Things done in a Muslim Wedding Ceremony - Page 4

thanks so much for the info!!didn't know anything about muslim weddings :)

Thank you so much for explaining for all of us who don't really know abt all these rituals

thank u so much..

This was very informative. Although I have many Muslim friends I have never attended a complete Muslim wedding so far, so was clueless about the rituals. Thanks for this thread.

Actually most of this stuff mentioned by the TM is unimportant.

Muslim weddings no matter what have to include nikkah in which a bride and groom exchange vows with 3 witnesses on each side. An Imam conducts the nikkah and the bride says I do three times and then it goes to the groom who says I do three times (in our language Qubool Hai thrice) - think of this as somewhat like a Christian wedding, vows, priest, I dos. The Imam also announces the haq meher agreed by the groom for the bride (this is the bride's money she may do as she pleases with it, no one else has any right over this amount including her husband). Then they make a dua.
I believe rukhsati comes next, happens after the nikkah where the bride's family gives their daughter to the groom's family.

Next most important thing is the Valima, which is a dinner/gathering/party conducted by the groom's side after the nikkah. This is also obligatory according to Islam.

The rest of the things mentioned in the post by the TM are all cultural traditions of India, Pakistan, etc. which are generally not related to the religion of Islam.

not 3 witnesses on each side
but
2 witnesses only (any sides)

Originally posted by: Asya6

T4s! I have seen all my cousins get married but I've never heard of Jashn-e-saugat. We don't have mehers as well.

Originally posted by: snow007

not 3 witnesses on each side
but
2 witnesses only (any sides)

Ah yes my mistake, thank-you for correcting me. Specifically the norm is 2 male witnesses or 1 male and 2 female witnesses. Usually, the bride's guardian becomes one witness. This is as far as I know.

Originally posted by: canuck-umz

Actually most of this stuff mentioned by the TM is unimportant.

Muslim weddings no matter what have to include nikkah in which a bride and groom exchange vows with 3 witnesses on each side. An Imam conducts the nikkah and the bride says I do three times and then it goes to the groom who says I do three times (in our language Qubool Hai thrice) - think of this as somewhat like a Christian wedding, vows, priest, I dos. The Imam also announces the haq meher agreed by the groom for the bride (this is the bride's money she may do as she pleases with it, no one else has any right over this amount including her husband). Then they make a dua.
I believe rukhsati comes next, happens after the nikkah where the bride's family gives their daughter to the groom's family.

Next most important thing is the Valima, which is a dinner/gathering/party conducted by the groom's side after the nikkah. This is also obligatory according to Islam.

The rest of the things mentioned in the post by the TM are all cultural traditions of India, Pakistan, etc. which are generally not related to the religion of Islam.

Originally posted by: ayesha_80

The most comprehensive reply on the topic. A Muslim wedding has these three main things...Nikah, Rukhsati and Valima. Valima is Sunnah...and like you said, its a reception kinda event given by the groom's side.

These mehndi n baraat functions are more like cultural adaptations...and have now become extensive...but they have NOTHING to do with the religion.

Also, things like 'juta chupai' and 'doodh pilayi' etc...they also fall in the adaptations category.

The 'jashn-e-saughat' rasam...i've heard of it for the first time. Maybe, it is done in India. In Pakistan...there is no such rasam yet. 😳

Hopefully everyone is able to read Snow007's and my followup correcting my mistake about the witnesses. I do not want anyone to be misinformed about that. Your summary cleared up the rest lol I suck at summarizing 😆