!! DOTW - Love Marriages Against Arranged !! - Page 3

Originally posted by: DMKJ_VB

Shubhi- brilliant write up!👏

Double thanks Riz 🤗

According to me, both have their respective pros and cons. While, it can be argued that a love marriage creates a stronger bond between the husband and wife, because their union is sanctified by their love, arranged marriages may be equally effective if the partners involved manage to build a good mutual understanding. Lovers are supposed to have this understanding even before their wedding. However, how often do we do what we are supposed to?

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The belief that love marriages are more scientific than arranged is a Myth! There is no better or worse. I have seen love turning into war soon after the wedding. You might think you know the person u love in and out, but unless u start living with him in the same house, its often impossible to know all aspects of his nature. This might not seem dangerous at first, but just imagine - what if u get to know certain facets about your partner which in your wildest dreams you never thought would be true! I say this on the basis of some personal experience.

Oh yes! I absolutely agree. I too have seen the two sides of love marriage. In fact my papa's best friends' sons , both had love marriages. One was absolutely rocking one & the other turned out to be a disaster .

Arranged marriages come with their share of burden. Its true, there is a lot more fear associated with them. If love marriages can become unsuccessful, what guarantee is there in relationships, made , not by means of mutual love or affection, but by family negotiations, and some faith in one's own fate ?

@bold : loved it 👏

I am sorry, if i sound too bitter, but this is the reality that I see around me. But does that mean I am against marriages? definitely not! There are so may couples who are in extremely joyous unions. Basically,I don't think there can actually be any general opinion about the positive and negative aspects of any type of marriage. Most of the time, it depends on the people involved, their values, their maturity, and their morality!

Yes! Absolutely. Morality & values can bring out the best in one. Even a fickle start can lead to the most harmonious courtship!

So,I am hoping that all of us who will probably get married some time in future, are able to strike a positive and happy chord in their married lives, no matter whether its love marriage or arranged.

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Originally posted by: Amanda_18

Nice Discussion Thread Shubhi...😉

Thanks Buddy! 🤗

Well...,My Point Of View.., I am living in quite a modern place...,And all marriage is basically love marriage...,,one hardly gets into arranged marriage...

In every single aspect a love marriage and an arranged marriage differs

A love marriage, its about simply knowing the one you are going to spend the rest of your life with.. Its about being with someone who you are comfortable with...,Its about loving someone and getting back the same amount of love...,

But on a serious note..., After watching Punar Vivah...,i am actually left to wonder..😕...,One can get all of those things...,and feel secure but after marriage things tend to change...like what prashant did to aarti...

With an arranged marriage..., There is actually expectation from all round...

Responsibilities that can not be ignored..., There is so much that must be followed with out saying anything..., But slowly one tends to get use to all that... Which is nice, atleast you can assure yourself everyone appreciates you and won't betray you so easily.

So Should it be love before marriage or love after marriage...???

What ever it is...,

Whoever you are suppose to be with you will be with them only..., Those are relationships that last for a lifetime.

It doesn't matter what type of marriage you have.😉

~Mandie~

Originally posted by: ..Sadiie..

I'd Choose None -- Cuz I Don't Believe In MarriageHowever,There's Advantages In a Love Marriage As well as Disadvantages.

Same goes to Arranged Marriages.But it's better to let the individuals choose for themselves.. Love Marriage or no Love Marriage; life goes on 😃Yeah Something like that..😆

Sadiie x

Originally posted by: gcpvian

I totally don believe marriage/ relationship is permanent ...nor it remains d same over d tym...
Good example is Telugu film orange wer hero falls in love fr 10 tym n he believes love doesn't remain d same n it
Interest / attention decreases...wid tym partners starts to lie to save der relationship. So ULTIMATELY
love/arranged marriage nothing lasts fr evr.

Originally posted by: jyoti06

Very interesting post Shubhi 👏👏👏

I think both Arranged as well as love marriage hv its advantages as well as disadvantages ... In Arranged marriage one might find a good life partner because our parent's choice hardly go wrong but majority faces other issues like dowry and harassment in sasural whereas in love marriage one might not face the issues like dowry or harassment in sasural because u marry only after knowing the guy and his family well but the guy might not turn out to b a ideal husband because many times in young age ,one might make a wrong choice while selecting a lifepartner of their own choice ...

So from my own experience I feel its always important that you make a choice of your own when it comes to marriage but make sure that choice is given the approval of your parents as well ..So for me a Love marriage which is arranged by parents from both sides works well 😆😳

Originally posted by: shubhika124

Lots of respect to your POV 😳

But choosing none won't be a solution 😆 You are playing against the nature 🤣

Originally posted by: yipee

Lovely topic and def a one which is often discussed with friends and family...

Well, I would actually say both because as per me once two people get married, that is when the actual journey begins and whether love or arranged, living happily together as husband wife is something which depends on the compability and sensibility of the two individuals and the love and respect they develop for each other with time. The situation before the marriage (i.e. whether they had an affair or it was arranged by parents) only to an extent detemines the course of their journey but does NOT determine the success of a marriage and how happy or not it is...

I know cases of both love and arranged marriage which have worked and those that have not worked...So I dont think it really matters , what matters only is that the key people involved are happy about it and most importantly the decision of whether to go ahead with the marriage or not is of the individuals getting married more than anyone else...Also, there is a bit of luck involved always because you never know what is in store for you whatever the nature of the marriage is...Even in love marriage, you may say you know the person but trust me as they say sometimes even an eternity is not enough to know all the sides of a person...

On a personal level, I myself have had a love marriage because that is what I was comfortable with...But I do believe in both love and arranged marriages due to the above mentioned reasons...