Originally posted by: QueenOfMyCastle
But suja...the mother who does not hit is not necessarily a good mother either. Its different strokes for different people. We all have our ideals and we all want to follow it. Some of us are just weak (due to circumstance or whatever) or have our weak moments.
But how u handle the aftermath is most important. I realize that I am wrong, but I don't stop at that. I make it a point to explain to my kids that what I did is wrong and I am sorry for it. I also make it a point to explain to them why I reached that point and what their contribution was. Does it mean, I always resort to physical punishment. Nope, its rare, like I said, I reach my breaking point and thats when it happens. Do I try the discipline methods my parents had used, ofcourse I do.Do they work? very rarely. I read up on other recommended approaches, some work, some don't, some stop working after the first few times, some start working after a few attempts. Like someone said, kids don't come with a manuals.
One example of when the younger one gets punished - he throws things. My S4 gets thrown a few times a day. Earlier today, he threw my keys at his older brother, right at his eyes. I am sorry, at that point I had to intervene since he could have very well blinded my other kid. He does not understand why its wrong to throw. But he knows and understand pain. KWIM?
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