Asad & Zoya: Late Bloomers in Love
Hi everyone,
I am back with my weekend post. Before I start, I just want to clarify that this is entirely my opinion and you are welcome to refute it and give your point of view.
Asad and Zoya have had an unusual journey since the inception of this show. They are not your typical couple where boy meets girl, gets attracted, pursues her, she resists and then one day, they confess, get married and THE END.
Asad and Zoya are what I would call as LATE BLOOMERS in the world of love, romance and expression.
Asad and Zoya are not your typical characters that one relates to from movies, books or real life. They are quirky, strange and react in unusual ways to a given situation. That's why the way they express their emotions, specifically love, is also different.
For a child, their early foundations to attachment and expression are a result of a loving, intact family. While, both Asad and Zoya were loved as children, they were also products of a broken family where their fathers abandoned their mothers. Growing up, neither of them has seen what real love between couples is (I am keeping aapi-jeeju out of this equation.) Both have spent the bulk of their childhood craving for their dads. They expressed their craving differently.
Asad- by anger and Zoya- by daydreaming.
I doubt, as teenagers, if they ever had crushes or infatuations for the opposite sex. Yes, Zoya did make a list but I think it was just an extension of her daydreaming and longing to be pampered.
This early attraction in teenagers is usually guided by biology and evolving emotions. Because, both Asad and Zoya were so preoccupied with their abandonment issues, I feel they never went through either of these reactions.
That's why, now that they are together and realize they love each other, can't be away from each other, their reaction is a little different from most couples.
Even going back to the beginning of the show, we all know that Asad was attracted to Zoya the first time he saw her. For him, this was a new emotion he had probably never felt before. How did he express it? With anger and harsh words. Even though he was immensely attracted to Zoya, he berated her, manhandled her and pushed her away at every instance. It's only in Mangalpur; we witnessed what his real feelings were. Even Zoya was taken by surprise when she saw his sensitive side but she didn't know what to make out of it.
Zoya probably felt that initial attraction for him too but what did she do? She distracted herself with goofy things, shayari, helping others, meddling in his issues but she never sat back to reflect why she was doing all this?
Bhaang helped both of them break out of their respective shells and express what they were actually going through but once it wore off, they were back to square one. Of course, Tanveer's entry at that juncture worked as a catalyst. We all know their journey through Tanveergate days and now that I look back, Tanveer was the best thing that could have happened in their love life.
Now that they are together and ready to get married, we are all complaining about that lack of passion and expression. I think it's just an extension of their 'late bloomers' stage of development.
Right now, they are going through the phase what most teenagers go through when they initially fall in love with someone. Asad is indulging her teenage fantasies and she is reliving them through his actions. That's why the sweet talk, hand holding, stargazing, moon gazing and dancing are their best ways to express that love for each other. It's sweet and comfortable for both of them.
Yesterday's hook scene of course took Asad and Zoya both by surprise. After all, it's biology and one can't escape that natural physical sensation when one is so attracted to another person.
Perhaps, the hook scene might act as a catalyst here but because they are late bloomers, it will take them time to realize what these feelings actually mean and how they would act on them.
This is where (I feel); Zoya's experience with Ghafoor will help as a catalyst. After finding her abbu and his reality, she will mature from a young teenage girl with dreams about her abbu to a woman with no illusions about that man she has revered all her life.
That's why we need to give our late bloomers time to mature. Let's not be impatient and have biology and emotions guiding them in a natural manner…AsYa will get there for sure. Yes, they will even become parents one day but only after they have overcome their own childhood issues.
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