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Kittya Cullen

@Kittya_Cullen

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Posted: 13 years ago

#11

Originally posted by: srirad
Mind blowing post..👏
wonderfully written about symbols and vows of marriage..Awesome research..Really informative👍🏼

Thank you😳

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-AarYaholic-

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Posted: 13 years ago

#12

KNOW ji...You should be relieved that you haven't attracted any controversy, to start with 👍🏼

This is another great post ji..after whatever you said on the Pallu issue...I agree agree and agree with every word!

I AM A HINDU AND AM READY TO FACE THE WRATH IF ANYONE DISAGREES!

It is still an unanswered question, why aren't Hindu males supposed to carry any sign of their married status? Why are women bound by these customs!

Why have kaki and such similar women become guardians of this regressive tradition, I hated the way she defended Prashant's actions last night!

These "objects" promise happiness and joy? Then why do women who are unhappy with their married lives still exist and if they do exist, is this society ready to grant them another chance at living?

Enough has been said and nothing has been done so far...I am happy that you've come up with this post...

I am also happy that members DO come up with such posts here :)

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-AarYaholic-

@-AarYaholic-

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Posted: 13 years ago

#13

About the seven vows...They seem to good to read and watch in/on a movie/show, but does anyone practice them wholeheartedly today?

KNOW ji..I wish I could Spam this thread 😆

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Kittya Cullen

@Kittya_Cullen

Dazzler

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Posted: 13 years ago

#14

Originally posted by: Frozen007
KNOW ji...You should be relieved that you haven't attracted any controversy, to start with 👍🏼 That was my first fear with this post, however I decided to hickory with that. Why should I not ask questions and try to understand what could possibly ake Kaki think that all of this is right? So I asked, and in some parts I answered myself.

This is another great post ji..after whatever you said on the Pallu issue...I agree agree and agree with every word!

I AM A HINDU AND AM READY TO FACE THE WRATH IF ANYONE DISAGREES!

It is still an unanswered question, why aren't Hindu males supposed to carry any sign of their married status? Why are women bound by these customs!
Why have kaki and such similar women become guardians of this regressive tradition, I hated the way she defended Prashant's actions last night!Believe me Laku, when I got the translation of what that woman said, I was so frustrated with her point of view. How could she not see that her words have no moral nor humane standpoint? And was she serious? Aarti was supposed to sit around and wait the rest of her life for a man who had abandoned her, disowned their unborn child, and taken up in MARRIAGE with another woman? I guess Aarti should be happy that as orphan atleast she got position as the first wife😡

These "objects" promise happiness and joy? Then why do women who are unhappy with their married lives still exist and if they do exist, is this society ready to grant them another chance at living? Exactly! These symbols are only meaningful when they are upheld in their complete value by both parties in the marriage, and if one person is not living up to the role, then the spouse who has been unfairly treated has the right to find a way out after all efforts at reconciliation have been made. Though, if your husband leaves you I really don't see what sort of reconciliation one can expect.😡

Enough has been said and nothing has been done so far...I am happy that you've come up with this post...

I am also happy that members DO come up with such posts here :) Thanks for stopping in Laku beta. I love the fact that the PV forum is one of the most constantly thinking forums which is not only spent debating tv love.

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Kittya Cullen

@Kittya_Cullen

Dazzler

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Posted: 13 years ago

#15

Originally posted by: Frozen007
About the seven vows...They seem to good to read and watch in/on a movie/show, but does anyone practice them wholeheartedly today?
KNOW ji..I wish I could Spam this thread 😆

Beta, are any vows made in today's world held up wholeheartedly?😆

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-AarYaholic-

@-AarYaholic-

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Posted: 13 years ago

#16

Believe me Laku, when I got the translation of what that woman said, I was so frustrated with her point of view. How could she not see that her words have no moral nor humane standpoint? And was she serious? Aarti was supposed to sit around and wait the rest of her life for a man who had abandoned her, disowned their unborn child, and taken up in MARRIAGE with another woman? I guess Aarti should be happy that as orphan atleast she got position as the first wife😡

I wish I could laugh out the way we deride Bua, but this woman is making it difficult...she does make you smile at times but her words are no less than thorns..

May her views on remarriage change!

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Aditi

@NxtRockstar..

