control and compassion in dealing with Laila's crazed antics. And looking at the fact that he was dealing with a woman, who had tried to disfigure another human, and also tried to kill her, his control was magnificient.

And thinking less of Laila or more or whatever her profession discussion is totally irrelevant to this post. I have never said that I think less of her and neither has Rudra for that matter. Where do these discussions prop from??

Once again, Rudra has not labeled her yesterday or ever before as a loose woman. He has time and again showed extreme patience and control and compassion dealing with Laila and her misplaced and one sided notions of possessive and now murderous love.

And if I understand Rudra correctly, lets wait n watch and I can bet the day he gives Paro the rights to be the woman in his life, is the day he opens every aspect of his life to her. He is not a man to brush things under the carpet, if anything he is the exact opposite of what you have accused him of being, a totally brutally honest man.

I think when you ask someone to speak with tameez and be in their maryada, it does point to the fact that the speaker is not a person who has the above mentioned qualities. Now if we go by that logic, maryada which means decorum. Which decorum? The conversation they had was against the decorum of any "respectable" society and definitely not fit for a lady. So in my opinion, he is inadvertently labeling her as the Scarlett woman. So you don't have to verbally call her names. Sometimes it is more than implied.

If he had said them in support of my statement he would not have contradicted himself in the next instance when he asks her to be in maryada and talk to Paro with tameez.

I think I would not glorify Rudra's self restraint because he was in a relationship with that woman for eight long years. Of course the woman would demand a closure. Break up isn't so easy when you had been in a relationship even if it was a physical one. The woman is hurt. She demands answers. So I am not going to applaud him for his marvelous self restraint here. He was very much at fault for springing it on her his plans of impeding marriage. If you are in a relationship for so long, it is expected that your ex would at least have the decency of letting you know that the relationship is over and /or he is getting married to someone else. that is according to me is basic courtesy.

I never said you think less of a woman because of her profession or her Chasity or lack of it, dear Please re read my comment. I am presenting my POV on the way Rudra's mind might be ticking. I am not making any personal comments here. I apologize if you feel so.

I think when you ask someone to speak with tameez and be in their maryada, it does point to the fact that the speaker is not a person who has the above mentioned qualities. Now if we go by that logic, maryada which means decorum. Which decorum? The conversation they had was against the decorum of any "respectable" society and definitely not fit for a lady. So in my opinion, he is inadvertently labeling her as the Scarlett woman. So you don't have to verbally call her names. Sometimes it is more than implied.

If he had said them in support of my statement he would not have contradicted himself in the next instance when he asks her to be in maryada and talk to Paro with tameez.

I think I would not glorify Rudra's self restraint because he was in a relationship with that woman for eight long years. Of course the woman would demand a closure. Break up isn't so easy when you had been in a relationship even if it was a physical one. The woman is hurt. She demands answers. So I am not going to applaud him for his marvelous self restraint here. He was very much at fault for springing it on her his plans of impeding marriage. If you are in a relationship for so long, it is expected that your ex would at least have the decency of letting you know that the relationship is over and /or he is getting married to someone else. that is according to me is basic courtesy.

I never said you think less of a woman because of her profession or her Chasity or lack of it, dear Please re read my comment. I am presenting my POV on the way Rudra's mind might be ticking. I am not making any personal comments here. I apologize if you feel so.


Oh no...please don't apologize. I am the one that has kind of lost patience with the lines drawn in this forum. Seems there is a split wide open and that leads to frustrations. So no...I apologize. Again it depends on personal interpretation. My view is that Rudra knowing how Laila had been lately had just been warning her to keep a check on her temper, her behavior and her tongue. Her behavior had been totally irrational and so he was asking her to check impulsive temper tantrums be it her words or her actions. And he did not want to have such conversations in front of Paro, and that is precisely the point of my post. He was asking Laila to shut up because he did not want Paro to be privy to their private equation and I could understand his reluctance. According to me he has never by words or actions, implied or otherwise, relayed that he thinks less of her or does not honor or respect her. If he did not, he would not go to such lengths to reason with her, explain to her. Rudra is notorious for his I don't owe any explanations to anyone attitude. In Rudra's defense, he has tried to explain every time she brings it up and if I am not wrong, he again tried to explain his marriage and its terms...but she just cut him off saying, I don't care, I see what is visible. So he has tried to explain, but the woman just refuses to listen. And Rudra's perspective about this relationship is different. He clearly left her in Jaipur, he broke off then, even before Paro's entry in his life. Laila followed him around, so his owing her an explanation sounds out of context. Also it was clearly understood and repeatedly mentioned that it was a not strings attached relationship, Rudra was very clear from his side, no frauds or false promises, Laila's falling in love can be understood but it is not fair either. Their relationship had certain rules and u cant change the rules in the middle of the game just to suit your current state of mind or heart. That's wrong in a way too.

Lovely take eve and I agree with your viewpoint ...this is how I see the situation too 😊

i was thinking the same..and then i reached on conclusion that Rudra has actually started soft feeling towards Paro and he respects paro alot...😊