What a self-serving ass! - Page 24

Originally posted by: QueenOfMyCastle

Arrey what's the point of regretting when u repeat the same mistake...😆Anyways. I am hot headed and suffer from some depression type issues and hence I lose control. I could go back to my happy meds but am too afraid to approach a doctor for them. It was easier in US.

Ek aur baat bolti hoon...bura mat mannana. Unless you have personal experience being in the other person's position,do not judge them or their actions. When I was younger, I used to get so upset when the kids on the plane would cry non-stop and felt that the parents were useless, not caring for the child, not doing anything about the disturbance caused to the other travelers. The first time I traveled with my child, I was afraid of being that parent who could not handle their crying child. I am fortunate, my kids are excellent travelers, but now being a parent, I don't mind staring down a person who is giving the stink eye to a helpless mother whose child is crying non-stop in flights.It's cause my experience has taught me that if that mother could really help it, she would want nothing more than a happy child.

Don't get me wrong, it's easier to preach and judge when you have not had that experience. I have many such examples of women who have felt that as a parent they would never- fill in the blank. And then they find themselves doing it. Not because they want to, coz that's really the only option left to them.

Originally posted by: VashH

No offence. But people will never admit their mistakes and they will never be corrected . Everyone retaliated and was right in every answer . To much failed families and they all start with abuse
Sorry but I will never intentionally disrespect the forum . This is my second home a place-where I can educate myself further. I consider everyone here my own but all I'm all ., the answers were all positive.
I always got my boys to open up to me by opening up a negative debate . reason why we understand each other so well today .

Originally posted by: starsinmyeyes

Thanks but no thanks...we have better things to do than get u shot and go to prison for someone we haven't even met😊

Well...that's good for you...we never said u are an unaccomplished mother...u deduced it..we just have a different way of looking at things...and for someone as mature and sensible as u to use the tone and language you do...it's unbecoming..of a mother..and most importantly a woman...main aapke sabse chhote bete se bhi chhoti hoon umra mein...ho sake toh bado waala badappan dikhayiye..and kyunki aap mujhse badi hain and undoubtedly zyaada duniya dekhi hai aapne, I am sorry for having used a condescending tone with u...and I mean it😊

Originally posted by: starsinmyeyes

That's ok Rivs...😊

I am not judging anyone girl...it's just maine apne ghar mein hote huey dekha hai and ab us bacche ke paas kuch positive nahi hai apne parents ke liye kehne ko...so yes...I believe it is wrong...jis din main apne bacche pe haath utha doongi us din yahan aake I will admit...but until then..it's wrong to me...

And...jinhone yeh mudda start kiya...she is a very accomplished mother...she sparked off a negative debate...😊..to get our views out on this

Originally posted by: VashH

Thanks
What language
Anyways I am sorry . In this neck of the woods the language is normal
We have to explain it to the kids . Will not speak it with each other but the moment they step out the door they are faced with worst . Should I send them out to face the world blind folded ?

Originally posted by: QueenOfMyCastle

I read...I have always admired that person. She is very good during discussions on other threads and gets across her points well. I was kinda shocked when I saw your discussion with her.

And I agree. My cousin was hit a lot, and I have seen first hand the after effects of it. Which is why I know wrong from right. 😃

Originally posted by: anushreemishra

I have no idea what to say but yes i have handled my cousins a lot and yes i am no where close to a mother's role but they just listen to me when i ask them too😆

i guess i will face the harsh reality later 😆

Originally posted by: sujataraje

i agree with shru... i can not bet that i can be good mother...but i have a good mother and she is best mother for me one can have...so when i will commit mistakes in future and fail as mother or do something wrong to my kids...i will know that i am wrong..and whats are other way to handle things because i had seen and experienced it with my mother,,,,,so yes...even that will be enough for me to guide on a right path...