Blame Game: Epi May 7 - Page 3

Originally posted by: anushreemishra

Totally agree with whatever you said...even i want zoya to standup for herself this time and i don't want her to forgive asad so easily and ya a seperation track may be nyc...but after all this wen they do get back together i want to see asad starting to trust zoya otherwise we will be back to square one and there will be no progress in their relationship...

Originally posted by: bheegi

Blame Game: Epi May 7, 2013

Your vision will become clear when you look into your heart.

Who looks outside, dreams.

Who looks inside, awakens.

-Carl Jung (Psychologist)

"Global warming ke liye bhi aap mujhey hi blame karenge na Mr. Khan?" Zoya's sarcastic comment last week was not an off the cuff remark by Zoya. She has experienced it time and again. Since he has met her, Asad has never hesitated in pointing fingers at Zoya for anything that's gone wrong in his life.

After blaming Rashid Khan for the past 17 years, Zoya has now become his beloved punching bag.

Why? There is a simple answer to this question.

Because Zoya has forced a man

-who had vowed never to fall in love- to fall in love with her

-who had vowed to keep the locks around his heart fastened forever- to gradually unfasten each lock one by one

- who knew that one day he would marry a conservative and docile woman- to agree into marrying a liberal and headstrong woman

- who was used to controlling everything around him to fall in love-to gradually lose all control over everything in his life

-who prided himself about his principles and honesty- to lie and be dishonest

Of course it's Zoya's fault! What right did she have to walk into his life, captivate him forever, topple all his principles and then drive him insane whenever she has tried to walk out of his life?

Poor Asad. His life was really peachy right before Zoya entered his monotonous, boring, dull and predictable life. She had the audacity to make his life bright, chirpy, unpredictable and full of emotions he had never experienced before.

Of course, she has to take the blame for all of the above. So, this blood sample is just a drop in this ocean of blame game.

Asad is lucky to have a woman like Zoya in his life. Despite all his blame games, his taunts, his harassment, his slap, his below the belt remarks about her lack of understanding of relationships, she has always forgiven him and is in fact looking forward to a future with him. Hats off to the girl! Any other girl would have walked out by now. She had an out- when she was being deported, but because she is so hopelessly in love with this man, she turned around and ran back into his life with an expectation,"shayad ab aakhiri ho yeh sitam, har sitam yeh soch kar hum seh gaye'"

What's the solution Zoya?

Stick it out? Accept that one day, Asad will come around. One day, he will realize that he had been wrong all along. One day, he will learn to respect and trust you.

That's what she is doing right now. She has accepted Asad as her fate; she loves this home, she loves Dilshaad and Najma. They treat her like a princess and really want her to be a part of the family. An orphan, who has never had a home, and for the first time in her life feels that Asad's home is her home but does this give Asad the right to make her his favorite punching bag time and again?

Asad, a man who prides himself for valuing relationships is frankly acting like a hypocrite right now. Is he valuing the relationship that he has signed up for? Even though, he has been harping that this engagement is fake, he knows deep within that it's real and a deeper part of him wants it to be real.

Marriage is based on love, trust and respect. Is he ready to accept Zoya as his wife when he can't express his love and only express distrust and disrespect for her?

Does his loyalty to his childhood friend mean he can undermine the value of his relationship with his wife to be?

Asad has a long way to go before he is ready for the biggest relationship of his life.

The first step towards his readiness starts with trust. He needs to trust himself before he can learn to trust Zoya. He needs to trust that these feelings he has for Zoya are not wrong; they are real and the day he accepts his own feelings will be the day, he will accept Zoya whole heartedly.

I hate to say this, but at this point, I do want a physical separation between Asad and Zoya. I know they can never be apart emotionally but a physical separation would do wonders for their relationship.

I am sure, they will not break their engagement or enter into an alliance with another person but being apart from each other will make Asad (specially) realize that Zoya is his destiny and his destination. The more he fights with this reality, the more he will torture himself and Zoya. Asad and Zoya are a unit; so if one is tortured, the other can't remain at peace with themselves.

No mention of BR, Razia and Badi Bi- nothing new there. BR's chicken act will get her into trouble for sure. Allah ke darbar mein der hai, andher nahin hai

Great Post!

God I really wanted to hit Asad today! I agree he is taking out dormant anger that has nothing to do with a chicken or cat on her, but I am sick of it! These are definitely filler episodes with repetitive drama to marginally push the story backwards so that they can build it up again with Ayaan's entry.

Tomorrow when Zoe proves herself I want her to throw that gift and possibly that ring in his face and walk out. Enough is enough. She needs to leave...even if it will hurt her. You are right, Asad needs to lose Zoya to realize her worth.

Btw, what do you think is on that ipad? It can't be anything that implicates BR...can it? We aren't that lucky unfortunately!

