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Posted: 12 years ago
#21
Im usually one of those ppl who always jumps straight to Asads defense when such scenario arises and these are posts against him...this time Im disappointed too. Asad has crossed the limit. He treated Zoya like dirt today. Zoya is someone he is supposed to be in love with right now yet he has failed to remember some of the significant details about her.
Number 1: Zoya always likes to help ppl, always in action
Number 2: She has a phobia for fire
Number 3: Whenever she doesnt get a say for her action-he is always wrong
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: shreya11mehra

hy dear frst of all thnx fr pm me fr da first tym...

yeah evn m goimg thru da same flings ...

means if aapi z here...asad ko sikati rhegi...kk aftr nikaah she vl go bck...thn asad phr se zoe ko aise treat krege...i mean WDF...

every prsn sud undrstnd his or hr limitatiom in every relationshp...ap khud h beizzat krege apne fiance ko dusro k samne to nothng z left...asad seriously need a stick nw...jb aapi ne akal sikayi to anso chale aye...vaise continously zoe ki bdi achi izzat kr rh th ap...
a.man sud knw hw to respect a gal..fiance to rhne h dijiye..as a prsn h rspct kr dijie..vh bht hai...

one more thng..being a law student...hume ye sikaya jata hai k jo sbse pehele dkte h samaj aye vo pehele samjo...agtr dat baal ki khal nikalo..asad miya z blind in frndshp...vo jo pehele dikta hai..vo to dafa krte hai...jo bd mai schna chaiya vo pehele sch k judgment pas krte hai...

so intelligent...m sooo diappointed today wid asad...

Sorry😆...actually I send PMs rarely...m lazy😆
So true...this way Asad wud need a third person for lifetime to make him understand wat Zoya is going through n she was not at fault!!!
Very true...A man especially Asad, who boasts of tameez n Tehzeeb everytime shud clearly know how to respect his fiance n not to insult her in public!! But he doesn't leave a single chance!!
He is very very Jugdemental, like Zoya always says, n his judgements are always wrong!!!👎🏼
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Posted: 12 years ago
#23

Originally posted by: neha2607

Couldn't agree more. I'm sick of giving Asad benefit of doubt time and again.

Its high time now, he should realize that no matter what, one can't blame someone again and again without even knowing the whole truth.
So many times Zoya have had that fire nightmare. How on earth can Asad forget that. And even if he doesn't know about her phobia, he should have asked Zoya what had gone wrong instead of shouting at her.
And that chudail, the look she was giving Zoya...Go die b*itch

Its getting on my nerves now and if this continues I will stop watching QH till the time CV's find their lost brain.

Tanveer is Asad's chidhood friend, she was hurt...he care's for her. Fine acceptable but that doesn't give him the right to insult/shout at the girl he claims to love.

Any girl with lil bit of self-respect will not tolerate such a behavior, not again and again atleast...even if she loves the guys, there's a limit to it.

he needs to learn to recognize the true character of a person, and this I think is a really necessary character trait everyone must hav...
I too love my frens, but I just don't trust anybody blindly neither do believe each n everything they say...wen we know sum1 for years, we get used to the positives n negatives of that person and hence believe them accordingly...
whereas Asad is a blnd believer of each and everything tanveer says...he doesn't feel the need to go by the logic n think from his own mind instead of Tanveer's...wen will he use his own mind???
He is acting really really dumb now!!
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Posted: 12 years ago
#24
exactly, and how long will Aaapi or Dilshaad be around to clear misunderstandings, this scold then apology track really sucks.
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Posted: 12 years ago
#25
He says he loves zoya..well i don't think soo..if you love someone you remember their minute details clearly.. how the hell can he forget she is scared of fire.. she had once shared with him.. and why is zoya tolerating such behaviour?? Its high time girl u better speak up and fight for your self respect..u jus cant let him insult you all the time..
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: shreya11mehra



u vl not talk to him fr 5 days...wao...vl dump him..n vl say..go n learn lsns abt limitations n hw to rspct a gal...

tameez tehzab k lecture lekr aye janab...phr kisi k sath nikaah k kabil bnege

I can't let go of my love like that...m very possessive about that...but I very well know how to keep him in his limits!!!
Ek din k liye if I become Asad's fiance, I'll show him wat all a girl is capable of😆
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Posted: 12 years ago
#27

Originally posted by: nupsie

I am super pissed with the episode...I know ppl will say why Asad everytime is blamed and all...!!