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Posted: 13 years ago

#17

Amazing post dear!👏

I bow your for this research and then interpretation of it. You have just put all this in best manner. I think this can't be better. 👏

I am glad that your brought up this issue. Kudos to you for this.👏

What you mentioned above, explained everything. Why women status in society is weak today? Why we women are taken as commodity? Why our dreams and desires must align with the men in our lives? Why a woman is supposed to be "taker" of whatever she is being offered??

All these questions find answers in "all these norm plants here!"

A woman is defined by all this because she is given a norm lists to follow. Apart from these norms, she is not allowed to be anything or something. Let it be a illiterate woman or a modern one, after a certain level of Independence, ends up in these norms.

Her dreams and desires are always asked to be in alignment of what you mentioned. All these symbols of married lady, narrows her space to breath in.

A man is allowed to search his skies with support of his wife and a woman is supposed to help his husband in every way. Where is her sky? When a husband conquers, troubles, betrays, struggles, breaks and looses, "our" word is there to allocate the happiness, burden, sorrow, frustration and so on between them. But wife is supposed to take all this alone when her life shows all these colors. She timely being accused and warned to stay away from "discovering her self".

All those vows which you mentioned. I just noticed something. Man says "we" and woman says "I". why such an expectation!! Man fails everyday in performing "we" part and woman daily lives that "we" plus "I" part both. She handles everything being on forefront and man are complimented for a beautiful family. Of course exceptions are there. 😳

In case of divorces, women are advised to sustain the relationship to the ugliest extent, because she has to adjust and gulp the bitter to the last extent until and unless she breaks down or man himself asks for a divorce. Relationship or marriage was for happiness and companionship of both then why she is not allowed to decide for her happiness or to evaluate that if she wants to sustain a fail relation. Man's mistakes and blunders are forced over woman. She is forced to tolerate all this and if she agitates, she is tagged as "bad wife".

She has all the rights to decide for her life and happiness. A girl who might be "amazing and progressing human" before marriage, ends up as puppet of others. And wires of this puppet is mostly handled by "women". What a shame!

After demise of husband, all the colors are retrenched from a lady. why??!! She is the same human. She is grieved not dead. She is in pain not painless. She has same heart which should be entitled with even more colors to start a life all over again. She should be given hopes and love instead of loneliness and white.

Apart from topic. I want to add up something.

Today women are considered as "a class" for whom norms, storms and forms, all these are prescribed and taken as same.

I seriously get mad when someone just consider me weak because I am woman! Similarly after a good presentation or interview when interviewer tells me "You were good and "beautiful" or "cute" or any other compliment which has nothing to do with my skills. A woman is too a human who possess skills, talents and recognition. Don't judge or stop her from being happy just because she is a woman! Don't show me chivalry because I am a female. That's how society distinguish me from males. That's how line and gap arises. The day, human will be treated as humans, I think females can see a clear sky.

There is a serious need to break the narrow mindsets and these one-sided norms. These stupid norms took ages to get strength, I don't know, removal of them, will cost how many ages and lives!!😳

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smiley20

@smiley20

Voyager

Posted: 13 years ago

#18

awesome post just love it👏

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Shamika

@KS1000

Voyager

Posted: 13 years ago

#19

100% agree dear i don't why people cann't get it after all women also a human they also feel the world like others if they are not happy with their marriage why they cann't get their own decision to keep their life happy. We cann't live in our one mistake for a whole life time we must have a chance to move. Great work dear love it to the core,👏

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Kittya Cullen

@Kittya_Cullen

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Posted: 13 years ago

#20

Originally posted by: Frozen007
Believe me Laku, when I got the translation of what that woman said, I was so frustrated with her point of view. How could she not see that her words have no moral nor humane standpoint? And was she serious? Aarti was supposed to sit around and wait the rest of her life for a man who had abandoned her, disowned their unborn child, and taken up in MARRIAGE with another woman? I guess Aarti should be happy that as orphan atleast she got position as the first wife😡

I wish I could laugh out the way we deride Bua, but this woman is making it difficult...she does make you smile at times but her words are no less than thorns..

May her views on remarriage change!

I think knowing that Bhua is a widow makes it easier for us to forgive her and laugh it all off, because she is simply acting out of her own bitterness and desires. However, Kaki is married, and apparently thinks that life begins and end with marriage for a woman.

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