Originally posted by: SheAish
I've been trying to keep away from forcing my comments on your posts since you got a little peeved with me when I was zealously defending Ahil at the latter weeks of Q2.
I still feel quite sorry that I managed to get you so offended considering how patient you are at this forum...
Anyways...after reading all the comments here I realized one thing. I think there is small divide in how some of us Sahilians view the situation with Shaad and Jannat from the very beginning and it has still remained so...
For some of us like me, what ever Shaad's other actions are, his actions with regards to Jannat has been that of a negative character.
Him being touchy feely with her while duping her into believing he is her husband is one such action...An average person or even a grey character would be shown to resist and try and be less touchy and keep a distance with her even if he fell in love with her because he knows that it is not consented by her and thus would feel like he is molesting her in this case.
Shaad does not show any guilt or reservations about doing this to her at all.
Him closing the missing persons file was a calculated decision to keep her from getting back to her family and her identity so he can live the lie with her...Here again no show of guilt or feeling conflicted about what he is doing to her about taking away her rights is show by Shaad. Infact he is very happy in the narrow world her had created for her which just includes him and the present with no identity or family of her own.
Feeding her more lies and discounting her FBs and dejavu feelings are adding stress to her mental health so much that even he himself acknowledges that remembering her past is distressing her. What is not acknowledged is how instrumental he is in keeping her in this traumatic state and instead is just giving her medication for the surface symptoms...
KK, Minnie, Juhi, Mandy, Michy, Simmy, Me and a few others see these actions as dangerous and inhuman towards a human being.
Yes he is providing her with food, shelter, clothing and medication and even companionship, but to the extent that it serves his purpose and need to keep her with him and nothing beyond that...
Now Ahil has figured out that Shaad is lying to her about her marriage to him, so he an clearly see Shaads actions with regards to her mental stress and his lies and Ahil can also see Shaad touching and living together with her in a compromising and violative situation for a girl to be in.
Given how we see these actions of Shaad, as harmful and exploitative we expect Ahil as the only one aware of the situation of Sanam right now, to show urgency and clear perspective in dealing with it. So we are dissapointed and cannot relate to this Ahil.
I can see that for some of you guys Shaads actions is more seen with respect to commiting a mistake out of his love for her and being a little selfish about it in the process, but is not seen as exploiting Jannat in the process. I gues you guys find the PDA by Shaad unsettling because Sanam is a married woman and not simply because she is a woman being forcibly placed in a compromising touchy feely situation with a random stranger without a choice.
If I look at this divide I guess Gul and the team has not done too bad with regards to convincing the audience about Shaad and his character and infact has succeeded in down playing the issue of a woman being conned into living with a man away from family and her true identity as his wife as not so grave an issue...
Or maybe few of us who see this as such a grave and huge issue, are taking things too seriously and being too sensitive about it..
But one thing I am absolutely sure about is, in real world any women we see in this situation would be seen as a victim of kidnapping and exploitation and he will be treated like a criminal by the society.
So sorry you have been avoiding me... truly all was in good cheer. I don't take offense at all really. You are as entitled to your opinion as anyone else.
I actually wrote a long reply and my browser swallowed it...
I have a (bad?) habit of compulsively trying to see the other side of the story. Which is sort of seen as indecisive, or having a lack of conviction in my opinions. I simply don't react to situations without knowing the complete story.
But I do have good friends who like Shaad, and I don't wish to upset them with my harsh words. Let's put it that way. I have quite a few non aggressive arguments with them, because I don't see what they see in Shaad.
He started of with promise, but with that one lie, and continued encouraging of that lie with more lies, he discredited himself as a protagonist.
Like Soup says, " He is neither hero or a villain. " He is simply a character with shades (pardon the pun!) So, just as questionable as Saif.
Why is alright that Saif (fiance of Nazia) is openly flirting and in fact actually sleeping with Sanam2, considered good chemistry and entertaining. But not so with Shaad and Jannat? When they are in fact quite chaste apart from those contentious face holding? Why didn't RaHaFa bother us this much?
I'll tell you why.
Because we are watching for Aahil and Sanam.
We care about them, and we hate the things that separate them, whatever it is.
We can't stand anything coming in their way and robbing them of each other.
I am invested in SaHil, as I was with AsYa before.
I cannot see a ShaJan, because half of that ship is in my OTP. It feels like EMA to me (yeah, I know what that means now😆).
Multiple ships don't sit well with me, for the same girl...
So, I don't want Sanam to be with Shaad. I wanted her to be torn between two men who love her, and to follow her heart. But Shaad's lies have given him a HUGE disadvantage to actually be a contender.
Not only has he claimed to be her husband, but also made up stories of how they met, and how they got married, etc. More lies to cover that one lie.
And then he went and fell for her. Now he wants to make it real. He's only now about to make his feelings clear to her, and say "I love you" and to make her fall for him.
Completely ignoring her dejavu, and talk of another man she keeps having vague recollections about. Apart from the missing person report (which he later cancelled), he didn't really attempt to help her find her family.
What he is doing reeks of kidnapping, because she is not there of her own will. I won't deny that. Just because her captor is kind and is gentlemanly, doesn't make the deception go away.
I am waiting for the moment where she realizes Shaad is no one to her, and she will feel so angry and resentful and furious !! This is what makes me feel ill everytime I see Shaad and Jannat together. (I actually wrote half an OS about this, but didn't get a chance to finish it...)
Like KK has said, It's not about sex. It's the intimacy. The intimacy afforded to husband by a wife. It is not easily given by a woman, so it's being cheapened here. The only way out without confessing his lie is to remarry Jannat, so to make it official.
I am not taken by looks or instant chemistry. I followed SaHil's story, and I love them for their story. SJ can have chemistry with anything, she's that good.
But this forum is made up of many opinions, and I guess I'm careful with my opinion because the story is still unfolding and I don't have the whole picture.
Trust me , what I say here on the forum is not necessarily what I project in real life.
In real life I'd be knocking down Shaad's door and taking Sanam to a doctor for treatment and helping her find her family. Proactively.
So, yeah, our opinions don't really differ to much.
But I do believe, that if Shaad were to find out Aahil's Sanam is in fact Jannat, he would back off...
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