Nupsie babes u r not alone we all are in same state.😡

But how long???
For how long can u keep hurting someone and saying SORRY??? Doesn't Sorry mean that u will not repeat the same mistake again???
He treated her like an outsider today!!

Exactly...there was no need of that kind of behaviour.he should have understand the fact that zoya's presence is not related to tanveer's revelation about her killer.but being Asad he is not allowed to use brains .😡
I wish he could have said to tanveer that zoya is family and you can tell whatever you want to😊

But again this is jammy speaking not Asad.😡
That disgusting and annoying look he gave wen Zoya entered Tanveer's room was too much!!!
I hate to say this but he behaved as if Tanveer is his wife and Zoya has entered their bedroom without knocking🤢

Word.
I believe that they are soul antes and I am in love with ASYA otherwise this jammy actually deserve tannnuuu. only.😆
Everytime he knows half the truth, he will shout on her, insult her infront of everybody, n then comes and says Sorry in a closed room!!
He says little when he actually needs to talk but when he needs to shut his mouth he ends up saying meanest things to zoya.😡

He was upset with her bcoz she cudn't pass a shawl🤢, I mean, is that a reason to insult someone like this n tell her to stay away from Tanveer (n yeah even want Zoya to stay away from Tanveer, for her own benefit)

That shawl oh my god I can't believe he is blaming zoya for that thing...I mean how could a normal person do it.


P.S. - Thanks to Aapi...but still...he can't keep continuing such behavior and then shed tears wen he comes to know the truth!!!
And I am being very realistic...no girl with self-respect wud ever tolerate that!!!
It's such a relief to have aapi here...she needs to give him reality check
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He seriously needs to prioritize who is more important to him...for me, I beieve that one shud hav a limitation in frenship wen he is in a relationship with someone...n here he is going to get married to Zoya now...his frend lives in the same house...he insults his fiance everytime for his frend...n I knw everyone says coz he doesn't knw the truth...Right...he doesn't knw the truth that Zoya has a fire Phobia..still he treats her like this??🤢
U can not mess up one relation because of other..and this is exactly what jammy Ahmed khan is doing.no one gives right to insult any person in front of anyone.
P.P.S. - After reading so many positive posts, I had started to believe that Asad is playing Tanveer...but no...he is still the same !!

No way ...anyways I don't understand the fact that Asad remembers all Mitawaa moments and other stuff about zoya as he loves her a lot then how cud he forget about her fire phobia..he has witnessed her nightmares,her reaction seeing fire once and most important she herself told him about in detail...
Asad don't test my patience...
You can't keep hurting your loved once just because you know they will not stop loving you..
You say sorry and people forgive you.dont take advantage of it you never know when things change.

And well written nupsie 👏

Edited by sujataraje - 12 years ago
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Posted: 12 years ago
#28

Originally posted by: realitybites

The cycle of insult/humiliation has been consistently repeated since the beginning. Asad has always been rude and mean towards her, always passing scathing remarks " aap badtameez hai"😕 He sounded more like that than her!😡 He has always blamed her, rebuked her and then later on said sorry? does that really negate everything? What about the hurt? Is it nice that Zoya keeps feeling hurt and treated like a doormat and continue to yearn for Asad's affection? Can a real woman do that?
Its high time Zoya stood up for herself. Nikaah or no Nikaah-her self worth is more than that. CVs better put an end to such regressive behavior. Every person has right of self respect. NO one is allowed to take that away.
Misrepresentation and lack of regard for feelings of woman has always been the trademark of hindi serials and unfortunately women viewers lap it up🤢🤢.
A loveless or conspired marriage is taken as exciting and worth watching for?😲😡 A confession must lay the foundation of trust and integrity between the couple rather than compromise or deceit. Its time for people to respect Marriages and not use them a game.


