Asad is still a jerk :/ - Page 3

Originally posted by: sarbrathan

So would you rather he manhandled and slapped her in private? The fact he did it publicly gives me hope that he isn't an abuser, but rather anger. Violence isn't the answer, but the yesterday's situation wasn't as simple as that.

He was reacting to Zoya and everyone knows his nature... You are painting him in an unfair light. He is not an abuser and he loves Zoya. I think he needs anger management issues but considering the fact his father was murdered and someone is defending the murderer (in his eyes) his reaction is reasonable enough. Asad's behaviour is wrong from a rational pov, but humans are emotional especially in situations of life and death.

Human beings are more emotional than rational. Decisions are made with reason but reactions are based on emotions

Originally posted by: angel_juhi04

I am a girl n how can u say dat I mean Asad sud abuse her in public? You kept saying "in public," "in public" as if the fact it happened "in public" made it worse! It didn't! People saw and later people will talk to him and get him therapy (although it won't happen in Qubool Hai because it isn't a logical show).

I just want to say dat if a person claiming to love u manhandles u n tries to slap u in public cud never be trusted. He vl not hesitate to abuse u weneva he wants. I heard somewhere dat 'jis din koi insaan aap par haath uthaaye to vo insaan nahi rehta hai'. I have never physically hurt anyone and I won't stand for it BUT life is black or white. Life is grey. You and I can think rationally about this because we are detached (and I hate Rashid), but for someone who's father was murdered... he/she will have an emotional response.

Y he never slapped Tanveer? Y he only slaps Zoya? He is still takn her for granted. So it is okay to hit some people but not others? Your moral code is contradicting because if you believe in the black and white world, hitting Tanveer is wrong too. In my opinion, Tanveer should have been pushed (I hate the word manhandled because it implies only men can be strong and aggressive, which is sexists to both sexes). I said life is grey, you are the one fighting for black and white. Your argument is flawed, if it is okay to use violence THEN why is it wrong for Asad to be anger when someone who he loves ACTUALLY DIES vs. almost died (Zoya in all of Tanveer's attempts)?

In Punar Vivah, Yash slaps Ishita twice- once for trying to kill Aarti n d other time for trying to kill his 2-3 months old son Aayu. I have only watched two Indian serials DMG and Qubool Hai, so don't know but again you are contradicting yourself.

Tanveer tried to kill Zoya many times but he never slapped her. Zoya sud slap him hard dis time n leave him forever. He never loved her truly. After so much happened, how can he manhandle her n slap her publicly. Haider stopped him dis time 4m slapping her otherwise he wud hv slapped her dis time too dat wud get her insulted. Again on a roll in contradictions! Zoya can slap Asad and Asad can slap Tanveer BUT Asad can't get anger😕 When Asad slapped Zoya the first time, I hated the resolution in the show (a stupid dance sequence). I know even now they won't do a proper one...

By d way, our thoughts r same most of d time. Wat is ur real name?

Originally posted by: sarbrathan

my replies

Overall, I don't condone violence and I wear white ribbon (violence against women) but equally I think women SHOULD NOT abuse men. People should be in-tuned with their emotions and solve problems with words. Humans are emotional and that's why emotional intelligence is important. I don't have anger issues like some people I know, but I take a step back when I get angry. As soon as a little part of me recognizes I am upset and angry, I distance myself to deal with and vent. Later when my thoughts are proper, then I engage. Most people don't do what I do. Asad has changed over the course of the series. Do you not remember what he said in the beginning of the episode? "I understand it was important for you to go, but you should have called" and then he was listening to her explanation! It wasn't until he saw his father's stabbed body, Gaffur in the balcony and Zoya's constant "he didn't do it," that he lost it.

Originally posted by: angel_juhi04

My point is women can be slapped wen she really does sumthn worse like harming or killing someone. But y Asad only slaps Zoya who is innocent n does not harms anyone? I never said Asad's anger is not justified but he sud control his body movements. He can get angry but still he sud not hv manhandled her n raised his hand on her? If he does it in public, he can do it again. I want Asad to apologize to Zoya before d same people cuz wen Zoya vll go outside d people vl say dat how her husband treats her. Asad sud get angry but he has no right to say dat she has not changed. He has committed much more mistakes than her. I agree! The thing about public is that it is safer and better. See people can judge actions better in a group than individually. Imagine if the same thing happened in their room:

• Zoya wouldn't tell anyone,
• Zoya would just forgive Asad like all those times before and
• Zoya will continue to be mistreated.

Now since it happened in public, after the storm passes (again if Qubool Hai shows logic) Dilshad or Najma or someone can say something. For me public is better because I can hope someone will report it.

I am even finding Zoya annoying. Zoya was d 1st young woman to talk wid Gaffur rudely in his own house n drive him 4m his own room. How can Zoya always forgive everyone? I sud say dat she sud not even hv forgiven Asad wen he slapped her in d hospital? He did not lukd like Dilshad's son. Is a male lead supposed to be shown like dat n female lead as dumb? How can Zoya forgive Asad every time? Is she really a modern NRI? Zoya kept on teln Gaffur like stupid dat wateva mistake he has he can be forgiven n everyone does mistakes? Agree with all of this

Oh really Zoya? He is d same man destroyed Asad's family n separated RaDil. How were u feeling wen u were separated 4m Asad many times? How do u feel weneva Tanveer sets her eyes on Asad? But ur abbu made Dilshad share Rashid wid another woman? Y don't u share Asad wid Tanveer? Zoya, just shut up n get a life. In other serials, however traditional n rural d heroine, she wud hv not even hugged Gaffur let alone crying n forgiving him if she was in place of Zoya. But don't y Gul is spoiling Zoya's character n making her dumb? DISAGREE! The only thing GaZia every did to Rashid was take away his choice in which woman he wants to spend his life with and which woman he wants to have a fling with. Rashid started his affair with Shireen and Gaffur protected his ward sister (still find that a bizarre concept). Talk about the jean & Asad hating, and him being an overall MCP.

How can Zoya just keep on yelling dat her abbu can't commit such a crime? Dear Zoya, ur abbu helped Razia in murdering ur ammi, planned Dilshad's murder along wid Razia n agreed to get u murdered. He only stopped cuz he came to know u r his daughter otherwise 2day also he can murder anyone. Zoya baby, open ur eyes n see d truth. So stop siding wid ur abbu n give Asad a tight slap for taking u granted n trying to slap u for d 2nd time. Dis time Zoya sud leave Asad cuz he always takes her for granted. Zoya doesn't know this and again if QH follows logic, then that revelation will shatter Zoya even more because that was her characterization. There are some things that are characteristics for Asad it's anger and for Zoya it's forgiving nature.

Originally posted by: SimplySmile

Can someone please tell me as to how he tried to manhandle her?, I am a bit of a whimp, so I will not watch Zoya getting insulted and accused once again

Originally posted by: SimplySmile

Can someone please tell me as to how he tried to manhandle her?, I am a bit of a whimp, so I will not watch Zoya getting insulted and accused once again