Edit!

Dilshaad was great today. She will definitely be the thread that binds AsYa together. I really appreciated that she took Zoe's side over her son's . She clearly has understood Zoe better than anyone!

Were you shocked to know that Asad was in on the blood drawing plan? Like wth! Asad has lost vital grey matter...that's the only explanation for why he would think Zoe would purposely switch the blood to chicken's! Can he not think about who is to gain with the non-release of this report?

Originally posted by: neenabinu

lovely post bheegi

Me too dont want the marriage to be rushed...they have to learn to trust...

Originally posted by: friendsall

Sangeeta...well said!!! yes any other gal wu hv walked off!!!!

Tanu said it rite!!!! Trust hona chahiye!!!! Yes even i wan dem to overcum er inner turmoil first, b clear in wat dey want n accept each other whole heartedly!!!!

Lets see wats in d precap...looks promising!!!!! Hope dey don deceive us!!!! BUT Tanu s DAYS R NUMBERED!!!!!!!!!!! She has over played it!!!!

Originally posted by: s120

Beautiful write-up!

Today's episode was upsetting and disappointing. I agree with you, Asad has a long way to go before getting into a relationship as the most important thing, the foundation of any relationship is trust and understanding. Asad is miles away from it. Plus, he needs to control his temper. He is capable of making irrational decisions when angry and then later he repents. This is what is going to happen tomorrow as well. Don't know what proof Zoya is going to show but it certainly will help him see that she is not in any way responsible for what he blamed her of doing.

Hope he apologises properly to Zoya.

Tanveer's days are numbered hopefully. This blood test fiasco will give one more reason to Zoya to doubt Tanveer and she'll try to figure out things. Tanveer will definitely try something new as this time also her plan will fail. Though she managed to be successful today but tomorrow its going to be sorted out. So, her next plan of action could be an attempt on Zoya's life.

Originally posted by: Champa2012

See this is where I fail to understand female characters of these soaps. I am a feminist and I am proud of that. I am one of those who believe women are stronger than men mentally and that is why we can go through what we go through. But, at the same time, nobody should be blamed like Zoya has been for no mistake of hers. I am sure if she yells at him once and smacks him once and leaves, he will never ever insult her like this.
I remember him telling her to give up on searching for her dad and she had told that unless she knows her dad's point of view, she will assume he searched for her.
The same goes to Asad too. He never ever gives her a chance to explain. That is what drives me nuts. No QH tomorrow unless the written update shows something positive for Zoya. I know the precap but can't really go by that.

Hi Sangeeta, again very beautiful analysis, loved it to core..

Most of us I think understood where his anger came from and probably justifies it somehow. He is in fragile state of mind, with kabhi haan and kabhi na. But does he just look for reason to say naa to his heart? Every time his heart is winning over mind, he snaps with something like this..

I agree they need physical separation badly, maybe they are doing to justify whats coming next But by now whatever comes their way they will never love anyone else, they are meant to be together. Like Karan said, Zoya is meant for Asad only. Now that was definite answer, with change of synopsis..

Hey Bheegi!! I agree with you that the killing of the chicken was probably symbolism of what tanveer may try to do to zoya!!

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Originally posted by: merrydock

very well said, Asad's world has turned upside down, and Zoya it to be blamed. Asad doesnt want to accept that Zoya matters to him, she has slowly become his world, and the thought of loosing her sends him running like a mainac to either stop her for leaving or to safe her life. and now everthing is closing on him too fast, he doesnt know what to do, so blaming Zoya for something as trival putting chicken blood in a test tube doesnt even strike him is completely odd. even as a joke.

i can only say one thing Mr. Asad Amhad Khan brain has gone on holiday. becaues it cant handle the stress of how to tell Ms Zoya Farooki that he is madly, completely, irrevocably in love with her.

exactly!

i hope Zoya give him the proof that billo exchanged the blood and huffs out of his room, goes for a very very long drive for like 7 to 8 hrs. better idea she should go to the nearst multiplex, watch bombay talkies, and shootout at wadhla back to back. eate pizza at her favriot joint.

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let Akkdu Ahamad Khan pace a hole in his floor worring about her,

then Zoya should come home and go straight to bed without giving him a chance to appologise.

then she should do the same thing the next day as well. dissaspear for hours with him having no idea where she is.

this will get him to say that she should tell him where she is going as she is his fiance. at least he will accept that she is his fiance for real. and not pertend.

love that idea...except that Dilshaad and Najma will also accompany her as she is the would be bahu of the house😆

loved your comments😃

Originally posted by: kaussar

Yea even i would like to see them get married after they are completely ready.. but then Dilshad's challenge means that may be Cvs are going to let it happen before that.. even then i am ok with it as long as the show that proper development of their feelings even after marriage.. It should not happen suddenly.😃