True...The worst part is time and again this is what happens in Indian Serials and the viewer [mostly women] are the one's who enjoy it. Till now, I've alwaya given Asad benefit of doubt but there's a limit to it.
Tanveer is his childhood friend...he is concerned for her...acceptable enough but that does not give him the right to insult anybody be it his lady love or even a stranger as a matter of fact.
I don't understand what are the cv's trying to portray...Is this some kind of a master-slave relationship ?? Where the master keeps on ordering and the slave listens to every single thing without even uttering a word.

Asad claims to love her...what kind of a love is this where you don't even trust your partner a bit. Anything wrong happens, Zoya is to be blamed...If you think she is the reason for every wrong, just ask her to leave forever...
The cv's are not only ruining the whole plot but also the characters.
Asad who is so insensitive and Zoya who doesn't care about her self-respect just because the person accusing her time and again is the guy whom she loves.
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Posted: 12 years ago
#29
I agree with you completely! I loved Asad and his protective nature towards those he cares about but this was the limit today (though I'm sure it's the first stop on the crazy train)
While Asad is wearing Harry Potter's cloak of invisibility (read friendship card) he honestly feels like he can talk to Zoya any which way he wants and she'll be ok with it? He checked himself in time because Zoay's aapi walked up behind her or else what? He would have shouted at her in the hospital? You could see he was getting tensed when he was about to reply to his mother. Is he flexing his haaq?
I apologize up front to everyone for this but the mitwaa moment today when they touched hands did nothing for me but made me upset. It was not the right moment for that at all. What was he going to do? Berate her, look deeply into her eyes and then as soon as Tanveer clear's her throat then what? Yell at her again?
I get the fact he is concerned for his friend and wants to help Tanveer get justice but his behaviour with the woman he is supposedly in love with does not gel with how he reacted with her today. He was not even concerned at the hospital to have Zoya checked out from the fall - uhm hello wasn't SHE almost killed a few hours ago too?
I don't believe that Asad has a clue about Tanveer either. He's just so stuck on being in saviour mode that he doesn't realize how he's alienating Zoya.
I don't want to see them get married like this. I want Asad to respect Zoya and ask her to accept him before they get married. Yes he loves her, yes he's mesmerized by her beauty but when it comes to respecting her heart, trusting her judgement or even having faith in her abilities then he's a minus all the way.
Thank goodness Zoya's aapi hear all this with her own ears. Zoya needs someone in her corner who can boost her up. The intriguing part is how she and Asad gets to that point tomorrow.
BTW didn't Zoya tell Asad she was afriad of fire? When she reacted to the fire in the garden and she ran away - so then how could he now pass that snide remark? Because it was Tanveer? Selective amnesia? 😕
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: realitybites

The cycle of insult/humiliation has been consistently repeated since the beginning. Asad has always been rude and mean towards her, always passing scathing remarks " aap badtameez hai"😕 He sounded more like that than her!😡 He has always blamed her, rebuked her and then later on said sorry? does that really negate everything? What about the hurt? Is it nice that Zoya keeps feeling hurt and treated like a doormat and continue to yearn for Asad's affection? Can a real woman do that?
Its high time Zoya stood up for herself. Nikaah or no Nikaah-her self worth is more than that. CVs better put an end to such regressive behavior. Every person has right of self respect. NO one is allowed to take that away.
Misrepresentation and lack of regard for feelings of woman has always been the trademark of hindi serials and unfortunately women viewers lap it up🤢🤢.
A loveless or conspired marriage is taken as exciting and worth watching for?😲😡 A confession must lay the foundation of trust and integrity between the couple rather than compromise or deceit. Its time for people to respect Marriages and not use them a game.

He said more than just badtameez...he said she doen't deserve a family, gud that her parents are not alive n wat not!!!🤢
Zoya is really behaving like a doormat now...why does she forgive him each time without even a proper apology???
Atleast I am not that kind of a woman who wud silently tolerate all this and forgive the person n start laughing, chatting with him the next moment...Its high time Zoya shows some self respect!! It has been more than enough now and my blood boils everytime he treats Zoya like that!!
"A loveless or conspired marriage is taken as exciting and worth watching for?😲😡 A confession must lay the foundation of trust and integrity between the couple rather than compromise or deceit. Its time for people to respect Marriages and not use them a game." - Loved these lines...so true!!

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