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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: jane_doe


Thanks for sharing your personal experience. This makes the picture even more clear. I can understand the reason. In India you kind of marry the whole family. Generally speaking the two wives are not going to be the best of friends and there are going to issues from everything from property to family business, etc.



yeah.. QH is doing great job to showing many social things specially in modern muslim family in india .. :)


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Posted: 12 years ago
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I am not muslim. But do have muslim friends. Even though it might have been allowed in their religion and legal, it is unusual to see a family with two wives or a divorce. At least, I never witnessed it. Generally it is one woman for life irrespective of religion (even Christians). But I am only speaking about middle class.
With high profile people, everything is valid. (That includes Hindus as well as Muslims).
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Posted: 12 years ago
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the thing i dont get is if rashid divorced dishaad then why asad is saying that he is with ayaan in childhood making him walk n all n how is najma younger than ayaan n nikhat if that is the case,these two things are eating my brain away...lol
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Quite a few people have given adequate answers but there are a few things that must be corrected so...

In Islam a man is allowed to have four wives with whom he has to be utterly and completely just and give equality in terms of finance, lodging and time. there can be no compromise regarding this because that would then be a grave sin. The man need not take the permission of his other wives as per the rules set by Islam but some countries have adopted this law seeking to protect the rights of women because mostly men these days would not give the previous wives their due right.
However, the right law would have been to empower the women to be able to go ask the government to intervene on her behalf and get her the rights she deserves. Sadly, the huge and small democratic governments, all have failed miserably to provide basic rights and protection to its citizens. oppressors prosper! Keep the recent Delhi gang rape case in mind, as in how in the middle of the city on a moving bus the crime was committed with the oppressors having no qualms about carrying out the heinous crime. We must think of what gave them that confidence that they could do that and throw the two battered people on road and go away and go on with their lives normally!

Also, the reason behind second marriage need not be infertility, it may just be liking some other person as well. If the man is happy with his wife that way he will continue to live happily. I know this will be hard to understand but it is this way. This is one of the things that sparks off huge debates but for that people need to see it with the perspective of a how Allah (SWT) has created us with the purpose defined. I am just stating it here to correct the info given, however, no amount of debate will clarify it :) for we all have our own mindsets on lives, the way we see it. So peace :) Also keep in mind that it is allowed and not obligatory. A right kind of Muslim will think a hundred times before doing it because the consequences of not fulfilling the conditions are too severe. Peace :)❤️
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Posted: 12 years ago
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rashid may not have divorced dilshad becoz in muslim community t divorce is a sin .he just left dilshad and continued his life with shireen.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: farha15

rashid may not have divorced dilshad becoz in muslim community t divorce is a sin .he just left dilshad and continued his life with shireen.


Divorce is not a sin! it is completely allowed. Women are allowed to even demand for annulment if they are not happy in their married life. The problem is the society we live in now days that looks down upon divorcees. They even look down upon remarrying after one gets divorced or widowed, however, it is completely allowed in fact recommended highly!

Of course Divorce is not highly recommended but some one giving it or asking for it for valid reasons has all the right to do so and cannot be looked down upon.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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In short, nope. It is not socially acceptable. Rather, it is a stigma. My educated guess is that a man who indulges in this is most likely to feel like an outcast (which is why when they do it, they do it on the down low) unless he's wealthy..coz like most things in life, money talks.


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