Today's episode was no filler. It is hard to portray on screen the inner turmoil that a person faces – particularly if the person's angst is not directed outwards (e.g. Yash) but inwards (e.g. Aarti). Some directors use soliloquy and others expressions. And here we have Aarti expressing her angst with her facial expressions, her body language and demeanor, and her manner of speech. Her fumbling motor reactions were viewable to all and her tone and speech were that of one with a heavy heart. Her abruptness with PayPal, her tone with Bua, Yash, Shobha and Ansh - all conveyed her inner torment.
The torment was about the decision she had taken – that is take Ansh for the BMT operation without disclosing her divorcee status and all of the P related issues. What Aarti realized and depicted superbly today was that the world can be a nasty place at times, especially when you fall into manipulative traps set by the people who purportedly love you. It leaves you with a feeling of being used by someone for selfish interests (something akin to rape). Manipulative techniques are designed to mess up your mind and make you do things according to the manipulator's will and against your better instincts and survival. Aarti knows what she is doing, however she is doing it extremely reluctantly not willingly. Her reluctance was apparent by the fact that she did not prep Ansh – for the Dupeys had gone ahead with all BMT preparations without her knowledge and consent. Her bringing Ansh was because of giving in to their blackmail and not as a consenting parent. This is by far the most dangerous situation for Aarti from the perspective of being a mother, a wife, and a DIL. So my dears right now Aarti is certainly a victim of emotional abuse.
Her relationship with the Dupeys was never healthy. Because of her need for love, approval, and security she adapted to their pathological family environment – it was never to her betterment. Today we saw the symptoms, or the final stages of Aarti's emotional malfunction, as a result of associating with the Dupeys. Emotional abuse puts dangerous scars internally that can completely deconstruct an individual's entire sense of being. It is very hard to get back to who you are after this, and in fact, in some ways you will NEVER be exactly the same. Friends we are seeing Aarti hit rock bottom – something akin to what we saw in Yash. However, I do not know how deep the abyss is before Yash steps in and helps her on her upward journey – so we have to wait and watch what the CVs have in store for us.
The worst part about emotional blackmail is that the victim (read Aarti) doesn't even realize she is being victimized due to being caught up in the situation she is unable to assess the situation from a more neutral standpoint. We all know that when you are an insider – it is difficult to be objective. You are habituated/adapted to the situation. You need someone from the outside, to help you see the truth even though you know deep down that something is wrong. For Aarti, Yash will be the person to pull her through her emotional trauma. As for the relationship between Aarti and Shobha – it has suffered a deep fissure. Aarti's sentence –"Apne bete ko bacha lo (save your son)" to Shobha conveyed it all!
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